Monday, March 26, 2012

memo to the ballaz


Money is relative.

You can have it. Or not have it.

I've seen it come and go for some. I've spent more than the past 10 yrs in the financial industry. I'd like to think that I have an idea of how money works.

There has been a disturbing trend of the separation of money and athletes. I will be the first to say that athletes are paid a LOT more money that I make (and probably you too). Yet, there's a trend of prominent athletes (Lenny Dykstra, Antoine Walker, Allen Iverson, & Terrell Owens...just to name a few) who are going broke. How does someone who has made MILLIONS lose their money? It's a lot easier than you may think. We live in a culture where it's celebrated to be BALLIN. I'm all for BALLIN...but I'd advise any athlete to ball on a budget. Allow me to impart some wisdom on you ballers...

1. DON'T BUY A BUNCH OF CARS
This may be hard for some people to understand but you don't need a fleet a cars. Two...maybe 3. Cars have no appreciation value. The value decreases even more when you "trick" the cars out. If I had millions, I'd have 3 cars...that's it. At the end of the day, you can only drive ONE at time.



2. DON'T INVEST IN A BUNCH OF HOUSES
It's ok to buy a house for your mama. There's nothing wrong with having a house or 2 for yourself. But that can be tricky. The housing market is still unstable. Don't buy a house today that you can't resale in 3-5 yrs and make a profi
t

3. UNDERSTAND HOW BUSINESS WORKS
You have to understand how YOUR money works. Make your money work for you. Not the other way around. Ignorance can never be an excuse. If your financial adviser and accountant can count your money...and you can't...guess who's gonna be broke????

4. SLASH YOUR PAYROLL
I'm amazed at how many athletes have friends and family members who are on their payroll and they do nothing. Personal chef, barber, event planner...are all some of the pseudo titles that you'll hear from time to time. You can't pay for everybody. I understand the feeling of not wanting to disappoint your "posse" or "click" but you have to be practical about how you spend your money.

5. GROUPIE LOVE
If you have money, the groupies will come. Athletes are quick to talk bad about groupies but they are just as guilty. Some chicks are looking for a good time. Others are looking for a meal ticket. They know if you get them pregnant, they'll be "set for life." I remember an old head told me when I was young that "a child is a million dollar investment." Guess that means ole 12kyle is worth 4M! LOL. Seriously, child support is no joke. It's hard to fathom why an athlete would have to pay 10k per month for a baby who can barely walk. But that's the rules. Before you lay down, think about the consequences.



6. TEMP GIG

This is the golden rule that all athletes must remember...As a professional athlete, you have the best TEMP JOB in America! Nobody plays forever. It doesn't matter how great you are, one day you won't be able to play. And when that day comes, you can't earn that check. It doesn't matter if you make 20M a year. There will come a time that you won't earn that. If you don't take care of your money, you're gonna be in trouble. Money is relative. Most people spend/or save as much as they make make. If you make 5M a year, you'll live the lifestyle of a person who makes that kinda money. The same goes for someone who makes 40k a yr. If you don't adjust your spending habits before you retire, you will struggle financially. That goes for millionaires and us hundredaires. LOL

Always remember what most of us were told when we were young..."A fool and his money shall soon part."

Monday, March 19, 2012

rememberwhenyouwere17



vibe with me on this one...

take a second to THINK before you ANSWER this question

remember when you were 17? remember who YOU were?

remember how you thought? remember what you used to do?

that said...answer this question

WOULD YOU WANT YOUR CHILD (or future child) TO DATE SOMEONE WHO WAS JUST LIKE YOU WERE AT 17??? why or why not?

Thursday, March 15, 2012

grade school



Guess who is on the latest podcast???

ME

My boy Eclectik had me on his podcast to wax poetic about grade school!

Join us as we discuss back in the days from 1st grade to 6th
The Classes, Teachers, The Girls, Lunch Room, After School … some of everything

Take a listen, love it and leave a comment … email the show at: Podcast@eclectikrelaxation.com

click the link and listen
http://eclectikrelaxation.com/blog/2012/03/14/edp04-grade-school-life/

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

12 RADIO


Tune in tonight at 9pm and listen to the host 12kyle as he entertains and informs you.

TOPIC - The 80s (a look back at pop culture).

