PODCAST: stuck in the friend zone

CLICK THE LINK ABOVE TO LISTEN ON SOUNDCLOUD...

What is the friend zone? Most people would describe it as a place where you DON'T want to be. But it's deeper than that. On this podcast, we'll give you tips on how to get out of the friend zone and I'll share a funny story of how I landed in the friend zone.

Feel free to comment.

You can LISTEN, SHARE, AND SUBSCRIBE to The 12Kyle Podcast here...

Apple Podcasts https://itun.es/us/RZVM_.c

SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/twelve-kyle

Stitcher http://bit.ly/2ij1KWZ

Overcast FM http://bit.ly/2ij6zzC

Google Play - Search 12kyle Podcast

YouTube http://bit.ly/2mVmOng

Blogger www.the12planet.blogspot.com

FOLLOW ME...
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/twelvekyle

twitter @12kyle ; @12kylepodcast ; Instagram @12kylepodcast

can you break the friend zone?

I found this article on Men's Health.com that I wanted to share with you.


I can't say that I agree with this because I think ONCE you're in that zone...there is NO WAY that you get out! But you tell me what YOU think!!

Want to make your girl friend your girlfriend? Of course you do. In a study where 88 opposite-sex pairs of friends filled out questionnaires about their relationship, guys were more likely to be attracted to their female pals than the other way around, the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found.

Men were also more likely to overestimate their female friends’ attraction to them. So if you find yourself wanting to jump from the Friend Ship to the Relation Ship—see what we did there?—abide by these four strategies to make the tricky transition go as smooth as possible. (But believe us: There are still plenty of Good Reasons Not to Sleep with Her.)

1. Assess the Situation

First, is she available? “If she has a boyfriend, is just getting over someone, or is confused about what she wants, it’s a red light,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sexuality counselor and author of She Comes First. “Otherwise you’ll look like you’re trying to seize an opportunity, which could leave her feeling betrayed.” If, however, you spend lots of one-on-one time together, your interactions often feel like dates, or they have a romantic energy about them, those are good signs that you could become something more than friends.

2. Test the Waters

“In conversation mention, ‘Gee, if I were dating you, I would do x, y, z,’ and see her reaction to it,” suggests Amy Laurent, relationship expert and star of Bravo’s upcoming series Miss Advised. “If it makes her uncomfortable or she laughs and says, ‘Oh stop!’ with an awkward smile, you may be crossing the boundary and need to respect that she may simply just want to be friends with you.” But if she seems genuinely interested in how you would treat her—for instance, she asks follow-up questions to your hypothetical scenario—she may already be thinking you’re boyfriend material. (Learn how to Talk to Her about Anything.

3. Make a Pact

You have to know going in that there’s a risk of ruining your friendship if a relationship ultimately doesn’t work out, Laurent says. “Make a pact to not let that happen,” she adds. “If you’re going to risk a great friendship, make sure two elements—respect and communication—are always there. Because hopefully they’ll still be there and you can go back to being friends.”

4. Find the Right Moment

Telling her you want to date her while drunk and standing in the middle of a crowded bar surrounded by a group of friends: Bad idea, buddy. “Women are often very sensitive to context, so even if she feels the same way about you, she may not feel comfortable telling you in that moment,” Kerner says. Your game plan: Confess your feelings when the two of you are alone. “Make sure you’re in a fun, romantic context such as out to dinner, on a walk, or shopping together to help set the tone,” Kerner adds. “Then, depending on the situation, put your arm around her, hold her hand, or say, ‘I’m just going to do something here,’ and lean in for a kiss,” he adds. “These actions give her the opportunity to reciprocate if she feels the same way.”