"He/she is TOO emotional"
How many times have you heard that said about someone? If you're like me...you've probably heard it alot.
I learned at an early age to always keep my head. No matter what was going on. Never get too high or too low. One thing I also learned was to never be TOO emotional...about anything. Use your emotions to the bring out the best in yourself. There is a such thing as being emotionally intelligent.
I came across this article and I wanted to share it with you...
How to be Emotionally Intelligent
1. SELF-AWARENESS
Realistic self-confidence: You understand your own strengths and limitations; you operate from competence and know when to rely on someone else on the team.
Emotional insight: You understand your feelings. Being aware of what makes you angry, for instance, can help you manage that anger.
2. SELF-MANAGEMENT
Resilience: You stay calm under pressure and recover quickly from upsets. You don’t brood or panic. In a crisis, people look to the leader for reassurance; if the leader is calm, they can be, too.
Emotional balance: You keep any distressful feelings in check — instead of blowing up at people, you let them know what’s wrong and what the solution is.
Self-motivation: You keep moving toward distant goals despite setbacks.
3. EMPATHY
Cognitive and emotional empathy:Because you understand other perspectives, you can put things in ways colleagues comprehend. And you welcome their questions, just to be sure. Cognitive empathy, along with reading another person’s feelings accurately, makes for effective communication.
Good listening: You pay full attention to the other person and take time to understand what they are saying, without talking over them or hijacking the agenda.
4. RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
Compelling communication: You put your points in persuasive, clear ways so that people are motivated as well as clear about expectations.
Team playing: People feel relaxed working with you. One sign: They laugh easily around you.
The question is...are you emotionally intelligent? If so, which qualities do you have?
2 comments:
I like you learned how to keep my head at an early age. I have all of the qualities listed but there was a time when I was such a ticking time bomb, I think back now and wonder how I even made it pass day one at my first firm. I think some of that also comes with getting older.
I like to express the full range of my emotions at times...however, there's definitely a time and place for it :P
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