Tuesday, November 18, 2008


"I only seem to attract two types of chicks...

1) hoodrats who have a few kids and now she's looking for a father to help raise the youngins.

2) cougars who have kids almost my age...these are older women who are looking to get their groove back.

Why can't I meet a chick who's on more like my type?"

This statement was made to me a few days ago by a homeboy of mine. I'll be honest...I laughed when he said it. It was sooo funny.

He went on to explain his theory about how sometimes the people that are attracted to us are totally opposite from what we want.

Some of what he said made sense. It's kinda hard to relate to it b/c I'm married. But before I was married...in my day...I never had that kinda problem. The females that I met were my type. I can't really think of any crazy stories.

Here's my question to you...what kind of people are attracted or magnetically gravitate to you. Young... old? Tall... short? Slim...big? Rich...poor?



eclectik said...

It goes without saying what I'm attracted to, it's well documented lol

I seem to get the total opposite of what I want checkin for me though lol

All I ask for is a sexy homebody that has a good job, likes to shop, play chess and scrabble, and appreciates randomness lol


clnmike said...

Same hear hoodrats and cougars, but I think it's because I pay attention to them because I know I wont commit to them.

Anonymous said...

I seem to attract short guys. Well guys shorter than me anyway. And skinny ones too. They have all been older than me as well.

MzInspiredMind81 said...

SIGH! For whatever reason, I attract the 'bad boy'. Now I like my man a lil rough around the edges, but I do NOT want someone w/ a wrap sheet as long as my hair(and my hair is very long). I was once told that I just seem 'sympathetic to their plight'(seriously) b/c I work in a Social Services field...but that is NOT what I want to settle down w/.

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

I attract the "nice guys" who seem to want to take care of people. The ones who have a hard time saying no to people but get mad when no one is around to help them.

It works out until they realize I am not asking for help, I want someone to share life with. Then they move on to the "damzel in distress chick"

12kyle said...

@ e
LMAO @ chess and scrabble. She would definitely have to appreciate the randomness!

@ clnmike
You know that they appreciate the attention

@ BorednTalkative
How tall are you?

@ MzInspiredMind81
I hear you. There's nuffin cute about a 30 year old badass! LoL

@ Kay C
Those "nice guys" always miss the boat b/c they think that every woman needs their help...and they don't.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

Mostly men that are older than me...intelligent...employed...most of that good stuff...MOST. Some of the downfalls are that in conjunction to attracting those men, I tend to attract older, intelligent, employed men who have undercover mental issues, and that bothers me.

B said...

Well, you were there during the Twitter "first date disaster". LMAO! I attract the WORST kind of men....the older men with no dreams, the "boys" my age with no dreams. The 5'4, the pear shaped, the unattractive.....I don't get it. I really don't know how this happens as men like this are OPPOSITE of what I'm lookin' for. It's funny at the moment but it's still so sad. I give up...LMAO!

Eb the Celeb said...

Old ass men that are older than my damn daddy... and yung'ns that aint even old enough to buy me a damn drink.. for the most part I end up dating the ones that are a year or two younger than me by default... but I would love to have someone that is a couple years older... cuz ya'll men in the 20's dont know how to act... a strapping 29-33 year old would be perfect right about now...

Oh and I dont know why men think I am the type of chick that is going to stop and talk to some dude saying shawty or psssssss, or ay girl with the whatever coat on and stop and talk to you on the street. Ugh!!!

Oh and can somebody that doesnt have kids please holla. Ever since high school I have attracted the ones that got baby mama drama... ugh! When I was in college I attracted the wannabe athlete... all they talked about was going pro and this and that and I'm gonna play ball overseas... not one of them negroes went pro....lol

Just Jasmine said...

unfortunately I attract men with kids...who are still in relationships.

I don't know what vibe i'm giving off or if they can somehow smell my breastmilk I dunno... but its annoying

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Brother!

I don't know if this is good or bad...but I can't tell you what type of people I attract because I don't have dudes trying to holla at me......However, in the past they tended to be emotionally unavailable ones....which I'll totally pass on these days!!!

Anonymous said...

I'm a fixer. So I attract the guy that needs fixing. He either wants to finish his degree, start a business or has some emotional damage.

