Thursday, January 7, 2010

anuthaupdate


Time for an update...

I told you that I would keep you posted...

Remember my friend who was having the affair that I talked about here. Well here's an update on her...

She recently found out that she's having a little girl. Initially, she wasn't sure about who the father of her unborn child was. She wasn't sure if it was her husband, Jalen or her former boy toy, Amir. She has all but convinced that it's her husband's child. Although she and her husband USED birth control and she and Amir DID NOT use birth control, she thinks that her husband is the father of the child. How? She said based on cycles, ovulation, and when they slept together. That's how she came to the conclusion. It left me perplexed but I wasn't gonna argue about it. A person's perception is their reality. So if that's what she believed, then there was no need for me to tell her otherwise.

Her relationship with Amir has deteriorated. He still wants to be with her but she doesn't want to be with him...well...that's what she says. Amir wants Rachel to have a paternity test so that he can be certain that the child is not his. She told him not to worry about it and she was sure that it wasn't his child.

She and Jalen are working on their marriage. They haven't gone to counselling but Jalen has vowed to stay. He wants to keep his family together. They've had their arguments. But he says that he's committed and wants to stay.

Yesterday, Rachel asked me to do her a favor. She had found 2 unfamiliar cell phone numbers on the phone bill that she shared with Jalen. She said that the numbers appeared on the bill repeatedly and she didn't make the calls. She asked me to call the the numbers to see if a female would answer the phone. What? Are you kidding me?

Rachel : So, you're not gonna do it for me?

Me : Nope. I don't do drama. And neither should you.

You'd think she would've learned her lesson by now...

14 comments:

E.M.H. said...

Yea, she needs to leave that alone. I can't believe that she is asking you to get involved. If she and her husband are working on their marriage, snooping is not going to help. But when you do wrong it's easy to think wrong :-/ I wish them and their family well . . . they need to continue to pray their way through this!!!!!!!

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

Okay, the drama in my last post pales in comparison to this. Thanks for the reality check Kyle.

I would not get involved in the drama but what I would say is this:
the initial gut feeling is usually correct. If she wants to know who it is, then call the numbers but be prepared for the can of worms that are being opened

She is not going to be at ease until she knows. Sadly, the only way to recover from something like that (if possible) is to be an open book. Ironically, this is the one thing most people who are 'working' on their relationships don't want to do. They say 'trust me' when obviously the lost of trust is what got you there in the first place.

MzInspiredMind81 said...

This has all the signs of some ol 'Young & Restless' type ish. Rachel needs to get her mind right. How can she be concerned about #s her husband may be calling, when she may be pregnant by her jumpoff? Then wants you to get involved in her mess? *blink blink #blankstare

xcentricgem said...

In this situation ... Rachel needs to hold her head and walk away from BOTH situations. I am not a fan of divorce ... but the road ahead is a troubling and now there's a child involved. You cannot stay together for a child. I've known ppl to 'stay together for the children ... after the children turn 18 ... "We're getting a divorce" .... look @ all the years of misery in between. Ppl are acting as though life is a dress rehearsal. Unfortunately 'u're born ... u're on!!-No time for rehearsal.

She knew the dangers and Amir did too... it's just exciting to experience something new - regardless of the consequences. She should not entertain the numbers in his phone (unless she's paying the bill) ...

The road from infidelity is LONG ... she's got a journey ahead of her ... at the end of the day ... when everyone leaves ... her daughter is there.

Tha L said...

Wooolawd, Kyle. That's all I can say...

Felicia|DaLipstickBandit said...

Wowsers!

The Jaded NYer said...

I know someone in the UK who can deliver a mighty transatlantic bitch slap to your friend...she so desperately needs it!

Shar said...

wow...these stories sound all too familiar. I know how she feels on both ends. BUT HOW IN THE HELL DO YOU MAKE YOUR HUSBAND USE PROTECTION AND NOT AN OUTSIDER....beats me! sigh

Shar said...

ooooooo, sorry!!


Hey Kyle!

ShellyShell said...

I was wondering what happened to this woman! Umm she wants YOU to call the numbers? GTFOH! If she's so concerned why doesn't she do it herself!
Why did she go raw dog with a jump off and not her husband? What the hell is wrong with these people!

Hey Kyle! Happy New Year! I've been MIA but I'm back!

Don said...

too funny at her wanting you to make the calls. i agree, it's probably best to stand on the sidelines on this one (continue to stand) and watch the game unfold.

cheating is one thing, but when it brings a child into the world, well, it's almost impossible to do anything other than make the best of it.

thanks for the update.

Rashan Jamal said...

Get the hell out here with that. I'm not calling no unfamiliar numbers for you! I would def. do like you and stay away from the drama.

Keith said...

I don't blame you, I wouldn't have made the call either....Nooooooooo,not going to touch that!

The F$%K it List said...

Clearly this woman has lost her mind, she's married more than likely carrying another mans child and she's looking for more drama. LAWD this is like an episode of Maury.

And she has some nerve asking you to call. WOMAN UP LADY