Ladies First

Top 10 Female MCs of All Time...

Based on lyrics...flow...delivery...and sex appeal


1. MC Lyte


2. Lauryn Hill

3. Queen Latifah

4. Missy Elliott

5. Eve

6. Jean Grae

7. Rah Digga

8. Foxy Brown

9. Da Brat

10. Lil Kim

top 10 underrated MCs

"Rappers spit rhymes that're mostly illegal
Emcees spit rhymes to uplift their people." - KRS-One


"He ain't no MC. He's a rapper!"- Me

I've said that a thousand times before. And I'll continue to say it...especially nowadays. When you consider the fact that real hip hop has faded away, I'm sure I'll continue to say it. However, I can and will always recognize a real MC. Today, I have compiled my own list of MCs. These aren't your average MCs. In fact, these MCs are better than average...but extremely underrated. So, you won't find Jay Z, Eminem, or NaS on this list because they get their just due. These MCs are some of best that hip hop has to offer yet they are underrated. This list is based on their lyrics, delivery, storytelling and flow.

In no particular order...to kick off HIP HOP WEEK on the 12th Planet...I present to you my top 10 underrated MCs

Black Thought (Philly) - The front man for the Roots has always has always held his own...

Asphalt to the cement, your trash talk, delete it
I blast off then lay 'em out like a Tempur-Pedic
It's Black Thought, for certain I'ma win eventually
This unsung, underrated, under-appreciated
The one them underachievers had underestimated
Finally graduated, I'm one of the most hated

Scarface (Houston) - He's one of the first true MCs to hail from the South...

Now as I walk into the studio, to do this with Jig'
I got a phone call from one of my nigs
Said my homeboy Reek, he just lost one of his kids
And when I heard that I just broke into tears
And see in the second hand; you don't really know how this is
But when it hits that close to home you feel the pain at the crib
So I called mine, and saddened my wife with the bad news
Now we both depressed, countin our blessings cause Brad's two
Prayin for young souls to laugh atlife through the stars
Lovin your kids just like you was ours
And I'm hurtin for you dog; but ain't nobody pain is like yours
I just know that heaven'll open these doors
And ain't no bright side to losin lifel; but you can view it like this
God's got open hands homey, he in the midst.. of good company
Who loves all and hates not one
And one day you gon' be wit your son
I could've rapped about my hard times on this song
But heaven knows I woulda been wrong


AZ (NYC) - I call him the Gift and the Curse. He delivered one of hip hop's hottest 16 bars on NaS' Life's A Bitch...and that verse and his subsequent ones haven't delivered the commercial success that he deserves...

Visualizin the realism of life and actuality
Fuck who's the baddest a person's status depends on salary
And my mentality is, money orientated
I'm destined to live the dream for all my peeps who never made it
cause yeah, we were beginners in the hood as five percenters
But somethin must of got in us cause all of us turned to sinners
Now some, restin in peace and some are sittin in San Quentin
Others such as myself are tryin to carry on tradition
Keepin the schwepervesence street ghetto essence inside us
Cause it provides us with the proper insight to guide us
Even though, we know somehow we all gotta go
but as long as we leavin thievin we'll be leavin with some kind of dough
so, and to that day we expire and turn to vapors
me and my capers-ll be somewhere stackin plenty papers
Keepin it real, packin steel, gettin high
Cause life's a bitch and then you die

Bun B (Houston) - One half of the group UndergroundKingz (UGK). Bun B is a spitter. When you listen to Bun, you learn. Period.

I wonder if it's a better place for the innocent kids
In the ghetto they gotta suffer for shit that they ain't did
By no fault of they own, goin through struggles and strife
Havin to deal with a fucked up life (that's cold)
I know they thinkin nobody knows, or nobody cares
Why can't nobody see the shit, when everybody stares
Man we losin the children, we losin the youth
Cause you motherfuckers won't tell 'em the truth
So they runnin 'round unprepared, and uninformed
It's understood that's why the hood is dumpin on 'em
We gotta show 'em it's a better way (F'REAL) at any cost
Cause they the future if we don't save 'em then we already lost


Ras Kass (LA) - This rhymer may never blaze the charts but real hip hoppers appreciate what he brings to the game.

To MC or not to MC?
Beyond B.E.T. and MTV exists me
Origin
Cause God created man and man created hip hop
I declined to participate until I was orientated
I heard 50,000 drivebys
And 49,999 was lies
No surprise, as the sun rises
Thine eyes have seen the light
But we stalk the night
I expose like an overbite
In limbo I lamp
Rape the lady kill the tramp
The wrong action for the motive
So now
Give me 50,000 black angry role models
Take me to DC I'll throw the first fuckin' bottle
Cause I don't give a fuck about a menial existence
And I don't give a fuck about nonviolent resistance
Civil right will not suffice
In the name of Jesus Christ they got my Soul On Ice

Mos Def (NYC) - The Mighty Mos Def is the guy who my 67 yr old uncle Joey says is "the best in the game...bar none."