What's crazy is that I don't prefer that type of guy. I don't believe in parenting adults. I want a mate that is equal, can hold his own in a conversation and not afraid to share his hopes as well as his fears.

Haven't ran across that guy just yet.

The F$%K it List said...

As of late it seems to be the guy who wants thinks I am a challenge... Married, huh are you happy? are you allowed to have friends? question I get daily from men that approach me.

It's funny for me because in the end I have a good laugh and they are mad. Oh well!

Opinionated Diva said...

I can't say I attract a specific type...there have been all kinds (married, single, boughie, hood, smart, the dumb jock, etc.).

The short ones try harder to come after me though since I'm only five three.

The Jaded NYer said...

You want to know who I attract?

The dregs of the dregs of the dregs of society. Hence why I'm still single.

Find the biggest loser in any situation and I GUARANTEE he's making googly eyes at me.

Very rare is the gem that comes my way, and when he does I barely notice because I'm so used to the dregs, so I end up treating him poorly.

c'est la vie

ms.minnie said...

Hey... I found your blog by way of eb the celeb

And I seem to attract guys who are so sweet in the beginning...but when you get heavy into the relationship they show how they really are

I try to be open minded when it comes to guys...everyone has flaws ...so I accept a guy flaws and all...the only thing I really wouldn't like is a guy with kids though...too much of a complicated situation

ShonaVixen said...

I seem to attract short guys, the who's eyes settle directly on my chest area....arrrgh...

12kyle said...

@ Beautifully.Conjured.Up
Undercover mental issues. Hahahaha! What ever happened with the professor?

@ B
Mannnn, you had me rollin with that date disaster from the other day!!! Lmao!

@ eb
You might wanna stay away from old dudes. Old dudes are set in their old ways

@ Just Jasmine
Lmao @ smelling breastmilk. Men in a relationship is always a dead end situation. Who wants to be #2?

@ Keisha the Kitten
I find it hard to believe that nobody hollaz at the Kitten!

@ Ieisha
Maybe you're a good fixer is why they flock to you. I don't blame you for not taking them. Who wants to fix something that you won't get any use from?

12kyle said...

@ The F$%K it List
It's always funny to hear dudes go after married chicks.

Are you married? Are you happy?

That's all they ever say. LoL

@ OD
Lmao!!! You're 5-3 and you have dudes shorter than you tryna holla? Awww man!!! That is funny

@ jaded santana
Omg!!! You are hilarious! I'm over here rollin'

@ ms.minnie
Welcome to the 12th Planet. Make sure that you come back. We have a good time over here. We're here every day like a stray cat

I can imagine that it's hard to find guys without kids, huh?

@ ShonaVixen
Welcome to the 12th Planet. Make sure that you come back. We have a good time over here. We're here every day like bad traffic

That is too funny. How tall are you?

ShellyShell said...

Man, I effin hate blogger! I had a long ass post and it dis a fricken peared! Uhhh! Ok Anyway!

In the past I used to date light bright damn near white pretty boys! We'd walk into a spot and my girls would see a light skin dude and look at me and say there you go!

But the last couple of years I've been dating Chocolate men! My ex-fiance', Chocolate(hence the name) and The Teacher! You just want to pour milk all over them! LOL! But they are also ALL younger than me! The ex and Chocolate are 3 years younger and The Teacher is 5.5 years younger! Oh yeah and I tend to date very athletic men who like to work out 5-6/wk! I love that! I will say that the Teacher is the only dude I've dated that doesen't make major bank! And that's ok with me!

Charece said...

I swear everytime I have a conversation with someone about something you blog about it...do you have my phone tapped or something LOL...anyway I was just telling my girlfriend how I seem to attract people that I wouldn't even look at twice. Their always shorter than me, too hood, old, corny and appear to be broke.

Don't get me wrong every now and then I'll get a guy that I would totally holla at if I noticed them first but for the most part I get a lot of lame o's. I think to myself, did you honestly look at me and think that we would be compatible, you're not even on my level? I just don't get it.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

The professor and I are doing fine...I'm just pissed that he threw us a damn project at the last minute!!! I'm realizing that even though I like...often lust after him...I realize that we won't ever have a long term relationship (i.e. marriage) since he has been married before and doesn't plan on doing so again, which is fine for me b/c I didn't want marriage with him anyways...I just wanted...

