Saturday, February 18, 2017

PODCAST: the good break up

We all have experienced a break up or two when it comes to relationships. Some have ended on a good note. Others haven't. On this podcast, we will discuss breaking up with someone. In particular, how to have a good break up with your ex mate. The podcast is co-hosted by special guest, Echo Silent. Listen and let us know what you think.

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Saturday, February 11, 2017

PODCAST: Baduizm...20 Years Later

1997 was a very good year for music. In particular, we were given a gem from Erykah Badu. She released her debut album, Baduizm, on February 11, 1997. Listen to the latest edition of The 12Kyle Podcast as we discuss the album, the tracks, and the significance of this album. We also explore the greatness of Erykah Badu. We present...Baduizm...20 Years Later

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Saturday, February 4, 2017

PODCAST: what happened to R&B music

Check out the latest edition of The 12Kyle Podcast. On this episode, I will ask the question..."What happened to R&B music?" Does the genre still exist? How does today's R&B compare to R&B music from back in the day? All of this...and more will be discussed on The 12Kyle Podcast

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Thursday, February 2, 2017

does she regret the 1 night stand

I found the following article in Men's Health magazine. Very interesting...

Even if no-strings-attached sex seems great at the moment, post-sex regret might creep up with the sunrise. And it seems to occur more for women than men, a study from Norway suggests.

Researchers asked 263 people ages 19 to 37 how much they regretted either engaging in or passing up a recent casual sex experience. About 35 percent of women surveyed expressed regret, compared to just 20 percent of men. Plus, only 30 percent of women said they were happy with their most recent one-night stand, while around 50 percent of men said the same. (These are the new rules of one-night stands.)

So it’s not really a surprise that women were more likely to be pleased with passing on no-strings-attached sex: 80 percent said they were glad they declined a recent chance of casual sex. That’s nearly double the amount of men who said the same. (In fact, 30 percent of men regretted not getting frisky when they were given the chance.)

Women did worry more about pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and loss of reputation associated with casual sex, but those factors don’t account for the sex differences when it came to post-sex regret. Even the difference in sexual satisfaction didn’t seem to explain the disparity.

Instead, researchers suggested that it comes down to fundamental differences that tie into evolutionary psychology. Basically, women may be more wired to see sex as a way to have children with a supportive partner. A short-term rendezvous wouldn’t provide that for them. But for men, the results of short-term sex wouldn’t be so problematic—so they look for casual opportunities more than women do.

Monday, January 30, 2017

bound for heaven...

Rest in Peace, Grandma

April 10, 1921 - January 27, 2017

Sometimes you expect people to be around forever. It's not possible. But with just do.

I wasn't shocked when I got the phone call that my paternal grandmother, Opal Dowling, had passed away. Her nurses had advised the family earlier in the week that she would not make it through the week. Those same nurses had advised that she would not make it through the month of December. But she did. This time, I knew it was a matter of time. So, I wasn't shocked when I got the phone call. I was saddened by the call...but not shocked. But more than being sad...I was thankful.

My grandmother got to live 95 years on this Earth. That's a huge blessing and I'm extremely thankful for that. We would all be lucky if we lived to be that age. Up until the day that she died, she knew who she was and where she was. She wasn't in any pain when she left us. I find comfort in those things. She lived through a bad marriage and divorce with my late grandfather. She raised their 5 kids the right way. Unfortunately, she outlived 2 of her kids. Grandma stayed faithful in her belief in God and she always moved forward. She lived through world wars, segregation, and she voted for a black man who became president. She saw a lot in her lifetime.

I'm thankful for the time that I did spend with my grandmother. She was a funny lady. Very funny, beautiful, intelligent, quick witted, and she had a sharp tongue. She would let you know how she felt without holding back. I think that some of what she had was passed to me. And I'm thankful for that. Unlike most kids, I didn't see her all the time. I only saw her a couple of times a year. Grandma lived in Newark, NJ. I was born in Newark but my parents and I moved to South Carolina when I was 3 years old. I'd visit Grandma on holidays or when we would visit NJ for the summer. Even when my parents divorced when I was 13, my mom still made sure that my brother and I saw Grandma when we went to NJ to visit our family.