Co-hosted by Eclectik

(347)215-7162

http://tobtr.com/s/2880871



Monday, March 12, 2012

off tha dome


random thoughts...

i hate seeing kids get off a school bus with NO books in their hands

i wonder if Oprah can cook?

when the temps are in the 70s, the sundresses and open toed shoes come out

ladies...please lotion your legs and feet. we don't wanna see ashy women

google +, google wave, google circles...i think i'm google'd out

why do people who are on facebook use (#) hashtags? i think that's just for twitter folks

gonna be strange to see Peyton Manning in another uniform next year

newton leroy gingrich (that's his real name) said he'd get gas under $2.50. riiiiiiiiiight! *wink, wink*

have we ever seen the rapper Plies and gospel legend Kirk Franklin in the same place?




i have to chuckle at people who tell me that i shouldn't eat red meat "because it'll kill me" but they smoke weed

these non football weekends suck

for the record, i've never smoked weed. i figured that if i tried it...i might like it

every time we have a discussion about Biggie's spot in hip hop's top 10, some fool always has to mention Tupac. i think Tupac was the most influential rapper of his time...but he wasn't lyrical.

if you have on jeans...and your socks can't be seen...does it matter if they don't match?

ladies...if you send a man a nude picture of yourself, then there's a 95% chance that he's gonna send it to one of his friends

fellas...if you're driving, don't let your homie hang out the window and holla at chicks. the FIRST thing he's gonna ask a woman is..."you wanna ride?" Um...sir...isn't that what YOU are doing?

ladies...if you're gonna send pics and you're in your room or your bathroom...make sure that it's CLEAN.

12 Radio is on every Wed night at 9pm EST. You'd betta tune in...or else...i'ma tell yo momma on you!!! (www.blogtalkradio.com/12kyle)

"these oranges are sooooooo good!!!"


momma 12 told me a long time ago..."You can't change people. They are who they are." I truly believe that. Thanks mom

i still refer to cds as "albums". Sorry, I'm old school

bottled water is a scam. yeah...i said it

i played my 9 yr old son, Kameron, in NBA 2K12 and he won. now he won't let me live it down.

did I tell y'all how unreal the CIAA tournament parties were in Charlotte last weekend? i'll tell you right now...they were!!!

one of my favorite joints from Sade...Kiss of Life


Wednesday, March 7, 2012

12 Radio



Tune in tonight to the 12 RADIO SHOW! It's the most interactive & innovative show on BlogTalkRadio.

Tune in tonight at 9pm and listen to the host 12kyle as he entertains and informs you.

TOPIC - DATING/RELATIONSHIPS 203 - cohosted by ShellyShell

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Don't miss it!

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

lessons learned...




With age...comes maturity.

With maturity...comes wisdom

Over a period of time...you learn things. I think you should continue to learn no matter HOW old you are. Here are some things that I've learned...

surround yourself with friends who will tell you what you NEED to hear...not what you WANT to hear.

make your plan then work your plan

life is short. cherish each day

find something...or someone...or something to laugh at each day

never settle and never be content

every relationship and friendship requires work

learn from mistakes...don't repeat them

love hard

if you treat people nice then they will return the favor

sometimes goals are easier to be obtained when they are written down

hard work always pays off

you're superman or superwoman in your kids eyes

never be afraid to ask for help

say I love you to those who you love

stay focused

never forget the simple things in life

take time to reflect on how blessed you are

thank the people who helped you become who you are

breathe air. take it. embrace it. and know that you cannot live without air

Thursday, March 1, 2012

very superstitious




Very superstitious, writing's on the wall,
Very superstitious, ladders bout' to fall,
Thirteen month old baby, broke the lookin' glass
Seven years of bad luck, the good things in your past.

When you believe in things that you don't understand,
Then you suffer,
Superstition ain't the way
- Stevie Wonder


Things happen.

There's a reason why things happen.

Are we victims of circumstance?

As Stevie said...we SHOULD NOT believe in things that we don't understand. I do. But then I don't. Hell, I don't know. I am superstitious...to a degree. I believe in things. I believe in NOT doing some things. Sometimes these beliefs come from something that went RIGHT or WRONG at some point in time in my life. Is there any scientific proof that there is a link between these things? No. But here are a few of mine...

1. DON'T play a game without your left wrist being taped - I sprained my wrist in a football game vs Timmonsville when I was a junior in high school. I played my ENTIRE senior year with my left wrist being taped before every game despite the fact that there was nothing wrong with my wrist

2. When putting gas in your car, the final amount ALWAYS has to be divisible by 5 - I do this EVERY time that I put gas in my car. I started this when I was in college. Not sure why. But I can't put $32.37 in my car. It would be $32.50 or $32.80.