...hmmmm, I should do an update...

He isn't crazy...just fun to be around.

xcentricgem said...

I attract all types ... Old men in their 'second' midlife crisis; youngins; tall and short; medium build; rich and poor (including foreigners .. which is scary) ... I often wonder why the man on the bicycle feels like its okay to 'holla' when I'm passing him in my car !!! So in looking at the type of ppl you attract, I think you have to look at your (my) personality or your auora. I'm assuming that I have a favorable personality.

Now its time to look at the choices we make...When I was younger, I had no desire to get married or settle down ... too busy for that foolishness....Now that I'm older most mature/decent/std/hiv free men are married...and the others are incarcerated...Boy...hindsight is 20/20.

When I was younger, I was into the 'bad boy'...men with tasteful street swagga from head to toe...mind, body and soul. Well, after awhile, it was just time to get some dress clothes!! Speaking metophorically...it was then that I realized that...the mall that I had been shopping in for so long had a great selection ... but the merchandise was of poor quality. The boutiques that I had passed by had a small selection but superb quality. Now that I've matured enough to shop at the boutique ... the merchandise is either sold or on hold.

What is your friend looking for ... what defines 'a chick more like him' ... If he wants a 'cut buddy' then hoodrats and cougars are what he wants ... he just wants them with no responsibilities. If its a life partner...like the boutique...there are no precious stones available....

Oh well ... you live and you learn ...

Cherish said...

thats funnyit seems as total opposited attract especially when it comes to me. I tend to attract guys who are alot older than me. im only 22 and i always atrract 35 and up. Even when i was younger it was the same. My sons father is is 11 years older than me and when we met i was 17 and he was 28. I woulda have kept it movin had he revealed his true age to me but thats another story in itself. As for me I seem to be attracted to bad guys. one guy even asked me about my father cuz he couldnt understand why my sister and i(good girls) kept snagging the "thugs" but seeing as my dad is an ex-marine and cop and was a big part of our life i dont think he had much to do with it

Charles said...

The crazies gravitate to me. Not perspective people...but just in general. No matter where I'm at or what I'm doing, a crazy person will seek me out like a moth to a flame and try to spark a convo. Ish gets out of hand...


Smarty Jones said...

This is a really funny post, Kyle. Well, I have been known to attract "dirty old men." I don't know why they think I would want to take a man home who is as old as one of my parents.
Apparently I give off the vibe that I'm older than my 26 years and they pick up on that. I'm trying to isolate this behavior so I can modify it and attract men under 35.
The other guys I attract are either really big or really skinny.
I got no problem with big dudes except, I am plump myself and you know damn well we ain't gonna make nothing happen.
What will we do besides argue over who ate what and when? I don't need that in my life.
And skinny dudes I don't have a problem with but they have sharp joints (elbows, knees, etc.) and that hurts. I don't want to get stabbed by a stray elbow in the heat of the moment.
But I will take the skinny dude over the dirty old man any day of the week.

Keith said...

BIG GIRLS.....I always seem to attract Big girls...(Think of comedian, Monique)I used to be very skinny...Six foot two...167
pounds.. I'm 220 now...but it was always the Big Sisters that were attracted to me, while I always wanted their more petite friend.

Sexxy Luv said...

for some apparent reasons dope boys are attracted to me....i use to be attracted to them as well! lol

Stew said...

it is weird because i do not attract a certain type. i have attracted all different types of people. young, old, fat, skinny, tall, short, light, dark, white, black, you name it, i have attracted it.

the question is, do i just look that good, or is all of this just a coincidence???

~Ms. Moore~ said...

I don’t mind when opposites are attracted to me as long as we have a few things in common. But the only way these relationships can work is if both parties are willing to do some of the things that the other likes.
I just want to meet a man that works as hard as I do at my job, our relationship, self-improvement (physical and mental), who likes sports, word/board games and movies.
Unfortunately since I have moved to Georgia I mostly attract men that barely want to work (or not at all), and want to move into my apartment and drive my car.

