Thursday, December 31, 2015

2015 Year in Review Pictures

My year in review (sorta) pictures


January was cold. That is all. LOL


My first "little man" godson, LaKell turned 18. He's a freshman at Clemson now. Where did the time go?

On the set for a Dead End Sports shoot. Dead End Sports got BIGGER in 2015. I'm proud of that!


Drinks! Why not?

Sherice got a little older. hehehe


Cold chillin after the comedy show. I laughed SO hard that night! Great times with our friends


Skyler playing the piano at Grandpa's house

Crushing it at the Sundresses and Searsuckers event here in Atlanta with my partner in crime, Moe. Incredible weekend

Skyler's first dance recital. She's joined by her brothers...Kameron, Deion, and Brandon


My Atlanta Hawks make it to the Eastern Conference Finals in the NBA Playoffs


It's the 4th and Skyler is helping me with the hamburgers and hot dogs

It was sooooooo hot that day. Damn! Just thinking about it makes me sweat!

The annual crew golf outing. It had to be at least 105. My game sucked. But we had a ball


Deion turns 16 and Kameron turns 13. We had their birthday parties at our separate times that day. I loved it




First day of school for the kids!


Although my SC State crew came together for the homegoing service for my boy Bobby's dad...we had a great time together. Even in the most somber can still laugh

Skyler said "let's take some silly pictures." So...we did

Skyler turned 4! Can't believe my princess is growing up


Deion made the marching band at his school. He took a second to break away to pose with his baby sister


SC State's Homecoming! We had the chance to take Deion with us so that he could see what our school was like. Phenomenal weekend

Sherice, Deion, and me

Big smiles from Deion, me, and my college coach...Willie Jeffries


I turned 43...and became the coolest and illest 43 year old that you know

Brandon turned 9 the day after me

Skyler enjoyed the 80 degree weather on Christmas Day

2015 was a year that had it's ups and downs...highs and lows. Ultimately, it was a great year...because we ALL got to see it. And that is more than enough to be thankful for!!!

May 2016 be filled with blessings and prosperity for you and yours!!!

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

PODCAST : the last time that I got drunk

Do you remember the LAST time that you got drunk? 

Did you do something crazy or stupid? 

Did you get sick? 

Did you embarrass yourself? 

Do you even REMEMBER what happened???

Do you know what happens when you mix lifelong friends, liquor, a bachelor party, strippers, food, and a wedding together??? Shenanigans!!! Listen to this podcast and get my comical version about the last time that I got drunk! Let me know what you think. Also, share your story about the last time that you got drunk.

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Tuesday, December 22, 2015

12kyle does Proust...

I came across this questionnaire from my homegirl, The Skinny Black Girl.  I decided to steal borrow it.

The Proust Questionnaire is a questionnaire about one’s personality. Its name and modern popularity as a form of interview is owed to the responses given by the French writer Marcel Proust.

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Standing on a grass field and tossing a football with my sons. The simplistic aspect of playing catch with your sons is priceless. 

2. What is your greatest fear? My biggest fear is for something to happen to one of my kids. I would never want to see them hurt or in any danger. 

3. What is the trait you most deplore in y
ourself? I'm a perfectionist at times. I'm extremely hard on myself so I want things to be perfect when I know that most things CAN'T be perfect. It's the gift and the curse

4. What is the trait you most deplore in others? Liars. I really can't stand to be around people who can't tell the truth

5. Which living person do you most admire?
My parents

6. What is your greatest extravagance?

7. What is your current state of mind?
Progressive. I'm always thinking ahead. Sometimes I'm so focused on what's ahead that I don't enjoy the moment

8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Beauty. They weren't lying when they said it was only skin deep. I know a lot of people who are beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside.

9. On what occasion do you lie? Anytime I start a sentence with..."Back in my day..." Nah...just kidding. I don't lie

10. What do you most dislike about your appearance?
Those pesky little gray hairs. It seems like I will get rid of one of them and then 3 more will show up. *sigh*

11. Which living person do you most despise?
There's no one person that I despise. I don't put that much effort into people...especially ones that I don't like. 