Like I got, sixteen to thirty-two bars to rock it
but only 15% of profits, ever see my pockets like
sixty-nine billion in the last twenty years
spent on national defense but folks still live in fear

Big L (NYC) - Gunfire ended his life before hip hop really knew who he was. Before he left, I knew who he was!

Yo, yo
A burglary is a jook, a woof's a crook
Mobb Deep already explained the meanin' of shook
If you caught a felony, you caught a F
If you got killed, you got left
If you got the dragon, you got bad breath
If you 730, that mean you crazy
Hit me on the hip means page me
Angel dust is sherm, if you got AIDS, you got the germ
If a chick gave you a disease, then you got burned
Max mean to relax, guns and pistols is gats
Condoms is hats, critters is cracks
The food you eat is your grub
A victim's a mark
A sweat box is a small club, your tick is your heart
Your apartment is your pad
Your old man is your dad
The studio is the lab and heated is mad
I know you like the way I'm freakin' it
I talk with slang and I'ma never stop speakin' it

Cee-lo (Atlanta) - He's famous for being 1/2 of Knarls Barkley. But he got it started rhyming (and singing) as the lead man for Goodie MoB

I get off on an extension or compare comprehension
I'm in a classroom of my own, I'm too far gone for competition
Yet I'm never obnoxious with my obvious ambition
Perfectly imperfect is my dimension's definition
I engage my pen pierces the page so that it bleeds my intention
With honorable mention of God's divine intervention
I'm incredible I'm inevitable and there's no possible prevention
I'll hardly (have to) scream my dream and I'll have your undivided attention
The powers that be will be beaten into submission
And you will be able to see my revolution on television
You'll get an aneurysm fuckin around with my head on collision
With the power to get you dead and half the dead risen


Redman (Newark, NJ) - His rhymes can be funny...yet clever. Reggie Noble always brings it.

I don't tote guns I tote funds
While you still puzzled how my antidote runs
Your whole vocabulary's played out, admit it
Still wack if it came out my mouth and I spit it
You remind me of school on a Sunday
No class, beatin all King's down
doin over seventy, in a Hyundai, blast
Give em a good reason to open Alcatraz
Back, nobody got the Red shook
Been a weirdo everysince the doctor said PUSH
Def Squad skills make it hard to overlook me
That's why them hardcore promoters still book me
You shook G

Royce da 5'9" (Detroit) - He's that dude that makes you listen to his verse 2 or 3 times just to see what he said

I'm a product of when a nigga momma gives up
Cryin layin in the trash with the lid shut
Ain't got no family, my mind is tender
My - daddy's invisible, my moms is Brenda
Uhh (uhh) if I survive I'ma grow into what
society considers trash, the rope is to us
That mean I'm hangin myself by livin
The noose is gettin murdered, that or goin to prison
My mind's controlled 'fore I learn mind control
What you call livin life, I call dyin slow (slow)
I'm genetically predisposed
The reaper the only thing that can ease my soul
Freezin cold – feelin like
I was given life, and if I take it at least I chose
I'll probably be in heaven when the pain stops
'Til then all I'm hearin is wind and raindrops

Did I leave someone off the list who you think should be here?

Your thoughts...

off tha dome

random thoughts...

Vince Carter aint been the same since he was in the dunk contest and put his elbow in the rim

Mike Vick is the MVP of the NFL this year in my opinion

remind me to take the week of Christmas off next year. it's always boring at work this time of year

2010 came and went like that! *snaps finger*

i never make new year's resolutions. i just wanna be a better me. if i'm better...i'm a better father, husband, son, brother, friend, etc.

everytime i watch Entourage, I wanna move to Los Angeles.

one of the best Christmas' I ever had was the one that I spent with my wife and her family in Los Angeles when were dating. I wonder if her parents knew that I was gonna marry their daughter

i wonder who our oldest son, Deion, will bring home?

conversation with Kameron...

Me : Kameron, did you take a shower?

Kameron : Yes, Daddy

Me : Did you wash?

Kameron : Yes

Me : With soap???

Kameron : Yes

record labels aren't concerned with cultivating artists and their careers. they just wanna make the next hit

facebook consists of a lotta people who you went to school with but you barely even know right now. twitter consists of a lotta people who you didn't go to school with but wish you did because you feel like you've known em for all your life.

it's hard to shop for women

#shoutout2 former blogger PrettyBlack...good spoken word piece rite here. She's So Damn Cali

if you want more out of your life...put more into it!

don't make new yrs resolutions when you KNOW you aint gonna keep em.