Pro said...

"what kind of people are attracted or magnetically gravitate to you?"

A-- snoring ass, adoring my ass-- man I've been married to for a decade (come Saturday). [Sigh]

Now, when I have me separateness time (girlfriends night out and the like), entrepreneurs and big-baller type dudes who. are. legit. Both fairly young, around my age; I've yet to encounter distinguished older "Greg-agers" (Real Housewives of ATL) [Heavy sigh]... Why, lawd, whyyyy, am I days late and dollars short? Sick jokes, you got God...

Oh, my bad. A girl can woulda shoulda coulda can't she?

I'm still around, bruh. Still check for me from time to time. e-Hugs to ya.

Darius T. Williams said...

Me? I like 'em tall and thick...and masculine of course - lol.

Mizrepresent said...

I attract the young ones, 25+ years and those in need. I'm a nurturer...i accept that, but i don't necessarily look for it, but i'm good at it! I upgrade, uplift, and so the men i attract already feel this and i understand, so i ain't mad at them...i give, but i expect a return, not so much monetarily, but a return just the same. When i meet men who have it all together, the great job, great car, beautiful house...and then they need a needy woman, which i am not...so it doesn't work out...i thought i could compliment them, but instead i go against the grain, cuz i'm not needy...so to my homies in need...just call me your modern day Salvation Army...i'm just here to help, to heal, to be happy...which in the end doesn't really take much!

Dione said...

Just dropping by because you said I'd been M.I.A.
Lately, I've have attracted LOSERS and folks that look downright SCARY...
Then they seem to not have any form of intelligence beyond guy stuff...

dessex said...

man I am late. From a physical stand point I love thick brown skin women. Not to all but she must have a nice smile and nice legs.

From a mental point she has to be smart. She must be able to make me laugh and she has to be able to challenge me. I could go on but I am picky

CurvyGurl said...

Yikes! In a non-social setting (walking down the street, etc.) it's usually the old playa pimp dude trying to see if he still has skills.

I haven't been out in a while, but I tend to attract decent guys because I do my "5 minute screening". Otherwise, it's the freaky dude who's broke, busted and disgusted but dances like I like to....all the single ladies! LOL

Guess what...? You're tagged :)!


12kyle said...

@ shellyshell
What took you sooo long to come get some chocolate???? We've been in since Big Daddy Kane! LOL

@ Charece
I work for the CIA and yo phone is tapped. LOL. Juss kiddin

Maybe they think they are on your level??

@ Beautifully.Conjured.Up
Yeah...maybe you should do an update!

@ xcentricgem
Excellence!!! I love the analogy

@ Cherish
If you're bringin in older men...I would assume that you're mature for your age. And that's a good thing.

@ Charles
Stay away from the crazies!!! They can (and will) do anything!

@ Smarty Jones
LMAO!!!!! Yooooooooo!!! You are sooo stuuuupid! You had me rollin! Sharp elbows!

@ Keith
Hahahahaha! That's funny bruh. The big girls want you but you want their friends.

12kyle said...

@ Sexxy Luv
Glad there "used" to be an attraction.

@ Ms Moore
What kinda dudes don't wanna work?

@ Pro
Welcome baaaaak!!!

Congrats to you and MrP

@ Darius
hahahahaha! You want those masculine dudes...not the puny ones. LOL

@ Miz
You attract the 25 yr olds b/c you are live like a 25 yr old. You got maaad spunk!

@ Dione
Noooooo!! Not the losers!

@ Dessex
No doubt! I hear you, bruh

@ CurvyGurl
Sounds like he's measuring you up to make sure that his game is still tight.

Thanks for the tag. I'll get the tag post together.

Anonymous said...

Hey Kyle,
I'm 5 foot 10. I don't think I've ever attracted a guy taller than me.

Anonymous said...

Hey whats wrong with the cougars....lol

It aint nothing like a real"OLDER" woman that knows how to treat her man....

Anonymous said...

You know I have to say that same though...I seem to attract very young men...without children...

I never ever attracted older men, whew...good cos im not attracted to them. But where are the guys are at least 30. Im tired of 19 to 25 year old me coming at me...