3. When I'm in a restaurant, ALWAYS sit facing the door - gotta see who's coming in and who's leaving

4. Baseball...NEVER step on the white lines because it's bad luck. (I heard this and never questioned it...LOL)

5. DON'T have sex when it's a full moon because you have a good chance of getting pregnant - I heard this when I was in college. I don't know if you could ever prove this. I will say that this superstition never stopped me but I was always mindful of it. At least...for a little while. LOL

6. NEVER answer the phone on the first ring - I could have the phone in my hand and I'll still let it ring twice.

7. NEVER listen to Mobb Deep in my car - the last time that I was listening to Mobb Deep in the car I hydroplaned on Interstate 85, crashed my car, and almost ended up in the south bound lanes despite the fact that I was headed north. Now, the crash probably had more to do with me driving 70mph when it was raining cats and dogs than it did Mobb Deep. I walked away without a scratch. But Mobb Deep gets "no play up in my ride!"

8. NEVER eat leftovers after 2 days because you'll get sick - I don't care if it's Thanksgiving turkey! You've got 2 days to eat it.

I have a few others but I'll stop here. I could care less about walking under a ladder or letting a black cat cross my path. LOL

Some people are superstitious

I'm not.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

12 RADIO



Tune in tonight at 9pm and listen to the host 12kyle as he entertains and informs you.

TOPIC...SPORTS WRAP UP...cohosted by DivaDee & OJ Philly of In the Clutch

We'll be talking about the NFL, NBA, Jeremy Lin, Allen Iverson, the Slam Dunk Contest, T.O., and groupies!

DIVADEE & OJ from IN THE CLUTCH

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

12 Radio



Tune in tonight at 9pm and listen to the host 12kyle as he entertains and informs you.

TOPIC - WOMEN vs MEN (We're Alike but Different) cohosted by Sweet Stiletto.

Tune in as we discuss the many similarities and differences between women & men. Have you ever wondered why men do certain things? Or maybe why women act a certain way? We will discuss it all tonight! Don't miss it!

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WOMEN vs MEN...who wins?


Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Did Mary J Blige KILL R&B???



Did Mary J Blige Kill R&B???

Well that depends on who you ask...

If you ask my boy, Eclectik, he'll tell you that she did. If you ask me, I'll tell you that she didn't.

Check out the first podcast on Eclectik's blog where he and I discuss this topic and why it is relevant. Be prepared to be entertained!!!

Click this link to his blog. Then download the podcast

http://eclectikrelaxation.com/blog/2012/02/20/edp01-did-mary-j-blige-kill-rb-2/

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

12 Radio



Tune in every WEDNESDAY night at 9pm and listen to the host 12kyle as he entertains and informs you.

TOPIC - SEX 201 (Behind Closed Doors) co-hosted by ShellyShell & Diggame.

Tune in for an entertaining, enlightening, steamy discussion about sex.

show link...http://tobtr.com/s/2769359

(347) 215-7162

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

off tha dome



random thoughts...

gas prices are on the rise but nobody can tell me why

remember back in the day...when you didn't have any bills? sometimes i want those days back

i saw a poll the other day that said 47% of those polled wants a candidate "that can beat Barack Obama". word? i guess they don't care about the issues that they face.

Shaq has fit in well on the set of Inside the NBA on TNT

just when i thought spring was around the corner...it got cold. real cold

have you ever gotten chewed out as a teen because you were on the phone talking to your friends and you didn't "answer the call waiting beep" and your mama missed a call?

i think we should mandate a law...if a couple is not EXCHANGING gifts, don't celebrate Valentines Day

speaking of VDay, i'll admit to breaking up with a girl before VDay...but I was like 16. sue me.

have we ever seen Tracey Morgan and Andrew Bynum in the same place at the same time?





i love Chick-Fil-A...but it's too expensive

that was a GREAT Super Bowl. another chapter in the Book of Eli

NBA All Star game is around the corner. you won't catch me anywhere NEAR Orlando. too many people. just hope people stay safe

i have a coworker who'll ask a question. you answer the question. then she'll ask somebody else the SAME question. that irks me

i see a trip to Los Angeles on the horizon...

remember when you were friends with Kim & Monica...but Kim disliked Monica. and Monica disliked Kim. then they would talk bad about each other and you were caught in the middle?

RIP Whitney Houston

when a singer dies...we press 'PLAY' to bring them back to life. no one lives forever but music lives on

can somebody explain to me why some women wear heels but can't walk in them?

i think i'm gonna check out that new Denzel Washington movie. he doesn't disappoint

if you were in a spelling bee RIGHT NOW, could you win?

don't forget the pumps...