5 to 6 hrs of sleep is enough for me. if i slept 8-10 hrs, i'd be miserable

i'll destroy a box of Captain Crunch with no regard for the roof of my mouth

ladies...a man won't treat you like a lady if you don't carry yourself as a lady.

fellas...step up to the plate and be a man...in every phase of the word

funny how some black churches will say "come as you are" but if i showed up dressed like i was going to a Wu-Tang concert, they'd look at me strange

speaking of church, Eddie Long (aka Sex Ed) is gonna settle the lawsuits. he don't wanna see the truth play out in court

Kerry Washington...Kerry Washington...Kerry Washington

~fin~

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WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE/DOMESTIC ABUSE?

Domestic violence is not an isolated, individual event, but rather a pattern of repeated behaviors. Unlike stranger-to-stranger violence, in domestic violence the assaults are repeated against the same victim by the same perpetrator. These assaults occur in different forms: physical, sexual, psychological. While physical assault may occur infrequently, other parts of the pattern may occur daily. Tactics interact with each other and have profound effects on the victims.

What is your definition of domestic violence?

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gottadobetta

Even when we win...we lose. This HAS to change!

ORLANDO (AP)— The disparity between graduation rates for white and black players at schools headed to bowl games grew again this year even as overall academic progress increased for both, a study released Monday found.

The annual report by the University of Central Florida's Institute for Diversity and Ethics in Sport found that the graduation success rate is increasing at a higher rate for white players than black players.

Richard Lapchick, the primary author of the study, said it's a "disturbing" gap that has continued to widen.

"The growing gap is and has been my biggest concern with graduations rates for some time," he said. "It's like in the economy if income for Latinos and African-American grows at 2% but increases 3% for whites. Yes, it's getting better. But it's still not great for everybody."

The graduation success rate for black players went from 58% to 60% this year among the 70 bowl teams. But for white players, the graduation rates increased from 77% last year to 80% this year.

The NCAA was encouraged that all graduation success rates — not just those for whites or blacks — increased, and hoped continued improvement for both groups in the future would close the gap.

"With such a large number of students, any increase is important, so this improvement is noteworthy. That improvement extends to African-American football student-athletes as well," NCAA spokesman Erik Christianson said in a statement.

Data was collected by the NCAA from member institutions for the study. The Institute reviewed the six-year graduation rates of each school's freshman class that enrolled in 2003-04, then calculated a four-class average.

Five schools had graduation success rates for black players that exceeded their rates for white players: Northwestern (1% higher), Virginia Tech (3% higher), Southern Mississippi (3% higher), Notre Dame (four percent higher) and Troy (10% higher). That's up from four schools in last year's study.

Notre Dame and Northwestern were the only schools that graduated 95% of their players and at least 95% of their black players. Air Force and Northwestern had the highest academic progress rate with scores of 988 and 986, respectively.

Texas Tech was the lone school that had overall graduation success rates for football players that were better than the overall athletes. And Oklahoma was the only school that graduated less than 50% of its white players

off tha dome

random thoughts...

thank you for all of the birthday wishes yesterday. i appreciate all of you! thanks for the luv

hey Prez O...we didn't put you in office to have gas prices at $3 for Christmas. c'mon son! holla at dem people!

they caught the dude from wikileaks in the UK. maybe now they can catch Bin Laden. he runs a bodega on Flatbush Ave in Brooklyn.

Elizabeth Edwards (RIP)

12 Radio on Wednesday nights...appointment radio!

i hate when people speak in their language in front of you when they can speak English. it makes me think they MITE be talkin bout me

if you order take out...do you tip the person who brings you the order?

#stupidstuffwedidinhighschool Go to McDonald's. Go to the drive thru. Place an order for $75 of food...then drive off without paying or taking the food

Brett Favre...go sit down

i don't think people will ever REALLY appreciate Prince until he's dead an gone...

some women can't keep a man. that's not hatin'...it's the truth

some men won't ever be ready for a serious relationship because they are just too damn immature. that's not hatin'...it's the truth

even though we've been together for nearly 10 yrs...i hate Sprint

the mere mention of snow bothers me

i heard Justin Beiber bought a 2 million dollar Bugati. can he even spell the word Bugati?

psa...don't be the one who gets drunk at the office Christmas party

have you ever noticed how black churches will tell you to "come as you are." but if you showed up in flip flops and shorts...they'd be lookin at you like you were crazy

what was the best Christmas gift that you ever got? for me...Atari 2600

Suge Knight...went from top 10 to not menitioned at all

do you remember Fraggle Rock? that show used to scare me

i like Chistmas but I think Thanksgiving is much better

I want a girl with extensions in her hair...bamboo earrings...at least 2 pair

dvr's will change the way thtat you watch tv

the one year that i got the flu shot...i got the flu

Birthdayshoutout 2 the best 4 yr old in the world!!!! Happy Birthday Brandon! Daddy loves you!

~fin~

38 and counting...

Ok...

I said I wasn't gonna do this again but here I am...