12. What is the quality you most like in a man?
Loyalty is a character trait that must be present in a man. I can respect a man that is loyal to his fellow man. Men tend to bond based on levels of loyalty. 

13. What is the quality you most like in a woman?
A woman with drive. There's nothing more sexier and impressive. Who wants a lazy woman? 

14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse? "Are you kidding me??" -- I use this too much but it's only when I'm watching sports and trying NOT to cuss in front of the kids

15. What or who is the greatest love of your life?
My kids. They are my heartbeat

16. When and where were you happiest?
Freshman year in college. I don't think you could be THAT broke and have THAT much fun! They say that you learn more between birth and the age of 6 than you learn your life. Well, I think I learned more that year...being on my own and away from home...than I've learned at any other time in my life. 

17. Which talent would you most like to have?
I wish that I could play the piano. I'd be dope. What's cooler than a dude playing the piano? Nothing.

The entire questionnaire is thirty-five questions. I’ll post 18 – 35 later this week.

Saturday, December 19, 2015

PODCAST : ask 12kyle...

Sometimes when you have a burning question…you need to ask someone who will tell you what you NEED to hear…not what you WANT to hear. It’s good to seek the advice of someone who knows what they are talking about and will be impartial in their response.

That’s what host 12kyle does on this edition of The 12kyle Podcast. A few months ago, we gave our readers a chance to open up to us about any problems or issues that they were having and we would address them on the podcast. On this edition, 12kyle fields a wide range of questions from choosing a major in college, dating and relationship problems, giving money to a church…and MUCH MORE! Listen to the podcast and let us know what you think. 

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Saturday, December 12, 2015

PODCAST : You're too Old..

PODCAST : You're too Old...

Have you ever stopped and realized that you're TOO OLD to do certain things? Age is a part of the growth process. Then...reality kicks in! Check out the latest episode from The 12kyle Podcast as I comically takes a look at things that I am TOO OLD for.

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Friday, November 20, 2015

PODCAST : I Think I Need Some Space

PODCAST : I Think I Need Some Space

Have you ever had a mate utter these words to you?

Have you ever said it to someone else?

Is "space" necessary in a relationship?

Listen to the latest podcast as I address this topic and share a few stories about how I got "space" from someone. 

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Monday, November 9, 2015

Beautillion Scholar (update)

Greetings family and friends.

My name is Deion Dowling, son of Kyle and Sherice Dowling. I have been selected to participate in the 2015-16 Cotillion~Beautillion, sponsored by the Gwinnett County Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and the Fortitude Foundation, Inc.
I am a junior attending Arabia Mountain High School in Lithonia, Georgia.

I need your help. My goal is raise $3,000 by March 1st, 2016. The money that is raised is going towards a potential scholarship presented to me if the goal is met and an even bigger scholarship if the goal is exceeded. Please visit the LINK BELOW and share it with your family and friends. Donate as much as you can.

I appreciate all donations in advance.

Thank you for your support and wish me luck.

Monday, October 26, 2015

off tha dome

random thoughts...

who is President Obama's barber? I mean...the prez always has a fresh cut. you can't have a busted head when you're the leader of the free world. I would imagine he gets his haircut every other day

cheap hand sanitizer will make your hands ashy

have you ever noticed that the Tambourine lady at your church is almost NEVER on beat...but nobody says anything to her about it

my girlfriend is back!

i'm not sure how people drink coffee past 10am

Groove Theory was so dope. They should come back with another album

it ain't about what you're's about what you can negotiate

major props to Viola Davis for winning an Emmy. I'll be honest, prior to watching her on How To Get Away With Murder (one of my favorite tv shows), I had never heard of her. But I love watching her. Incredibly talented and beautiful.

