Thursday, August 14, 2008
25 to life
Marriage. Most of us who don't have it...would like to see it one day. Some want to be married tomorrow. LOL. Marriage is a lotta hard work. Prior to marriage, one must have effective communication about their goals and ambitions about marriage. The good folks at WebMd sent me this article and i thought i'd pass it along.
Before you walk down the aisle, ask the questions that really matter. Dr. Robin Smith shares 25 questions from her book, Lies at the Altar
1. Are you working in your chosen profession?
2. How many hours a week do you work?
3. What is your dream job?
4.What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
5. What does your job entail? (For example: Do you often travel for business, work at home or perform dangerous tasks?)
6. What is your annual income?
7. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts?
8. Do you have significant debts?
9. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
10. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?
11. What sexual activities do you enjoy most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific!
12.Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
13.What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
14. How often do you need or expect sex?
15. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?
16. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
17. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
18. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?
19. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time outs, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?
20. Should boys be treated the same as girls? Should they have the same rules for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?
21. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
22. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
23. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?
24. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?
25. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?
i think that these questions are relevant...even if you're married b/c you have to stay on the same page.
these are great questions to have for someone that you're dating or on a date with.
your thoughts??? how do you think your man/woman would answer some of these questions?