Another year has come and gone. And what can I say??? I am blessed beyond measures.

Thankful to see another year. The past year has allowed me to realize how blessed I truly am. I knew it before but I'm even more thankful this year.

Thankful for you, you, yoouuuuuuuu, them, them, dem, and them. Errrybody.

38 yrs on this Earth is a blessing. I know I'll be here for at LEAST another 97 yrs.

Thank you for the well wishes. I am humbled. Grateful. And thankful for them

Most importantly, I am thankful for God who allows me to be who HE wants me to be. HE has put the air in my lungs and the blood in my veins. And I am eternally grateful.

Kyle

aka 12kyle

aka 12k

aka KD

aka KD12

aka Kdot

aka Dr. K

aka THAT GUY

aka Randy Floss

aka Arthur Fonzerelli

aka Julio Fuentes

aka Quik 1

aka Chocolate Boi Wunder

aka Kid Chocolate

aka...well...you get the picture! One Love!

what's on his mind/12 Radio Show preview

Have you ever stared into a man's eyes and wondered...

What is he thinking about???

Is it this...



Or is it this...



Or maybe it's this...



Have you ever wondered what's on a man's mind?







Tune in tonight at 9pm est to 12 Radio

Topics...Random - men covering a wide range of topics (love, sports, marriage, sex, fatherhood, music, and being a man) giving you some insight into how we think.

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Differences between Men & Women (12 Radio Show Preview)

Differences between Men and Women

Relationships

First of all, a man does not call a relationship a relationship - he refers to it as "that time when me and Suzie was doing it on a semi-regular basis". When a relationship ends, a woman will cry and pour her heart out to her girlfriends, and she will write a poem titled "All Men Are Idiots". Then she will get on with her life.

A man has a little more trouble letting go. Six months after the break-up, at 3:00 a.m. on a Saturday night, he will call and say, "I just wanted to let you know you ruined my life, and I'll never forgive you, and I hate you, and you're a total floozy. But I want you to know there's always a chance for us". This is known as the "I Hate You/I Love You" drunken phone call, that 99% of all men have made at least once. There are community colleges that offer courses to help men get over this need; alas, these classes rarely prove effective.

Sex

Women prefer 30 - 45 minutes of foreplay. Men prefer 30 - 45 seconds of foreplay. Men consider driving back to her place as part of the foreplay.

Maturity

Women mature much faster than men. Most 17-year-old females can function as adults. Most 17-year-old males are still trading baseball cards and giving each other wedgies after gym class. This is why high school romances rarely work.

Handwriting

To their credit, men do not decorate their penmanship. They just chicken-scratch. Women use scented, colored stationary and they dot their "i's" with circles and hearts. Women use ridiculously large loops in their "p's" and "g's". It is a royal pain to read a note from a woman. Even when she's dumping you, she'll put a smiley face at the end of the note.

Bathrooms

A man has at most six items in his bathroom - a toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of Dial soap, and a towel from the Holiday Inn. The average number of items in a typical woman's bathroom is 437. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.

Magazines

Men's magazines often feature pictures of naked ladies. Women's magazine also feature pictures of naked ladies. This is because the female body is a beautiful work of art, while the male body is hairy and lumpy and should not be seen by the light of day.

Groceries

A woman makes a list of things she needs and then goes to the store and buys these things. A man waits till the only items left in his fridge are half a lemon and something turning green. Then he goes grocery shopping. He buys everything that looks good. By the time a man reaches the checkout counter, his cart is packed tighter that the Clampett's car on Beverly Hillbillies. Of course, this will not stop him from going to the 10-items-or-less lane.

Going out

When a man says he is ready to go out, it means he is ready to go out. When a woman says she is ready to go out, it means she will be ready to go out, as soon as she finds her other earring, finishes putting on her makeup...

Shoes

When preparing for work, a woman will put on a Mondi wool suit, and then slip into Reebok sneakers. She wil carry her dress shoes in a plastic bag from Saks. When a woman gets to work, she will put on her dress shoes. Five minutes later, she will kick them off because her feet are under her desk. A man will wear one pair of shoes for the entire day.

Garages

Women use garages to park their cars and to store their lawnmowers. Men use garages for many things. They hang license plates in garages, and they watch TV in garages, and they build useless lopsided benches in garages.

Jewelry

Women look nice when they wear jewelry. A man can get away with wearing one ring, and that's it. Any more than that, and he will look like a lounge singer named Vic.

Directions

If a woman is out driving and she finds herself in unfamiliar surroundings, she will stop at a gas station and ask for directions. Men consider this to be a sign of weakness. Men will never stop and ask for directions. Men will drive in a circle for hours, all the while saying things like, "Looks like I've found a new way to get there", and, "I know I'm in the neighborhood. I recognize that White Hen store".