I've never had a weak shoe game...never

not sure how I feel about McDonald's serving breakfast all day...

why do people get in the "10 Items or Less" line at the grocery store...with 20 items in their cart?

i had to remind my sons that these silly dances that they do will mean they will be the generation of boys who don't know how to dance with girls...

ever notice how when you're in a store and you NEED help finding something...there's never anybody around

there will NEVER be somebody this cool in the White House. Never!

the best hour on tv? The Blacklist.

i've been successful at almost everything i've tried in my life...except growing a beard. but after a month and a's looking good

when you're waiting at a traffic light, there's always somebody who you have to blow your horn at...because they are looking at their phone.

don't get it twisted...Rick Pitino knew his players were getting strippers and hookers

sometimes...i'm the dude that you have to blow your horn at while sitting at that traffic light

Sherice and I hit our 15 yr anniversary (Sept 23rd). that's pretty impressive...if i do say so myself.

there should really be a third day added to the weekend

a year ago, the prospective front runners for the Republican ticket were Chris Christy and Jeb Bush. let that marinate for a second

now the front runners are Donald Trump and Ben Carson. somewhere...Mitt Romney is pissed off. he could have beaten all of these clowns. lol

favorite pizza spot here in Atlanta...Felini's. if you're ever here...get yourself some

i updated my phone to the iOS 9.1...can't say I noticed any differences

saw a car with spinning rims on it the other day. i didn't know they still did that

Skyler just turned 4 a few weeks ago. and i'm beginning to realize how funny she is. she cracks me up each day. you know where she got her sense of humor from...

i need a piano

the NBA is back. i think LeBron and his crew wins the title this year. but i wouldn't bet against Steph Curry and the Warriors

the summer came and went...and i didn't make it to NYC. i'm not happy about that

i remember when i was in college, i would schedule my classes around the Young and the Restless. nowadays, you couldn't pay me to watch it.

it's jeans, hoodies, and Timbs weather

i couldn't find the remote control the other day to turn my tv on. so, i walked around for 10 mins looking for it. i didn't turn the tv on until i found it.

i'm making some major changes to the 12 Radio Show. stay tuned

all i need is a new album from the Roots and NaS and i'll be happy

my crew cracks me up every day. i really think they would still treat me the same if i won a 300M lottery tomorrow.

this is my 900th post. wow. i've had this blog since 2007. i'd be lying if i told you i thought i'd have it this long. but this is my baby. long before there was a 12 Radio Show. long before i was a host on Dead End Sports. long before some came to know me as 12kyle...there was the 12th Planet. this is my outlet. more people read now more than ever. i really don't care about that. i write for me. just glad and thankful that y'all read and rock to what i write. i appreciate the love.

Sunday, October 11, 2015

gays in church

It's rare for me to go downtown on Saturdays. There is always so much happening out in the 'burbs where I live during the fall that I don't get downtown as much as I used to. When I do, I enjoy downtown Atlanta because I think it's beautiful. I've been living here since ' 97 so this is my home. I love my city.

Yesterday, I had a chance to get downtown to run some errands. As I was sliding down Peachtree Street, I came to a red light. To my left, I noticed the North Avenue Presbyterian Church. I've seen the church thousands of times. You can't miss it because it sits on the corner and is 2 blocks down from the famous, Fox Theater.

What caught my eye wasn't the was the rainbow flags draped on the outside of the church. The sign in front of the church said "

I thought Gay Pride Weekend was Labor Day it is every year. But someone later told me that the Labor Day weekend was
BLACK Gay Pride Weekend. I didn't know there was a separate one...but I digress.

Nonetheless, when I saw the flags...I paused for a second. Then I said..."Interesting" out loud to myself while sitting alone in the car. I found it interesting because when you mention the word gay in church...people have a HUGE problem with it. Some "sanctified church folks" will tell you that the LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) community has no business in the church because of their "sinful actions".

Welp. Aren't we all sinners? I thought the church was a place where you could "come as you are because all of God's kids are welcome." Maybe it's just me. If they aren't welcomed in church...where are they welcomed???