Grandma lived in the same high rise apartment building since the 60s (i think). I know she had been there for all of my life. One of the best things about her apartment was that it had a great view of the skyline in Newark. And it had a great view of the skyline in New York City. You could easily see the Empire State Building, the Statue of Liberty, and the World Trade Center. I remember spending HOURS just staring out of that window. New York City was only 10 miles away but from her window it felt like you could touch it because it was much closer than that. I enjoyed those days being around her listening to her tell stories about my Dad. Grandma always had a funny story to tell.

As the years passed, I would joke with her about sending me a birthday card "on time." My birthday is December 9th. But for most of my life, Grandma would send my birthday card to me a week or 2 after my birthday. Sometimes, I'd get in in January. But it was cool because it came from Grandma. Unlike my cousins who lived in New Jersey, I didn't get to see her as much. When I got to college, I'd call once and awhile just to say hello. I think I called about as much as any other kid in college would call. I wish that I had called more and made more visits as time passed. But I don't have any regrets because I know she loved me and I loved her.

These past 2 years have been to be expected. She moved from Newark to Virginia to live with my cousin. She could no longer live in that apartment in NJ. My cousin and his family took excellent care of her. Grandma was in the initial stages of dementia. When I got the word about it, I had a deep fear that I would call her and she wouldn't know who I was. I couldn't live with that. I had already experienced dementia with my late Uncle Ronnie. I talked to her a handful of times but only twice within the past year. I would have much rather seen her face-to-face so that she would remember me. It didn't happen. I'm at peace with it. I have great memories of Grandma. I remember one of our last and funniest conversations...

Me: "Grandma, I saw some pictures of you."

Her: "Where did you see pictures of me? I didn't take no damn pictures."

Me: "LOL. They were taken with a cellphone."

Her: "Oh."

Me: "Grandma, you look good for your age."

Her: "Boy, I look good for ANY age!"

LOL! That's my Grandma. That's who she is. I thank God for making. I thank God for helping her make the man that made me. I know God will take care of her.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

PODCAST: the Obama Years

Check out the latest edition of The 12Kyle Podcast. On this episode, I will discuss my thoughts on President Barack Obama. I will reflect on the impact and legacy that his presidency had. I will also share a personal story about how his policies saved the industry where I work...and subsequently saved me.

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Saturday, January 14, 2017

PODCAST: many of us have them

Check out the latest edition of The 12Kyle Podcast. 

On this episode, we will discuss FRIENDS. All of us have friends. How do we define our friendships? Who are our true friends? Can you have too may friends...or not enough friends? Are friends from social media our "real friends"? We'll also break down the hip hop classic song, Friends, and how it relates to us and how we define friendship.

I'll also give you 3 characteristics that I think every friend should have. All of this...and more... will be discussed on The 12Kyle Podcast.

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Thursday, January 12, 2017


Editors Note...A few years ago, me and some of my fellow hip hoppers (Rashan Jamal, CRecks, & eclectik) would get together on twitter and comically and randomly discuss some questions from hip hop that were never answered. As I was thinking about how we would go back and forth, I came up with a few of my own...

How did Rampage get picked to rhyme on "Flava In Ya Ear"?

Why hasn't Luke and the 2 Live Crew not gotten a Lifetime Achievement Award?

Why didn't people like the way that Sally walked?

Why was Memphis Bleek and Amil on Rocafella but Sauce Money and Foxy Brown wasn't?

Who allowed Snoop to do a remake of "Vapors"?

Why is Rapper's Delight so long?

Can Andre 3000 be considered on a Top 10 rapper list if he never drops a solo rap album?

Why do some people STILL think that Jay Z won the battle against NaS?

How was TI "crowned" the King of the South? Was there a ceremony?

What is blow tishes? Did LL ever explain that?

Why does the DJ always want to know if Brooklyn is in the house?

What happened to the mixtape "exclusives" that were really exclusives?

Why did we never get Lil Kim and Foxy Brown on multiple songs or a collaborative album?

What happened to the maxi-single?

Would Biggie and Tupac be as revered if they were still alive?

Why didn't A Tribe Called Quest bring back Jarobi for Beats, Rhymes, and Life instead of using Consequence?

How did the guy who admitted that he "don't smoke weed or cess" go on to make an album called The Chronic?

When Suge Knight chastised the label for having the "CEO dancing all in the artists videos" do we know not know he wasn't talking about Jermaine Dupri?

How many Roxanne's are there? Do we really know?

If the roof was really on fire, why would we let the mutha#%*~a burn?

Was there a better MTV Cribs edition than Redman's?