Tune in tonight to hear more about how we are different

Men are from Venus...Women are from Mars

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off tha dome

random thoughts...


why is a 40 inch flat screen tv worth $200 on Black Friday but that same tv is worth $700 on Christmas Eve?


President Obama had to get 12 stitches from an elbow he caught while playing basketball. who elbows the Prez? he should have a triple double every time he gets on the court.


Vince y=Young...grow up, bruh. the opportunity to play in the NFL is a privilege. you should treat it as such


it was 78 degrees in Atlanta on thanksgiving day. wow. guess that's what they mean when they say we're gonna have a "mild winter"


sometimes i look at my timeline on twitter and i wonder if some of my followers ever "log off"?


i went to the "oldplaya's club" on friday night. bunch of cougars and old dudes. pure comedy. at the age of 37, i may have been the youngest dude in there


i watch NBC nightly news every night. i like Brian Williams. he always rocks a nice tie.

sometimes i look at my timeline on twitter and i wonder if some of my followers even work


when your birthday is 2 weeks before Christmas, people try to short you on gifts. guess it could be worse. i could have been a Christmas baby like Russ.


Lebron goes to Cleveland on Thursday night. should be interesting...


N. Korea vs S. Korea...scary


saw a truck with spinnin' rims the other day. do they still make those?


oatmeal raisin cookies


who is better singer...Beyonce or Janet Jackson???


i like the new Kanye cd. dope muzik. however, it won't make my ALBUM OF THE YEAR (blog soon to come)


as i was walking through the "old playa's club" the other night, i think one of those cougars grabbed me on my ass.


Lil Kim vs Nicki Minaj...spare me...they both are wack

i like Thanksgiving alot more than i do Christmas


i still don't watch BET


i'll always love my first love...football


to my single ladies...i have a friend for you. he's single, no kids, and he has his own empire. the only knock is that he lives with his father. you want me to introduce you to him???? his name is Lamont Sanford


communication...always has...and will be...a two way street


20 year high school class reunion is next year. guess who's gonna be fresh to def when he gets there...MEEEEE!


12 Radio is on every Wednesday night @ 9pm EST. *plug*


ladies...when do you tell a man you're in love with him?


fellas...if you gotta choose between your momma and your woman...who ya choosing?


Hey, Sanaa...call me...777-9311

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whaaaaaaat????

EDITOR'S NOTE...

THE FOLLOWING POST IS A RE-POST FROM 2008. THE POST IS FICTIONAL. IT WAS WRITTEN TO DISPLAY MY SKILLZ WITH A PEN. AND IT WAS ALSO WRITTEN TO SHOW HOW WE CAN EASILY BE OVEREXPOSED BECAUSE OF SOCIAL MEDIA NETWORKS...

You better watch what you say and what you do
Cause you never really know who got they eyes on you
They be plotting, scheming, eyeing, scoping
Waiting for the day they get you out in the open
You better watch what you say and what you do
Cause sometimes it's hard to tell what's fake and what's true
They plotting, harassing, scheming when they spot you
One wrong move homeboy and then they got you

Little Brother (What They Do)


It started with an email.

The email read... "Hello Kyle. I've been reading your blog for a few months now but I've never commented. Just wanted to let you know that I enjoy your work and the vibe on your blog. Candi "

I responded...just as a do to almost everybody..."Thanks for reading. Thanks for coming thru. It's ok to comment...we don't bite."

I was glad that she reached out to me. I didn't think much about it until she commented on my blog 3 days later. I greeted her as I do everybody when they first make a comment on my page. "Welcome to the 12th Planet. Make sure that you come back. We have a good time over here. We're here every day..." (you know the rest...LOL). Later that day, she sent me another email to thank me for responding to her comment. In the email, she also let me know that she also lived in Atlanta. I thought that was cool b/c I like to know where all the local bloggers are so that we can co-ordinate the upcoming ATL blogger event. Nevertheless, I would get emails from Candi for next month. I'd usually get a few a week. Nothing big. Just chit chat. I found her to be very cool. She was a hip hop head and a sports fan like me. That's mostly what we'd talk about. I made nothing of it. I viewed her as a friend.

One day I received a friend request on Facebook from Candi. I accepted without hesitation. The next day, I received an email letting me know that she was following me on twitter. No problem for me. It was innocent in my eyes. A few days later, I received an email from Candi that said..."Hey, I know that you're in marketing. I need some help with a business plan that I have developed for my company. Can we meet for lunch. My treat. And yes...I'll pay you for your services. Here's my number (404) xxx-xxxx. Send me yours and we can meet at Nan in midtown for lunch."

