Monday, June 23, 2014

7 Annoying Things You Should Stop Doing On Facebook

I found this article on after it was posted on Facebook by my boy OJ last week. Very interesting...

Where the heck are the “Dislike” and “Eye-roll” buttons on Facebook? The creators of the social media giant are slipping because these days, Facebook is being heavily abused by most users! Annoying is the word that comes to mind when I log onto my Facebook account. From statuses bragging about amazing jobs or vacations to the statuses that subliminally chastise a cheating lover, I am beyond annoyed with Facebook

Out of the 1000 friends you have connected to you on your Facebook, about 20 percent of those people (and sometimes less) are actually your friends who care about you and your day to day life filled with bragging, enlightened messages and relationship woes.

In order to start the new year off right, I wanted to make sure that you understood that there are indeed several annoying habits that play out on Facebook and you should stop them…now. Want to know what they are so you can stop? Check them out below:

1. The Brag

You know those statuses. “Life is so awesome. I just snagged a new promotion, bought a new car and signed the lease for my new mansion. It’s hard work, but somebody’s got to be amazing. LOL! #LovingLife”

A post making your life sound great, either you got your dream job, got your degree, love your new apartment you’re taking off on an amazing trip, just met your favorite singer, heading out on a fun night with friends or just had an amazing day–no matter how you look at it, is a brag!

Either you are honestly really that excited about your life, you want people to see you in a specific light or you’re trying to make the people in your life feel worse about their own lackluster lives because yours is so great. No matter your excitement, there are less public ways to share your good fortune. You could call, email, text or just tell your loved ones that things are going great for you. And when someone asks you how you day is, instead of simply stating, “Fine,” why not detail how awesome your day truly is?

The Bottom Line: Your moment of self-satisfaction is brutally annoying to people you’re not that close with, and those are the people who make up the vast majority of your Facebook audience.

2. The Humble Brag

What’s worse than bragging? Doing it with the intention of appearing humble. Many people disguise these brags as rants–something like, “OMG, can’t I just go to work in the morning. Three men stopped me to tell me I was beautiful and asked for my number, a man gave me his seat on the subway, telling me, ‘You’re way too gorgeous to have to stand,’ then I get to work, just to be honked at and winked at twice before I walked in the door. Grrrr #MenSuck!”

We get it, you’re beautiful, so the world can’t help but notice and obviously, it’s exhausting. SMH. Don’t tell the world that, via Facebook because honestly, we don’t care. If we know you, then we know you’re exceptionally gorgeous. We’re only friends with you in the first place to look at your photos in the middle of the night, while eating Ben & Jerry’s.

Oh and there’s others like, “Packing for Maui. Ugh anyone know a device that will help me pack my cutest summer gear in a flash?” We get it, you’re going on a trip. Great for you. The bragging for trips should really start once you’re actually on the trip, you’re going to flood our timeless with jealousy-inducing tweets anyway.

The Bottom Line: Wrapping your bragging in a pretty and humble package doesn’t make it anymore tolerable. Stop it and stop it right now. Oh and it also doesn’t make you humble.

3. Detailing Your Amazing Or Awful Relationship

What are you trying to prove by telling everyone on Facebook that you love the love of your life? That’s understood. And on the opposite side of the same coin, we have the many women and men scorned, who take to Facebook to vent their hatred toward their significant other.

Maybe the folks who share way too much about their loving or not-so-loving relationships are trying to strengthen the relationship or show that they’re so much better than their good-for-nothing ex by publicly showing their feelings, rather than saying it in private.

Really?! You’re gonna drag 800 of your “closest friends” into your crap because you couldn’t find a more creative way to go over-the-top in expressing yourself?

The Bottom Line: There’s no excuse for it! Just because you feel the need to plaster your relationship all over Facebook, doesn’t make it the only way to express your love. There are plenty of socially acceptable ways to do so–in fact, go nuts with couple profile photos and enjoy the plethora of incoming “Likes,” and comments when you change your status to “in a relationship,” “engaged” and/or “married.” But sharing every little nuance in your relationship is just unacceptable. We don’t care.

4. Updating Your Status, Literally

Often times, out days are mundane. We wake up, get dressed, go to work or about our days, go home and do it all over again. So when you hop on Facebook first thing in the morning and say, “Just woke up. #IWokeUpLikeThis #Flawless,” no one cares.

“Hitting the shower. That was a HARD workout.” What do you want? A bunch of “Likes” and virtual high fives? People are honestly not that invested into your everyday life. Narcissism is the name of the game and honestly, so is loneliness. Facebook has given lonely folks a venue to express themselves without shame or discretion. I’m pretty sure the world could care less about what should really be IM away messages. Remember those? We used to take those little messages seriously!

The Bottom Line: This is severe narcissism at its worst. It’s as if somehow, because you’re you, even the smallest details of your life are interesting to others. A weird part of the life of a major celebrity is that people are obsessed with everything about them. If you’re not a celebrity, this is not a problem you have, promise.

5. Spouting Enlightened Messages

While I appreciated being inspired and reading messages of positivity on my Facebook feed, I grow very weary of those who think they their words of wisdom mirror Deepak Chopra’s. What’s worse than that are the folks who use various Bible quotes or deep quotes they looked up on Google, “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” -Aristotle Onassis

There’s nothing honorable or inspiring about you Googling quotes. You know what inspires people? When you achieve something incredible and let that serve as an example and inspiration to others. While I can appreciate your heightened sense of self-esteem, your Facebook update is not going to change the world. It just won’t.