People have strong opinions about this. Who am I to tell you if they are right or wrong?

I find it all interesting. And it's definitely something to talk about...

Friday, October 9, 2015

PODCAST : 12 vs 27

True friendships are rare.

Friends that become brothers are even more rare

How did two young men meet in college on a football field and become brothers?

Two young men who grew up just 9 miles apart for more than 13 yrs but didn’t know each other until they met at South Carolina State University.

Listen to their story as they talk about various topics spanning from…attending South Carolina State, playing football, being a student athlete, music, college life, playing practical jokes on each other and various topics.

Be prepared to be entertained and be prepared to laugh as they share stories that will crack you up.

co-hosted by Moe

we present to you...

12 vs 27


Wednesday, October 7, 2015

12 vs 27 (show preview)

True friendships are rare.

Friends that become brothers are even more rare

How did two young men meet in college on a football field and become brothers? 

Two young men who grew up just 9 miles apart for more than 13 yrs but didn’t know each other until they met at South Carolina State University.

Listen to their story as they talk about various topics spanning from…attending South Carolina State, football, being a student athlete, music, life, and various topics. 

Be prepared to be entertained and be prepared to laugh as they share stories that will crack you up. 

Check out the 12 Radio Show tonight!!

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Co-hosted by SloMoetion

Monday, October 5, 2015

how to get more done at WORK

here's another article that should help you dedicated workers LOL...

Ever have those workdays when you know by 10 a.m. that you won’t be making it home for dinner? Instead of resolving to work after hours, tap into these seven surprising secrets for boosting your productivity. 

1. Work for 52 Minutes, Break for 17

That’s the schedule that super-productive people follow, according to a study conducted by DeskTime, a time-tracking app that monitors your work efficiency. The app analyzed its top 10 percent most productive users and found that on average, they took 17-minute breaks throughout the day. 

That aligns with previous research touting the stress-busting benefits of breaks. One Australian study found that employees who took a short walk at lunchtime felt more enthusiastic and more relaxed in the afternoon than those who didn’t head outdoors.

But breaking every 17 minutes all day long isn’t exactly realistic—according to this formula, you’d be on a break for 2 full hours of your day. Consider saving this strategy for when you’re working on something particularly complicated or draining. 

Research from Singapore also shows that brief “cyberloafing”—i.e. watching funny YouTube videos—provides an instant recovery from the humdrum of day-to-day work, helping people stay productive for longer amounts of time. 

2. Drown Out Chatter with the Right Soundtrack 

When you need to churn out work on a tight deadline, the last thing you want to hear is your chatty cube mate shooting the bull. 

Putting in earbuds to drown him out seems like the obvious fix, but blasting your favorite tunes can actually be counterproductive. Research in Applied Cognitive Psychology found that listening to pop music with lyrics while performing memory and reading comprehension tests led to lower recall and poorer comprehension than doing the tasks in silence. 

But another study from the Acoustical Society of America found that listening to natural sounds, like flowing water, could boost your mood and productivity. 

3. Hide Your Phone 

Sure, you know that browsing Instagram probably won’t help your work performance. But research from the University of Southern Maine found that simply having your cell phone on your desk distracts you during complex tasks.

Is answering the occasional text really all that bad? Science says yes. In a study at Michigan State University, people who were interrupted from a task for just 2.8 seconds made twice as many mistakes when they returned to it—and a 4.2-second disruption led to three times as many flubs. 

4. Find Your Zone

There are certain times of the day where you’re totally in the zone, like after your morning cup of coffee, or maybe right after your lunchtime run. Keeping track of when you’re at your best and capitalizing on that time will help you knock out top to-do list items, says Kathryn McKinnon, Harvard Business School Executive Coach and author of Triple Your Time Today. 

“If you’re spending your most productive time of day doing email or other tasks that aren’t your true priorities, you won’t get your best work done,” says McKinnon. Save the important stuff for when your mind is sharp and your energy is high. 