I accepted without hesitation. Who wouldn't want some additional cash? I'm all about that paper. LOL. Anyway, we agreed to meet at Nan on a Friday afternoon. As soon as I walked in the restaurant, she was there to greet me with a hug. Candi was cuter than her profile picture. As we waited for our table, she told me how nice my suit looked. After we grabbed a table, I reviewed her plan and made some suggestions. We talked about the Falcons and the Hawks. Then, she asked if we could hang out again. "Yeah. You bring a date and I'll bring Mrs12 and we can kick it." She laughed and said that she wanted to hang with just me. That was the sign to me that something might be wrong but I brushed it off. We left the restaurant and agreed that we'd keep in touch. I told my boy Clark about her b/c I had planned to introduce him to her since they are both single. Well, I got an email from her at 3:12 am that said that she enjoyed lunch and she wanted to see me again.

I read the email on my blackberry the next morning. I ignored it. Then later on that day, I got a phone call from her while I was at Kameron's football practice.

"Hey. Did you get my email?"

"Yeah. I did. Candi, you know that I am married. You've read my blog. I'm all about my wife and my sons. I think you're cool. I dunno what's going on in your head...but I don't get down like that. You feel me?

"Yeah. I understand." Click. She hung up.

Three days later, I get an email from Candi that caught my eye. Well...the subject line said it all...YOU AINT SHIT!!!!!! I read the email where she accused me of leading her on. She called me a dog. She said that I was a womanizer. She said that she was gonna get on my blog and tell the world what kinda person I was. I read it and laughed my head off!!!! Everybody who knows me know that I'm drama free. I deleted the email. The next day I see her BMW in the parking lot next to my office. How did she know where I worked? Then, she kept calling my cell phone and hanging up. I'm thinking..."what the hell is wrong with her?"

I called her the next day. She didn't answer so I left her a voicemail. "Candi, I dunno what kind of games you're playing but I don't play games. You need to fall back. Or else!"

No response from her. In fact, I didn't hear anything for a week. Then, I get an email from her at 8:30 pm. I was leaving practice with Kameron. The email read...

"How would you like it if I told your wife about us? BTW...you have nice house. I like the black shutters on the white house. Maybe I should go and ring the doorbell? I know that your wife is home b/c I saw her with your sons in the yard earlier today."

How the fuck did I get here??????

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off tha dome

random thoughts...

man, it's been a MINUTE since I've done one of these. i blame twitter for robbing me of my randomness

lil wayne is outta jail. t.i. is back in jail. so is the "great" gucci mane. who cares? wake me up when somebody makes an album worth buying

mid term elections were interesting. now let's see if ANYBODY will deliver on their campaign promises. wait...they made none. too busy mudslinging

Prez O said his adminstration hasn't done a good job of telling people what they've done. hey Prez...take a page outta Dubya's playbook...do something & spend months talkin about what u did to the point where nuffin else gets done.

speaking of Dubya...he said Kanye's talk about him being a racist was "his lowest moment while in office." word? so i guess Hurricane Katrina, 9/11, & finding no weapons of mass destruction didn't mean a damn thing to you?

breaking news...the Dallas Cowboys suck! in other news...water is wet

memo to Lebron...chemistry takes time

i see that gas prices are going up! c'mon Prez O! don't start that crap!

huge fan of Denzel's but i'ma pass on this new movie. looks just like Pelham 1-2-3

have you noticed how halloween has become a reason for grown folks to be as nasty as they wanna be? all you ever see is naughty/slutty nurse outfits

neva been on a cruise. and after hearing about the cruise that was stranded without power, it's likely that I won't ever get on one.

hi Chuck

the new cd by The Foreign Exchange is smokin! can't wait until they come back to ATL to do a show. i saw em earlier this year. phenomenal!

Kanye...shut up and grow up. you're a grown man...act like it

i love black women

memo to the ladies...if he's into your body and not your mind...leave him alone b/c when the chick with a better body comes along, you're done

memo to the fellas...be a man and LEAD. stop following the crowd and be your own man

c'mon Jay Z...you need to go ahead and swell her up! stop playin', son!

two peas in a pod!

i still appreciate the fine delicacy of a peanut butter and jelly sammich

ok...i took some heat for not seeing The Godfather and The Color Purple. i'll see em as soon a football season is over

bring real hip hop back

have you ever noticed that for some people...they won't speak to you unless you speak to them first?

Brett Favre...kick rocks!

my birthday is next month (December 9th...shameless plug) and i want cash...and a tie. i'll be expecting it from you.

the last half hour at work is always the longest

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Top 10 Listening Tips for Married Couples


1. Don't Interrupt

Let your spouse finish what they are saying. If this is a problem and you interrupt a lot, find someway to remind yourself to keep quiet. Some people put their chin in their hand as a sign to themselves to not speak til their mate is finished talking.

2. Keep an Open Mind

Don't judge. Jumping to conclusions or looking for the right or wrong in what is being said prevents you from listening. Think before you say anything in response, especially if it is an emotional reaction.

3. Make Listening a Priority

Listen without planning on what you are going to say in response. Let go of your own agenda. Be aware that you need to listen. Make eye contact. Pay attention by not looking at the TV or glancing at the newspaper or finishing up a chore.