Kodak is going out of business. wow

remember back in the day when you took a picture and it had to "cool off" before you could see the image?

i think they should bring back the old school saturday morning cartoons

it's been a tough 2012 for celebs/entertainers...we've already lost Etta James, Don Cornelius, and Whitney Houston...and it's only February

make sure that you listen to the 12 Radio Show every Wednesday night at 9pm EST. *shameless plug*

can you write in cursive? outside of my signature...my cursive is not legible.

sometimes you gotta tell your kids and show them how blessed they truly are

tell people that you love them

ladies...say what you mean...and mean what you say

fellas...be honest with women. you're too old to be playing games

i've got like 800 channels from DirecTv but i only watch 15 of em

my girlfriend is gone, y'all. what am i gonna do?


Monday, February 13, 2012

i want a girl...when i want a girl



Sometimes I think I'm from another world
When I'm trynna tell a woman just exactly where I stand that
I want a girl, when I want a girl
And when I don't want a girl, I want a girl who understands that
And that's some hard shit to explain
To a woman that's in love with you, it's a pitiful thing
Until I had to figure
That I don't wanna play around, but I don't wanna settle down
And that's a man's dilemma, 'cause every man remembers
How his daddy and his uncles did it
'Cause more than likely that's the way they're gonna do it
I know it sound fucked up and most wont admit it
- Phonte from Little Brother (Slow It Down)


Even though Phonte spit this verse when he was a member of the rap trio from North Carolina, Little Brother, the words still hold true. I can't speak for women but I can speak for most men when I say that we can all identify with this verse. It has applied to MOST of us at some point in our lives. We all get to that point when we WANT a woman. Then we get to that point when we DON'T want a woman. Sometimes committing ain't easy for us.


Two months ago I got a call from one of my boys. He told me that he was settling down. He said that he had met "the One". I was floored. In the 8 years that I've known him, I'd never seen him have a girlfriend...period. He always had women...but never one chick. He was the ultimate bachelor...college educated, smart, women thought he was good looking, no kids, good sense of humor, etc. Those kinda guys, at the age of 38, just don't fall out of the sky. Especially here in the city of Atlanta, a place where good lookin'/successful women outnumber men 20-1. He was the LAST one of my friends who I thought would ever settle down. An engagement will be coming soon and I think he'll be married within a year. But it made me think...

What makes a man settle down and get married? Men have been conditioned since their pre-teens to get as many women as they can. We were raised to be HUNTERS. Once you capture your "ultimate prey" you are supposed to put "your spear away." Makes sense, right? It doesn't make any sense but you get my point. Ladies...as your man...or any man for that matter if he envisioned himself being with ONE woman for 50,60, 70 years. Don't be mad at his answer. Most men will tell you that they grew up knowing that one day they'd be a father. Husband??? Not so much. And that's not to say that we grew up thinking we'd be somebody's "baby daddy". So what makes us settle down???

Finding a woman that will give YOU as much as YOU give them...unconditionally.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

brandonwannaknow...


Kids are funny.

One thing that I know about kids...they speak their minds.

The other night at the dinner table Brandon posed a question. He's 5 years old and very inquisitive. He said...

"What does Valentine's Day mean?"


I paused. Surely, he didn't want ME to answer that question! Noooo, not Daddy. Lol. My wife answered him by giving him the most political answer that you could give a kid. "It's a holiday of love" she said.

I smirked

Brandon walked away. Did he really want to ask me THAT question? Why would he ask a dude who broke up with a girl TWO days before Valentines Day...only to go back with her 3 days late? Nah..wrong dude

Honestly, Valentines Day was cool when I was 5...8...11, etc. When I was a kid, we would get VDay candy and pass it out to our classmates. Male and females. I would find the candy that had "KISS ME" written on it and give it to the girls that I liked. I damn sure wasn't gonna give it to Sean. Back then VDay was cool and innocent. That's part of what love should be...cool and innocent. Nowadays, it's commercial. It's about THIS or about THAT. Or about how much you spent on something. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for showing my gratitude and appreciation. But I don't think it has to be on THAT day. I have a new Valentine this year. My daughter, Skyler, is 4 months old. What will I tell her about Valentines Day when she gets older?

"Love should be given and shown 365 days a year. If its not, then it ain't love."

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

12 Radio Show




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TOPIC...Back in the Day (childhood/ole skool memories)...cohosted by Eclectik

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Monday, January 30, 2012

the dating game



It's been a few years since i've been on the dating scene

But there's ONE thing I know about it...

It can be EXTREMELY frustrating for some.

I won't profess to all of the answers...just all of the questions! A few days ago, I posted comment, on my off tha dome post, about how women should be aggressive but not thirsty. A few of my readers asked me to give more clarification on that statement.