Why wasn't Big Daddy Kane actually on the set of the video for "The Symphony"

Why do they still call it a "freestyle"? Very few people actually still freestyle...

Did anybody ever confirm that Ice Cube got a triple double?

Thursday, January 5, 2017

off tha dome

random thoughts...

it's "Happy New Year"...not "Happy New Years"...singular not plural

it's no need for some folks to make resolutions for what they'll do in the new year. they'll be back doing the same ole BS in 3 wks

football season is almost over. I'm not happy about that

I spent a few days in my hometown, Florence, SC and brought in 2017 there. It felt good to get out of Atlanta and get back home

I finally saw Luke Cage over the holidays. it was dope

as much as I didn't like george bush...I would have voted for him 3 times before I voted for Donald Chump

speaking of Chump...why is he ALWAYS on twitter? this ain't a game, fool. you're about to be the leader of the free world and you are on twitter like it's the place to be. are you 15 years old???

if a woman goes to the gym with makeup on, she's probably not too concerned with working out. she's trying to "get chosen".

if I see one more dude trying to show off his "belt buckle" I'm gonna scream. is that the new trend? nobody cares what kind of belt that you have. just wear a belt

oh how times have changed...the New England Patriots, Cleveland Cavaliers, and the Golden State Warriors are 3 teams that have sucked for most of my life. and now they are on top. go figure

hey Solange...thank you for that INCREDIBLE album. i never heard one song from you before i heard that album. sorry for sleeping on you

if I told you that I will write more in 2017, I'd be lying. and I don't want to lie to you.

i will definitely miss them...

the "Facebook poke" was/is useless

there's always one jerk who hits "reply all" to an email that wasn't meant to go to the masses

give the drummer some...

i'm not a fan of the mass text messages...especially when someone replies to everybody and you don't know them. you get random text messages from people who you don't know

my mom makes the best lasagna

i read a report that said Chicago had 762 homicides in 2016. that's more than NYC and LA COMBINED!!! that's scary and sad on so many levels

congrats to Penny Gordon on having a baby at age 50. I can't imagine changing diapers at 50.

the only thing that I want to do at 50 is play golf and chill

steve harvey ain't funny to me. I respect his hustle...but he can keep those jokes

i'm surprised at how tall my niece has gotten. i think she should try playing basketball. she's going to be at least 6 feet tall

have you ever wrote something...then read it years later...and thought to yourself "I can't believe I wrote something that dope". it happens to me often

the world is bigger than your street

never been a fan of neck tattoos

my 14 year old son, Kameron, asked could he get an earring. I laughed so hard. then I said "nope". it reminded me of the time when I was 17 and wanted an earring and I bought some magnetic earrings. I'm glad I never got my ears pierced the half nekkid women on Instagram who get 10,000 "likes" get money from it?

barry bonds SHOULD be in the baseball hall of fame

remember when Jordan got kicked out of the game for wearing these? the refs said "there wasn't enough white in them"

oatmeal raisin cookies are everything

my generation was the last generation who communicated without the internet

willie washington...still funny to this day

never underestimate the power of laughter

love is...

gotta make it back to NYC this summer...and you should come too

I ain't no joke, I used to let the mic smoke...

I wonder what's next for Simone Biles

if I ask you to hold the that too much to ask?

Saturday, December 31, 2016

PODCAST: Top 5 Hip Hop Albums from 1996

1996 was an incredible year for hip hop. Many people in hip hop circles think that 1996 marked the end of the "Golden Era of Hip Hop". On this podcast, we will discuss the landscape that helped make the music and some of the albums that were made.

More importantly, we will give you the certified Top 5 Hip Hop Albums from 1996. The list is based on the following criteria...lyricism, production, dopeness, impact, and longevity for each album. Leave a comment and let us know if you agree or disagree.

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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

2016 Year in Review Pictures

My year in review (sorta) in pictures...


Deion's band performed at the MLK Day Parade


The 12Kyle Podcast, featured on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher, GooglePlay, YouTube...was well on it's way to becoming your favorite podcast...

I attended the first...among many...Father/Daughter dances with Skyler. We had a ball

At the circus with Brandon, Skyler, and her friend Kai

At lunch with the kids at the best pizza spot in Atlanta...Fellini's


Deion participated in the Cotillion-Beautillion. It was an awesome experience for him. I was very proud. He's pictured here with his escort, Gentille

Mom & Dad made it. Having my parents be there for it was a very happy moment for me.

two of my favorite ladies...