4. Use Feedback Technique

Let your partner know that you heard what they said by using a feedback technique and restating what was said. Say something like "I hear you saying ...." Be open to the possibility that you didn't hear clearly what your spouse was saying.

5. Watch Non-Verbal

Be aware of non-verbal signs and clues - both yours and those of your mate. These include shrugging your shoulders, tone of voice, crossing arms or legs, nodding, eye contact or looking away, facial expressions (smile, frown, shock, disgust, tears, surprise, rolling eyes, etc.), and mannerisms (fiddling with papers, tapping your fingers). 55% of the message is delievered through non-verbal signs.

6. Blocks to Listening

Try not to fall into these patterns of listening: mind reading, rehearsing, filtering, judging, daydreaming, advising, sparring, being right, changing the subject, stonewalling, and placating.

7. Stay Focused

Focus on the main points that your spouse is talking about. It's ok to ask questions to clarify what you thought you heard.

8. Gender Differences

Although not true for everyone, men and women generally communicate differently. Being aware can enhance your listening skills. Men often share because they want to give information or solve a problem. Women tend to talk to connect with someone or to get information. Women usually talk more about relationships than men. Men are often more concerned about details than women.

9. Show Respect

Respect your spouse's point of view, even if you disagree with what is being said.

10. Advice & Talking

Don't give advice unless asked for it. You can't listen and talk at the same time. Feelings are neither right or wrong.

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Tha W

June 7, 1991

I remember it like it was yesterday.

One of the things that stood out...tears.

Not from me.

No way

I expected this to happen. To me, graduating from high school wasn't that big of a deal. It was an accomplishment but I really didn't put a lot of stock in it. I always had my eyes on graduating from college. That's where the tears...if I had any...would come. But as I sat in my seat on this day, I would be all smiles. I noticed that more than a few of my classmates were crying.

Why? Maybe it was because they knew this would be the last time together? Maybe? I'm not sure. Maybe they didn't want to leave our high school? Our school, Wilson High School, was a special place. It was and still is a very unique place. When I was there, it was about 90% black, 10% white...yet there was racial harmony. At Wilson, there were no racial issues. If you had a friend, they were your friend...not your black friend or white friend. I grew up there. I found who I was during those 4 yrs. It was there where I made some friendships that will last a lifetime.

I had the opportunity to visit a few weeks ago as our high school celebrated its homecoming. Wilson's Homecoming is about as big as a small college homecoming...yet it's a HIGH SCHOOL. The school has been around since 1869. It was the only place where black kids in my hometown, Florence, South Carolina, could get an opportunity a shot at an education. My grandmother never finished high school but my mom went to Wilson. So did all of my aunts and uncles and cousins. The school has a great tradition. Proud and distinguished alumni. And I'm one of them.

As I reflect on that graduation day, I'm reminded of the Class of 1991. We'll celebrate our 20 yr reunion next year. It felt good to see so many familiar faces this year. I can't wait until next year. I have many many memories from high school. I could go on and on about it but I won't. One memory that stood out was graduation day. There was about 250 of us in the graduating class. I tried my best to say something to each person that day. They say that it's the last time that a class is together. And that's true. Within a month, we'd lose a class mate to a car accident. Then another one later that year. I still remember wondering why some were crying at graduation. Maybe they weren't ready to leave? Maybe they weren't ready to leave home? Or maybe they loved that place and the people so much that they didn't know how they'd move on. But they did. And so did I. But we know that we can always come home.

Do you have any memorable moments from high school?

Love Jones on 12 Radio

"Y'all know that feeling of love that just make you feel so warm inside?
I swear there ain't nothing' like it y'all...ain't in beautiful?" Phonte of The Foreign Exchange


Have you ever had that feeling of love before?

You know. Love somebody to the point where it HURT!

The love...the kinda love that you couldn't imagine yourself without.

Or maybe it's the love that you found...

then lost...

then found again.

What about the love that feeds your soul?

Have you ever had it?

If you have had it...do you still have it? If you've lost it, what are you gonna do to get it back?



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why does she cheat?

I'm no relationship expert.

I've said that 1000 times on this blog.

But I know people. And people are creatures of habit.

Thanks to the good folks at Men's Health, I found this article about the woman that cheats. Enjoy!

There are many reasons for infidelity, such as revenge, boredom, the thrill of sexual novelty, sexual addiction. But experts say that a large majority of the time, motivations differ by gender, with men searching for more sex or attention, and women looking to fill an emotional void.

"Women tell me, 'I was lonely, not connected, I don't feel close to my partner, and I was taken for granted,'" says Winifred Reilly, MA, MFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Berkeley, Calif. "They say they wanted to have someone who would look into their eyes and make them feel sexy again."

Emotional Reasons

Every affair is different, and so are every woman's reasons for her involvement.