3 THINGS THAT MEN WON'T ADMIT

1. Men like women who are aggressive and self confident

2. Men like women who can express themselves well

3. Men are genuinely flattered when they are pursued.

Herein lies the problem...

Most women won't aggressively pursue a man for fear of looking "thirsty." No woman wants to appear to be too eager for a man. They don't wanna appear to be slutty. You have to keep it classy! The problem comes when you have some women who will go ALL out and "sweat" a man.

Generally speaking, this isn't good because some men will confuse this practice with ALL women. Some women feel like they are doing the right things on the dating scene but they are coming up short to those "loose" women.

Ladies, there has to be a balance. And you have to find that balance. You need to appear to be interested in a man but don't look thirsty. Let him know that if his feelings are mutual then it's a good start for the two of you. By all means, let him know that you aren't playing games. Quite frankly, at our age (25 and up) we're too old to be playing games. I've asked women "would you ask a man for his phone number?" And many of them said NO! Really? You must meet men halfway. Is dating easy? Nope! Can it be frustration? Yes!

I'm often asked by women about my single male friends. I have a few of them. And they are all good dudes. But I'm no matchmaker. I can put you in a room with them. The rest is up to you.

This blog should give you some insight from here.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

off tha dome


random thoughts...

it's a new year and some of y'all doing the SAME shit you said you weren't gonna do this year. i see you.

this is a leap year. what day do leap year babies celebrate when it's not a leap year?

we'll have 3 days this week with temperatures at 65 here in atlanta. this means the summer will be a scorcher

are the cops still looking for biggie & tupac's killers?

fellas...if you have a closet full of Timberlands and Air Force 1s...you need to have at least 10 suits

ladies...be aggressive when you're interested in a man. there is a fine line between being aggressive and being thirsty or desperate. don't cross that line

eli manning could win 3 more super bowl's and he STILL wouldn't be better than his big brother, peyton

it's those moments when you're at home alone...that's when you hear things that you normally don't hear in your house

valentine's day is less than 30 days away...*sarcastic, clap...clap*

did i ever tell you about the time that i broke up with a girl the week before valentine's day???

have we ever seen benny hill and newt gingrich in the same place at the same time?





skyler likes it when i beat box. see...i knew that skill would come in handy one day

they say that we learn more from birth to the age of 6 than we learn for the rest of our life. guess Fred Sanford was right...we're just big dummies

fellas...grow up. can't be a thug all of your life. and when did it become cool to be a thug?

ladies...at some point in time...you won't be the flyest chick in the club. what are you gonna do then?

whatever happened to das efx?

RIP joe paterno

i really need to be cloned. where can i sign up for that? i have somewhere that i need to be

whatever happened to the ying yang twins? wonder what gas station do they work at?

duncan donuts suck...that is all

krispy kreme puts CRACK in their doughnuts!

my first computer had a floppy disk




ever listened to your favorite song...the instrumental version...then you realized that you really didn't know the song as well as you thought you did

the new beard is growing very well

why do a lot of women have more male friends than they do female friends?

wonder how many non blacks watch tv shows like baskeball wives, atlanta housewives, love and hip hop and they think that's how black people REALLY act. chew on that for a second...

hi rhianna

never liked it when we had to dissect a frog when I was in 7th grade

kobe's wrist had to hurt even more once he had to cut that check to vanessa for 75 million

you think jay z is changing diapers? i don't.

tune in tonight to 12 Radio. join me & my co hosts...DivaDee & OJ from In The Clutch...as we talk sports tonight at 9pm EST! Don't miss it!

http://tobtr.com/s/2769353



Tuesday, January 24, 2012

just be


Someone sent this to me the other day and I found it to be fitting.


It also made me think about the word happy


Are you happy? Am I happy? Happiness should not only be the destination but your place of residence. I read a lot of stuff on the internet and I have to ask myself why some people are so bitter and mad. Are they not happy? Maybe it's just me...but if I was having the worst day in the world...you wouldn't see me spazzing out on Facebook/Twitter or this blog. Not my style. I try to bring a positive vibe. Always have.


Maybe it's deeper for some people. How can you expect people to be happy about their life...when they aren't happy with themselves. You can't make your mate,family, friends, etc. happy if YOU ain't happy. I know this much...happiness starts from within.


Happiness comes to those who embrace it. And you should. If happiness ain't enough, live to be ESTATIC!!!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

12 RADIO




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This week's topic...Off tha Dome...co-hosted by ShellyShell

Don't just listen to the show but be a part of it. Tune in. Call in.

Don't miss it!!!


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