The Bottom Line: When you post something inspirational or “deep on Facebook, it seems you are trying to explain to the world that are you indeed profound and that your words alone can spark a revolution. That can’t and won’t happen. By all means, keep spreading positivity, but let me make it plain for you–You’re not as profound as you think.

6. Subliminal Messages

Every time I see one of those specific messages with no name, I think, “Who hurt you?” Do you know the 800 plus people are are following you? If you did, you’d know that the one or two people who would even think the message is about them would never say anything in your comments, so what’s the point of even putting it out there? Is there any satisfaction on your part once you’ve shared this cryptic status with the world?

“Something, you can be really annoying, but I’ll never stop loving you. You know who you are you.” Do they? If this message was so important, why not make the grand gesture of going to the person specifically and telling them?

The Bottom Line: You are clearly still stuck in high school, wanting the world to know that something you are socially involved in is something they need to know about, but not all the way know–just know enough to be jealous. Please stop. Grow up.

7. Stupid Invites To Play Stupid Games

I love my sister dearly, but every time I log onto Facebook, I am slammed with invites from her to play Candy Crush or some other pointless game created to steal away all of my time and attention. I don’t want to play and if I did, I am pretty sure I’d seek you out.

Here’s a suggestion–befriend people who update their statuses like, “I love dumplings,” or “I’m so sleepy,” and ask them to play. They’re bored and will likely say yes and then proceed to tell the world about it in status updates.

The Bottom Line: Ain’t nobody got time for that! I am not on Facebook to play games with you. And if I was, I know where to go. Stop inviting me. Also–if I never said yes from the first invite, why would you continue to invite me. This means you have no common sense and we probably shouldn’t be friends.

With all that said, are you guilty of being annoying on Facebook?

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

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Monday, June 2, 2014

Can You Answer These 4 Trick Interview Questions?

I found the following article on I found it to be very interesting. While I can't say that I've been tripped up in any interviews, this is could happen to anybody. The question would YOU handle it???

1. About the Company:
What Is the Worst Thing You’ve Heard About This Company?

This interview question is used to shock the applicant, testing their composure and ability to think on their feet. You shouldn’t say anything too negative, because this may offend the interviewer and they could question why you would be applying to the company if you’ve heard such negative reports about it.

In a similar manner to how you would answer questions about any of your own shortcomings, frame your reply in positive terms. This is a chance to show that you’ve done your research. Pick out a recent problem that has been in the news and advertise yourself and your qualities as part of the solution:

The most negative news I have heard regarding JPMorgan Chase was the charge of misleading investors during the housing crisis — selling low-quality mortgage-backed securities to investors who were unaware that the securities often contained faulty mortgage products. However, what followed wasn’t negative at all; in fact, it was good and encouraging to see how the problem was faced head-on, even with a record $13 billion settlement with U.S. authorities.

After acknowledging that serious misrepresentations were made to the public, now many investors seem to think the bank will emerge relatively unscathed from the fines, with the share price bumping up against a 10-year high. I think shareholders have responded positively to the resolution of some of the uncertainty around the company.

2. About You:
What Can You Do for Us That Someone Else Can’t Do?

This can be tricky, because you don’t know what other candidates have applied for the job. The key here is to really sell yourself and give an account of the attributes/experiences that make you stand out:

I can offer unbeatable enthusiasm, an excellent knowledge of criminal law as well as recent issues that have come up in the press, and I have great communication skills, demonstrated by my role as Communications Editor for the student newspaper. On top of this, what really sets me apart from other candidates is my strong ethical code and my desire to help others.

Throughout my time at college, I volunteered at local charities and also helped to set up a social enterprise society that now advises and helps struggling local businesses. My tireless devotion both to my work and to those around me tends to make me a more useful team player than my peers; it is this that can set me apart from the other candidates you have and will interview.

3. About Your Work:
Have You Already Done the Best You Are Capable Of?

This can be a double-edged sword and shows why one-word answers are a definite no!

If you say no, they might ask why you don’t think you’ve been doing your best work. Have you been lazy? Complacent? If so, why should they hire you? On the contrary, to say yes would be to admit your best work is behind. Why would a company hire someone who believes they have already peaked?

The trick is to say yes and no, while also saying neither. This sounds like a confused oxymoron, but it can make sense. You need to show confidence in regards to any past work, but believe that your best work is ahead of you. You need to be modest but confident and see the position you’re applying for — and the coworkers — as a positive way achieve more:

I would say that I always do the best work I can at any given time. In my past work, it’s true to say that I did the best I was capable of, running the business team of a social enterprise society during my final year of college while also working on group projects and my personal dissertation. It meant a few sleepless nights approaching deadline week, but it resulted in the society turning a profit for the first time in several years, as well as receiving top honors for my dissertation.

However, I believe that I can achieve even better work in the future, especially in this position. With the opportunity to learn from the other team members, as well as the on-the-job training I believe you provide, I expect to excel to new heights while working in these surroundings.

4. About the Interview:
How Would You React if I Told You Your Interview So Far Was Terrible?

This is a test to see how well the candidate can maintain their composure. The interviewer is looking for the candidate’s ability to think on their feet and whether they can respond articulately under pressure. In this situation, you should be diplomatic and notice that the interviewer used the word “if”:

I have to admit, I would be somewhat disappointed, especially as I believe that I’ve answered your questions rather well and have shown why I would excel in the position. However, I would take this as a challenge. I would try to establish in what ways I had failed to meet your expectations, before spending the remainder of the interview proving to you that I am indeed the perfect candidate.

I have every confidence that I suit the role perfectly and I believe that I can show you why, if you could tell me how I have let myself down so far.