That said, men are more likely to cite sexual motivations for infidelity and are less likely to fall in love with an extramarital partner, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University and the author of Why Him? Why Her? and Why We Love.

"Women tend to be more unhappy with the relationship they are in ... while men can be a lot happier in their primary relationship and also cheat," Fisher tells WebMD. "Women are more interested in supplementing their marriage or jumping ship than men are - for men, it is a secondary strategy as opposed to an alternate.".

In one of her studies, Fisher found that 34% of women who had affairs were happy or very happy in their marriage. A greater percentage of men who had affairs, 56%, were happy in their marriage.

In the Genes?

The theory that adultery is "natural" for men, fulfilling their Darwinian need to spread their seed, has been around a long time. But the connection women look for when having affairs may have evolutionary roots as well.

That theory, Fisher says, is that from the earliest days, women paired with a primary mate to have children. But as women went out to gather food, they slept with other men, creating an insurance policy -- to have someone who would help rear children and provide resources, should their mate die.

"I don't think women are doing it because they want to have more sex, but I don't think they mind if they get it," Reilly says. "It is not really about sex per se as much as the experience of being with somebody."

Jumping Ship

Diane, who asked that her full name not be used, left her marriage emotionally long before she had an affair. The Tulsa, Okla. woman says she was living with a lot of disillusionment in a disappointing, sexless marriage.

"You feel the loss of your dreams and hopes and how you thought things would turn out," Diane says. "I was very lonely; I could never understand the concept of being lonely in a marriage until it happened."

She began to flirt with other men to get attention, but she never considered having an affair. That is, not until a business trip landed her with a friend in beautiful setting drinking wine. She began a long-term affair, a path she admits she was likely on anyway as her marriage dissolved.

Using another partner to transition out of a bad marriage is one of the common reasons women have affairs.

"They are on a sinking ship and use it as a life raft because they don't want to just jump into the cold water," Reilly says.

She also sees some women have affairs during periods of vulnerability or life change, like when a child goes off to college or after a job loss. They may see it as a form of comfort during upheaval.

Another common reason is a cry for help in the marriage. One of Reilly’s patients had an affair, ended it, and then told her husband as a way to point out they were in more trouble than he thought.

Accidental or On Purpose

Women are also less likely than men to have an affair that "just happens," because they tend to think longer and harder about the situation, experts say.

Some women take time " to warm up to it," says Marcella Weiner, EdD, PhD, an adjunct professor at Marymount Manhattan College in Brooklyn, N.Y. "Going in and leaving quickly isn't their thing. Men can walk away more easily, because their emotions are just different and it is unusual for a woman who wants to have sex and forget about it."

It may be an old notion that women are the ones who get attached in a relationship, Reilly says. But she sees that women do connect with their partners in affairs and think more about taking part in one.

"Women really can recognize the risk for them," Reilly says, pointing to the possibility of losing their partner because of an affair.

When it comes to affairs, society tends to more harshly judge women than men, Reilly says.

"Women don't easily have an affair," she says.

Your thoughts ladies? Men?

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lovedakidz

And just like that...the season is over.

It came and went in a flash.

As many of you know, I coach my son Kameron's 8 and under football team. Our season ended this past Saturday. We finished our season with a record of 4-4. It wasn't the season that we expected. Three of the losses were by less than a touchdown...including a game that we lost by 1 point. The other loss was to our rival, Rock Chapel. We lost 21-7 but the referees "mysteriously" called 3 of our touchdowns back (you do the math!).

Nevertheless, I really enjoyed this season. I enjoyed working with these kids every day. For a long time, I didn't know if I'd ever want to coach football. I played the game from the age of 8 through college. I picked up a football for the first time at 8. I fell in love with the game. It was all about competing for me...even at 8. I wanted to be the best on the field. I wanted to prove that nobody could line up against me and be better than me. And that's what I did. You can't coach that. You're born with it. I didn't know if I could translate what I know to a bunch of kids. But I have...and it's been phenomenal. People always talk about giving back. Some give their money. Some give themselves. And that's what I've done. I never thought I'd enjoy it this much. I missed most of our "training camp" b/c I was working in Minneapolis. Late in July, Kameron said "Daddy, when are you coming back. I need you out there to coach me." Those words pierced my chest. I was back on the sidelines the week before our first game.

The season didn't go as planned but I loved it. Kameron played extremely well. He started the season at quarterback but moved to defensive tackle. He shined on defense. I was surprised to see him play as well as he did. He's got a lotta heart. He's already talking about next year. Next year is very promising for us. We'll have 22 of our 27 players returning next year. Think we won't win the city championship?? Think again!

I think it's always good to finish the season on a good note. For the last game of the season, we paid a visit again to our rival, Rock Chapel. The referees couldn't help them this time. And trust me...the score wasn't THIS close!