5. Break Free from Email

One of McKinnon’s clients was drowning in emails and came to her for help. After assessing the guy’s workday, McKinnon found that he was spending an average of 4 hours a day just on email, and 60 percent of the messages weren’t related to his highest priorities. 

It’s 2015—there’s no getting around a digital inbox. But highly productive executives follow the 6-12-6 rule, says McKinnon: They scan their email early in the morning, (6 a.m.), again at lunch (12 p.m.) and at the end of the day (6 p.m.). 

If someone has a really pressing message for you, they’ll give you a call or swing by your office. Otherwise, all emails can wait. 

6. Get a Head Start on Tomorrow 

Prep tomorrow’s to-do list before you head home today, suggests productivity coach Cathy Sexton, founder of 

When you’re already in work mode, it’s only going to take you a few minutes to assess what you really need to get done first thing in the morning. So taking an extra 15 minutes at the end of the day to strategize might save you up to an hour tomorrow A.M., says Sexton. 

Keep your list organized by splitting it in two: Have a master list with tasks you can complete at a comfortable pace, and a must-do list with no more than three top priority items on it, Sexton suggests. 

7. Analyze Your Distractions

Just when you’re making progress on a tricky task, your coworker knocks on your office door. If daily distractions often throw off your workflow, consider the source, says Sexton.

Do an experiment: Every time you’re interrupted, jot down who it was and what it was about. You might find that it’s the same person always interrupting, or the same issue that repeatedly occurs.

In that case, you may be able to nip common problems in the bud before they become distractions, says Sexton. 

Saturday, October 3, 2015

PODCAST : hip hop...DEAD and ALIVE

Welcome to another addition of the 12 RADIO SHOW Podcast!!!

On this episode, we talk about various hip hop topics. This is an informative and introspective look at hip hop.

My co-host, Q the 6th Man, and I discuss a wide range of topics from...

How MCs from the Golden Era may feel about today's music and rappers...the Internet and it's influence on hip hop...the difference between rappers and artists...rap's authenticity...why did New York fall off and how did Atlanta take over hip hop...rap's influence of violence and rappers...and MUCH MORE!!!


Wednesday, September 30, 2015

hip hop...DEAD and ALIVE (12 Radio Show preview)

We're BACK!!! The 12 Radio Show is back on the air!

On this episode, we'll talk about various hip hop topics. Join us for an informative and introspective look at hip hop.

Join host 12kyle and special guest, Q the 6th Man.

If you're a fan of Hip Hop, you DON'T want to miss this show!

Tonight's show will air from 9pm-11pm est.

You can call in (347)215-7162 or

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Tuesday, September 29, 2015

best advice about MONEY

Here is a pretty good article that I found the other day. You may find it useful...

What secrets about managing money do the rich know that the average person doesn't?

Below are some strategies that helped the rich get rich:

1. Track spending.
Know where your money is going. Look at your bank and credit-card statements every month. You'll uncover certain expenses for things you're not even using, such as club memberships, subscriptions, and automatic charges for services you've never used. Often these automated charges occur after you enroll in some "free" promotion, where the free part expires after a promotional period.

2. Periodically audit expenses.
Many expenses can change over time — like insurance costs. They can go up or down over time. Make sure you are paying the lowest insurance rates for homeowners, auto, and life insurance. Check your health insurance. You could be paying for dependents who left the nest, are on their own, and have coverage through their employer. Cable and internet costs can increase without you being aware of it. Calling your cable or internet provider to secure the lowest fees available should be an annual process.

Periodically shop cellphone plans. Increased competition in the cellphone industry is driving down monthly rates. Make sure you aren't paying more than you have to.

3. Purchase good quality used cars.

New cars lose value as soon as they come off the lot. Buying good quality used cars allows you to take advantage of this loss in value anomaly prevalent in the auto industry. Forty-four percent of the rich in my study purchased good quality used cars.

