Thursday, January 22, 2009


People are interesting.

Well...I think so. I can't speak for everybody.

Maybe I should have been a psychologist. I'm always intrigued about how/why people think the way that they do.

Peep this a tell me whut you think...

I was talking to my boy Demarcus the other day. He was perplexed by a situation that he found himself in. Demarcus dated Kaylin for 3 years when they were in college. Not long after he graduated, they broke off their relationship. They agreed to go their separate ways. The relationship didn't end on a sour note. They had just simply grown apart. But they remained friends even after they called it quits. They would still talk from time to time as the years passed.

One of Kaylin's good friends in college was a chick named Tattina. Tattina was good friends with Demarcus, too. Tattina and Kaylin hung out a lot. They took classes together b/c they had the same major. One day when they were in college, Tattina told Kaylin that she slept with Demarcus. Kaylin and Demarcus were still dating. Tattina was more than apologetic. She said that they had gotten drunk one night and one thing led to another. Kaylin was shocked to hear the news. She couldn't believe that her friend had slept with her man. Kaylin was determined to be an adult about the situation. She never even mentioned it to Demarcus. She forgave them and moved on.


One day, Demarcus was on the phone with Kaylin. She had called him to wish him a happy new year. Somewhere during the phone call, the conversation changed.

Demarcus: "Hey, have you talked to Tattina lately?"

Kaylin: "I talked to her 2 weeks ago. Why do you ask?"

Demarcus: "I was just asking b/c I know that you are tight with her."

Kaylin: "Yeah, we're still cool. I have to give myself props for that b/c I could have really killed her for what she did. What Y'ALL did!"

Demarcus: (sounding surprised) "Y'all? What did I do?"

Kaylin: "Aw c'mon. You know that you slept with her. Don't play dumb. She told me about that night that y'all got drunk and had sex. I can't tell you how much I wanted to kick both of your asses. But I was grown...I let it go. It hurt, tho. I cried many nights b/c of it. You and I are still friends so we can talk about it now. But it hurt back then. I forgave y'all."

Demarcus: "She told you that? Are you serious?

Kaylin: "Yeah. She told me the whole story. Let's just drop it. I don't wanna fly down there to kick your ass."

Demarcus: "Aight"

Here's the kicker...he really DID NOT sleep with Tattina. He was in a state of shock. He's not sure why Tattina would tell Kaylin that they slept together. Did she do it to break them up? He really wanted to defend himself and tell Kaylin the truth but he didn't want to make her upset. He told me that Tattina will be coming to Miami (where Demarcus lives) next month to visit her mother. He said that he always found Tattina attractive but he never tried to push up on her. But now he's asking me...

1. Should he confront her about lying about them sleeping together?

2. Should he try to sleep with her know...make the lie a reality?

3. Should he tell Kaylin the truth even though he knows that they'll never be together again?

Like I said...interesting.

(true story...the names have been changed to protect the innocent)

Your thoughts...hollatchaboi!!!


The Jaded NYer said...

Oh for the love of Pete... how old are these people?? Who CARES what happened eons ago?

Katie said she forgave them, she's still friends with the lying hussy and nobody's together anymore, so what's the point of drudging up the past like that?

My vote is to let it sliiiiiide!

Angel said...

I dont know you know...I wouldnt want someone around me that can lie like that I would do all three

Anonymous said...

Because I hate liars, especially ones that lie on me, I'd have to confront the chick. I'd also tell Kaylin that her girl is a lying, deceitful little tart.

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Brother!

"If I were a boy".....I'd tell Kaylin it never happened, confront the other chick, and then hit it! LOL....However, Imma lady so I'll say leave it be!

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

I say leave it in the past. The past is the past.

But, I would keep it in my head that she is capable of lying because he is still "cool" with her. People show you who they are and she will probably lie again.

Kaylin should have confronted them both in college. See what happens when you take one person's word for it? There are always 3 sides to every story, his side, her side and the truth, LOL!

Keith said...

Well, it happened years ago and he's not involved with Kaylin anymore ,so there is no reason for him to do anything. Kaylin wouldn't believe him if he told her that it didn't happen anyway.
I'd just leave it alone..He doesn't stand to gain anything from it one way or the other. I wouldn't even say anything to the other girl about it.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

"If I were a boy".....I'd tell Kaylin it never happened, confront the other chick, and then hit it! LOL....However, Imma lady so I'll say leave it be!

Too Funny - I'm praying for Keisha as I type - LOL

Man, I wouldn't want old girl thinking I hit that, just on GP. A lie is a lie, and I wouldn't want to be on the end of one.

I would only confront the other chick IF I wanted to get with her, because that's all it's going to lead to. She will play coy and say how much she liked him, she knew it was a foul thing to do, yada, yada, yada.

If he's asking, he already wants to hit it, so you know my motto - give no advice, grown folks are going to do what they want to do anyhow.

The F$%K it List said...

Word Jaded, these folks have to be old to be going through this mess.

I could see if the two were still together but since they are not let it slide. Its been a million years already.

Ra said...

I think I would have to say something to Tattina. It doesn't sound like she was the cause of their breakup, so I wouldn't come at Tattina in an angry manner. But I would still have to know what made her say that.

I wouldn't say anything to Kaylin. There's no need in bringing her grief, especially if she still talks to Tattina.

Then once they clear the air...he should hit it ;) LOL (JK).

