Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Somewhere between Twitter, Facebook, and The 12th Planet you can find me...thinking. You all know about the off the dome...random thoughts. But this day, I was thinking about me being single and without children.
Before your mind wanders, everything is good with wifey and the fam. LOL. The thought came from something that I saw on tv. There's a 42 yr old sista who was on Good Morning America. She has created a website to help her find a husband. Her goal is to find a husband...in a year!!!
My first thought was like "huh." Who in their right mind would set their goal to find a husband in a year? She has created a website where she will "solicit" dates and get advice from her close friends as well as thousands of Americans. In essence, she's "pimpin" herself over the 'Net.
It got me to thinking...if I was a single dude with no kids...could I do something like that? I mean, I do have the intangibles. Smart, good looking, driven, college educated, witty, and extremely modest. Could I internet pimp myself like that? Would I accept dates from women from all across the US in an effort to find a woman who would share my last name and have my children?
I applaud the sista's effort but she's going about it the wrong way. Take it from a dude who's been married for nearly 9 yrs. That's not how it's supposed to go down. You can't put a time limit on a relationship. If she meets a guy in September that she's into...is she trying to get married by the following September? That's just backwards. I know that some of you who are reading this are looking for a man who you could settle down with. Please don't do this! LOL. This chick is gonna waste a year chasing a dream. You can't force things. Relationships...like flowers...must be cultivated so that they can grow into something more than what they are. IF (and that's a big if) she finds a man, she sounds like the type who may spend too much time worried about the wedding and not the marriage. She's spend a year trying to find him...marry him without really knowing him...and be divorced in 6 months.
She's going about this like a kid on the basketball court who spends countless hours trying to dunk but never works on his jumpshot. He never learned the fundamentals. He was too busy being worried about something else. You've gotta crawl before you can walk.