Typically these are cars coming off a lease. They may be two or three years old. At 125,000 miles, most cars will require some annual repairs. Expect to incur about $1,500 a year in repair costs when you hold on to cars beyond this 125,000-mileage mark.

That is still significantly less than you'd spend on a loan or lease for a new car.

4. Use coupons.

Even the wealthy in my study engaged in this money-savings habit. Thirty percent of the rich used coupons to buy food. Why pay more than you have to on groceries or other expenses?

5. Keep your housing costs below 30% of your monthly net pay.

Contrary to what you've been led to believe, most of the rich don't live in McMansions. Sixty-four percent of the rich in my study live in modest homes.

6. Bargain shop.

Far too many make spontaneous purchases, paying more than they otherwise would. That's a Poverty Habit. Shopping for bargains and taking advantage of sales events is a Rich Habit.

7. Take advantage of credit-card reward dollars.

Many credit cards have rewards programs attached to them. Typically, these rewards programs generate reward dollars that you can use at participating vendors. For example, the American Express reward program gives you about .88% back on every dollar you spend using an American Express credit card.

One of the participating vendors with American Express is Barnes and Noble, and 50,000 American Express Rewards Dollars translates into $500 in Barnes and Noble gift cards. You can buy 20 $25 Barnes and Noble gift cards and give them out as gifts for occasions like birthdays and holidays, and it'll cost you nothing.

8. Establish savings goals.

The rich make a habit of allocating their savings into different buckets, or categories. In order to do this, you need to establish an overall amount of savings you're willing to set aside each month.

For example, if you decide to set aside 10% of your monthly income, you might allocate 5% into your retirement bucket, 2% into your specific expense bucket, 1.5% into your unexpected expense bucket, and 1.5% into your cyclical expense bucket.

9. Automate the savings process.

This is where the rubber meets the road: implementation. Automatically direct each of the above savings amounts into each bucket's separate account via automatic withdrawal from your net pay or from your bank account. Automating your savings forces you to live below your means because you save first and spend what's left.

Money management is a process. Accumulating wealth is a process. It's all one big process this thing we call financial success.

But if you don't have a process or adopt good money habits, like the rich in my study, you will never be able to save. It just won't happen.

When you develop good money habits, you feel like you are finally in control of your life. It's empowering and it will increase your wealth over time. Keep in mind that it took most of the wealthy in my study 32 years to become rich. Accumulating wealth takes time and discipline.

Saturday, September 26, 2015

PODCAST : Childhood Memories


Thanks for checking out another edition of the 12 Radio Show. On this episode, I’m joined by the usual suspects…Rashan Jamal and eclectik.

This episode was recorded nearly 3 yrs ago (8/29/12) but it’s as entertaining as a recent show. We kick it and reminisce about childhood and growing up in the 80s.

We present to you...Childhood Memories!!!


Saturday, September 19, 2015

PODCAST : theRandoms

On this episode of the 12 Radio Show, I’m joined by my homie, eclectik. The concept of this episode came about when I asked him to join me for a show.

He agreed. 

He said “what are we going to talk about?” 

My response…”I’m not going to tell you!!!” 

Unlike any of the other episodes of the 12 Radio Show, he has NO IDEA what I’m going to ask him. The only thing that he knows is that it will be a ton of random, off the wall questions! The questions aren’t meant to “stump” him…or you…the listener…but they are questions that make you think! The questions are wide ranging and speak to your personality and thoughts. To his credit, eclectik did a phenomenal job.

 Check us out and tell me what you think. We present…theRandoms


Wednesday, September 16, 2015

theRandoms (12 Radio Show preview)

We're back!!!

Me &

You NEVER know what will be said when we get together to do a show.

Well...eclectik doesn't...

I've got a list of random, off the wall, entertaining, comical, probing questions that I will ask him but he has NO clue about what these questions are.

Be sure to follow on twitter and facebook because we'll be posting the questions there and you'll want to answer them

Join us tonight from 9pm-11pm EST for theRandoms!!!