Kandi Black said...

that is the most confusing thing i have ever hearfd...and its true!

obviously, this demarcus dude should not try to sleep with the girl (why would you even wanna make that type of truth reality?) and i don't think he should confront her either. It is what it is. i slick think he shouldn't try to convince the old ex-gf it didn't happen either cuz you know its gone be her word against his. its kind of a lose/lose situation for demarcus....but the ex-gf said she had let the whole situation go, so i dunno....

sorry for rambling kyle...but this post worried my

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't sleep with T if I were him. If she can lie on dude like that years ago there's no telling what she can conjure up now.

Tigeress said...

He should go with option 3 & 1. He definitely needs to confront Tattina and let Kaylin know it's all a lie. As for! well if he can, why not? jk

12kyle said...

@ Jaded Santana
Haaaaa! Lying hussie! You are funny!

@ Angel
You'd do all three! LoL

@ BorednTalkative
I think he thinks if he tells Kaylin...she's gonna go off on Tattina. He doesn't really want that but he doesn't like his name being "dragged thru the mud"

@ Keisha the Kitten
LMAO!!!! That is hilarious!!!!

@ Kay C the Quiet Storm
I really don't know how she was able to let that happen and NOT say anything.

@ Keith
He DOES have something to gain...he could hit it! Lmao!!!

12kyle said...

@ Rich
Keisha is crazy...aint she?

Yeah, he wants to hit it. He may not admit it but I know what's up.

@ The F$%K it List
thank youuuuuuu (lmao). I agree. Maybe he does need to let it ride

@ Ra
Once the air clears...lmao! You're too funny, Ra

@ Kandi Black
"this demarcus dude should not try to sleep with the girl (why would you even wanna make that type of truth reality?)

Answer...because he's a man...and sometimes that's what we do! LoL

@ Jewells
Good point! Liars are liars. They don't change.

@ Tigeress
Haaaaa! I think he can. And I really think he wants to.

laughing808 said...

What was the point of Kaylin bringing it up if she had REALLY gotten over it?

I'd advise homeboy to let by gone be by gones, no point in bringing up past actions.

Anonymous said...

As Demarcus, I'd put lil ole Tattina on notice that her cat's out the bag. Just let her know that there's no need to tell a lie and include him in on it. If she wants to be a liar, fine but leave his name out of it.

He'd be fighting a losing battle telling the ex cuz she won't believe him anyway. That's how some chicks are. And if she chose not to say anything to him about it when she found out, she's got her own special way of dealing with stuff.

But ole girl is trifling. Period.

If it were me, they'd all know.

MzInspiredMind81 said...

Yea it happened years ago, but come on...why lie about something like that! I'd have to confront ol girl and I'd tell my ex that ol girl is CLEARLY not playing w/ a full deck. Sometimes you have to put folks on BLAST even if it happens years later.

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CurvyGurl ♥ said...

OK, one more time for good measure...tell D to leave that ish alone! LOL

dessex said...

As a man I would go with option one first and then try. For option two LOL

Brad said...

Me personally......I say if he's still feeling Tattina...he should just do what grown folks do. Definitely be a smooth gentleman about it. Do what men do and get that woman. Whatever happened then leave it alone....until AFTER you get the woman. Make it some pillow talk type stuff.

She'll be much more apt to tell the truth anyway if she's laying there naked and satisfied.

Pro said...

Y you had to pick ghetto names bruh; however, that is beside the point. I totally think Kaylin is the better woman of the two. He should run like Forest from Tattina because she obviously has the art of deception to a science. IF he doesn't want to get caught up in her web he'd better leave those old lustful feelings in. the. past. Even if he wanna just 'hit' next lie that will be told is she "lost the baby that her and D' made on her vacay to Miami." She sounds like her hidden issue is being envious of Kaylin. Big ups to Kay for being a REAL woman about hers.

Great story (12 Teach the art of story tellin).

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Opinionated Diva said...

lmao @ Jaded NYer...she is SUCH a NOO YAWKUH!!! lmao...just really to the point.

rolling my eyes @ #2. MEN!!

I think he should just stay away from ole girl altogether.

I can't believe that Kaylin NEVER told him or confronted him when they were in college. That's just weird.

12kyle said...

@ laughing808
Good point! Did she REALLY get over it?

@ theweightofwhatisreal
"If it were me, they'd all know."

Classic! LOL

@ MzInspiredMind81
Nuffin wrong with putting folks on blast!

@ THe AFriCan pOet

leave a comment next time, homeboi. this ain't advertising here

@ CurvyGurl ♥

@ dessex
# necessary! LOL

@ Brad
Classic Brad...internet dap!

@ Pro
I wish I made this stuff up. This one is so true. Hey! Good to see you hangin out. Hope all is well with you and the fam.

@ Rawdawgbuffalo
That's what I said

@ OD
I think she was too hurt to say something back then. I don't know how she did it.

Charece said...

I think he should tell Kaylin the truth and make it a reality.

L. Renee' said...

Keep the past in the past. It sounds like she is still salty about the situation. But, if she didn't confront the friend then he shouldn't either. Let it go and walk away.....

12kyle said...

@ Charece
That's not a bad idea!

@ LRenee
She does sound salty. Maybe he should let it go and move on.

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Stew said...

if he confronts tattina about it she is not gonna be truthful. she has already proven herself to be a liar, so there is no way that she would tell him the truth.

he should tell kaylin just so that she will not have that negative view of him. there is nothing worse than someone having a misconception of you because of a lie.

if they end up sexin then so be it. he should not make a move, but if it happens it happens