Both Sherice and I were fly. Take a good look because you might not ever see me in a tux...

Hanging with the cool kids...Kameron and Brandon

3 the hard way...Deion, Kameron, and Brandon

the kids were happy to hang out with Grandpa

Skyler was named the Pre-K Scholar of the Week at her school. She is soooo smart

We lost one of my favorite MCs...Phife Dawg from A Tribe Called Quest. I grew up on their music and Phife always felt like the cousin that I never had. While I wasn't fortunate enough to meet him, I felt like I did. Gone but not forgotten. You on point, Phife???

Sherice turned 40. We had a ball celebrating her birthday with friends and family.


The kids with my niece, Mackenzie, in my hometown...Florence, SC.

Deion was headed to DC to visit Howard University. Skyler wasn't happy about it

Doughnuts with Dads day at Skyler's school

Arin, Jamison, and Kellen visited while on their Spring Break

We got to see our godson, Jalen, when we went to see his uncle get married. He's such a cool young man. We love him

Wedding flow

One of my personal favorite moments of the year was seeing Rakim perform here in Atlanta. Anyone who knows me knows how much I love and admire him. It was great to finally see him perform

We lost a legendary genius. Prince is one of my biggest musical influences. His death shocked me and the rest of the world. It's rare for me to feel the sense of loss when entertainers pass away. But I FELT this. I knew Prince...even if only through music...but I KNEW him. It's still hard to believe that he's gone. I did a tribute to him on the 12Kyle Podcast. He's gone but we can always bring him back to life when we press "PLAY".


Skyler's dance recital was great! She performed very well

Kameron was tooo smooth as he attended the 8th grade prom

Another proud daddy moment...Skyler graduated from Pre-K


We lost another legend...Muhammad Ali. As a kid, I didn't have many sports heroes. Other than my uncle, there weren't many sports figures that I looked up to. Not sure why...but I just didn't. But then there was Muhammad Ali. For as far back as I can remember as a young child in the 70s, Ali was larger than life. He wasn't just a great boxer...he was a showman, an activist, a humanitarian and much more.

"A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life." - Muhammad Ali

Thanks Champ

I cherish moments like this that we had at our family reunion. One day she'll be too big or too cool to be on Daddy's shoulders

Sherice & Deion


A night on the town...

I lost my buddy, Cheryl. It's funny how you can get close to someone that you've never met but we were really tight. I miss our conversations. I can't watch the Golden State Warriors and not think about her. I blogged about it here. She's still a Warrior


What is the summer without a day at Six Flags?

First day of school for the kids...Deion (12th grade), Kameron (9th grade), Brandon (4th grade), and Skyler (Kindergarden)

Grandma came to visit

So did my godson, LaKell. It was great seeing him. We love him. 

There was a new addition to the family...a fish named Stitch Abraham. He was only with us for a month. LOL


Baaaaaaad Booyyyyyy...Sherice and I hit Phillips Arena to see the Bad Boy Reunion Tour. It was phenomenal!!! It took us back to the 90s.

Deion and the Marching Rams

Kameron put on a great acting performance in the school play, Dreamgirls. I didn't know the kid could act.

Princess Skyler turned 5. She had a "spa party" at our house with her friends. They had a good time

Kameron and Deion with their little cousin, Zeniya.

Sherice and I celebrated 16 years of marriage. I think that's a major accomplishment!


Sherice and I went back to the place where it started for us...South Carolina State University. It was homecoming. We had a ball! We took Brandon with us.

Senior night

Skyler was Doc McStuffins for Halloween

Me and Brandon went to the Packers vs Falcons game to see the Dirty Birds win a thriller


Brandon participated in the Jr Atlanta Hawks Basketball camp


Skyler was named Scholar of the Week...this time in Kindergarten.

Skyler is chillin with her brothers after her Christmas concert performance

I turned 44 years old on December 9th and became the coolest, freshest, dopest 44 year old that you know

Brandon turned 10 on December 10th

On December 14th, I celebrated the 20 year anniversary of graduating from South Carolina State University.

2016 was a year that saw many highs and lows. Ultimately, it was a great year...because we ALL got to see it. And that is more than enough to be thankful for!!!

May 2017 be filled with blessings and prosperity for you and yours!!!