Saturday, September 28, 2013

Happy Birthday, Skyler


Skyler, 

Two years ago today my life changed forever. This is the day that you were born. I remember holding you in my arms and thinking to myself..."is there a more beautiful creature on God's earth?" There wasn't. And I still feel that way today.

You and I have a special relationship. My friends told me that it would be this way. Your Uncle Damon told me that it would be this way. It was hard for me to conceive because you were not here. Once you arrived, it made more sense. One of my friends told me that you will always be the apple of my eyes. That is so true. I have a different relationship with your brothers. I love them as much as I love you...but it's different. Girls are different. A father's love for his daughter is different. A girl's love for her DADDY is different. I am the first man that you'll ever love. There will be men that will come and go throughout your life. But not your DADDY. I'll always be here. There are times when I look at you and just wish that you can remain the smart, adorable little girl that you are right now. But that's not realistic. I will teach you the values and lessons that you will carry with you and pass on to your children. And when somebody asks you to do something that you aren't supposed to do...you'll utter these words..."I can't do that. My DADDY will KILL me!" 

You are a gift from God. And I thank HIM for you. Happy Birthday to my princess. Happy Birthday, Skyler. Daddy loves you!

Love, 
Daddy











Thursday, September 26, 2013

the genesis...


August 4, 1991

I had waited for this day for a long time! I couldn't believe it was finally here. I remember it like it was yesterday. Two months prior to this day, I had graduated from high school. But this day had come...the day that I was to leave to go off to college. 

Some people would be nervous or anxious about leaving home. Not me. I had mentally prepared myself for this day for a long time. My school, South Carolina State University, was located just an hour and a half away. Not too far away from home...but not too close either. Graduating from high school wasn't a big deal for me. As much I loved my days at Wilson High School, I wasn't sad to be leaving. College was the place that I had dreamed of being. When I watched "A Different World" on tv, I envisioned my college experience being just like that. It wasn't far from it. LOL. Nevertheless, I was eagerly anticipating college. I had my concerns about leaving my mom and my brother, who was entering his sophomore year at Wilson. I knew he'd be fine. I knew mom would be fine. She had prepared me and we both knew it. My only other concern was my crew. We had become so close over the years. We all were headed to different colleges. Two of my other boys were headed to the military. I had my cousin, Eric, with me at South Carolina State and my boy JFresh was next door at Claflin University. I wanted the crew to remain as close as we had always been. I wasn't sure how it was gonna happen. There was no such thing as email nor free long distance calls. I also had football. I knew that it would keep me more than busy. 

Back to that day, I remember going to church then coming home and eating dinner. I remember the mood in the house was very weird. We didn't say much at dinner. I packed the van and my mom was going to drive me to school. My brother, Damon, didn't come. I remember walking out of my room and down the hall to his room. I was going to tell him goodbye. Deep down, I was dreading that walk. It seemed like it took me forever just to take those few steps. I walked in his room and he had his head down. This would be the first time that we would be apart. We had endured our parents messy divorce together. He lifted his head and I could see tears in his eyes. My eyes welled up. I gave him a huge and I gave him a quick pep talk that any big brother would. I told him he'd be ok. I reassured him that I was just a phone call away. I walked down the stairs and jumped in the van with my mom. That was the last day that I lived in my mom's house...last time that I lived in my hometown, Florence, SC...last time in the nest. It was time for me to go.

Although Eric was going to be a freshman like me, he didn't have to come to school for another 3 wks. I was on campus early because of football camp as we were preparing for the upcoming season. When I got on campus, I didn't know anybody. There were no other students on campus...just the football team. There is a HUGE difference between high school football and college football. I found that out very quick. For the first time, there were players REALLY better than me. Doubtful thoughts crept in. I was beginning to feel a little homesick. I remember wondering out loud if I was cut out for college football. I called my parents. Two phone calls...one common theme...you can do anything that you want but you have to work at it. And they were right. By the time school started, the homesick feelings left. I learned that I would be red-shirted (meaning I could practice but couldn't play in the games until the next year). It gave me a chance to get stronger and better. I needed that.

They say you learn more between birth and the age of 6 than you learn for the rest of your life. Well, I think I learned more during my freshman year of college than you could learn in two lifetimes. I learned...how to have productive days on very little sleep...how to party...about people and their ways...about the game that I fell in love with...about family...about women...about love...and so much more. I thought I knew it all before August 4th...but I knew very little.

More importantly, I found me and I was slowly becoming the man that I was raised and groomed to be. 

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Off tha Dome - Random Topics...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in to the 12 RADIO SHOW tonight at 9 pm EST. The 12 RADIO SHOW is the most innovative and interactive show on BlogTalkRadio. 

Tonight's Topic - Off tha Dome - Random Topics (pop culture, dating, relationships, music, sports, sex, current events

co-hosted by ShellyShell

Join us as we discuss various topics in a deep but comical conversation. Don't miss it!

(347)215-7162 LIVE CALL IN NUMBER

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ShellyShell


Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Hip Hop - The Aging and Profitable Art Form...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in to the 12 RADIO SHOW tonight at 9 pm EST. The 12 RADIO SHOW is the most innovative and interactive show on BlogTalkRadio. 

Tonight's Topic - Hip Hop - The Aging & Profitable Art Form

co-hosted by Rawdawgbuffalo

Join us as we discuss business side of hip hop, the origin of hip hop, and where it is headed. Don't miss it!

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Wednesday, September 4, 2013

NFL Preview...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in to the 12 RADIO SHOW tonight at 9pm EST. The 12 RADIO SHOW is the most innovative and interactive show on BlogTalkRadio. Join the host, 12kyle, as he informs and entertains.

TOPIC - NFL Preview 

co-hosted by OJ from In the Clutch & Mike Robinson from Sleeper Athletes (www.sleeperathletes.com)


Join us as we preview the upcoming NFL season. Don't just listen to the show...participate in the discussion in the 12 RADIO SHOW chatroom. Or you can call and speak with us live on the air to talk about your team or to ask any questions! If you're an NFL fan, you DON'T want to miss this show!

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Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Childhood Memories 401...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in to the 12 RADIO SHOW tonight at 9pm EST. Join the host, 12kyle and his special co-hosts...

Rashan Jamal


eclectik


Join us as we take a trip down memory lane! We will wax poetic about some of our favorite childhood memories. You don't want to miss this show!!!

www.blogtalkradio.com/12kyle

(347)215-7162 (Live call in number)


Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Marriage 501...12 RADIO SHOW



Check out the 12 RADIO SHOW. The 12 RADIO SHOW is the most innovative and interactive show on Blog Talk Radio. Tune in tonight at 9pm EST as the host, 12kyle, informs and entertains! 

Don't just listen to the show...be a part of the show and participate in the interactive chat room...or call in to speak with 12kyle and his co-hosts. 

TOPIC - Marriage 501 

co-hosted by Krishna

Join us as we discuss the good, bad, funny, and ugly of marriage. Don't miss it!

(347)215-7162

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Krishna




Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Off tha Dome (random topics)...12 RADIO SHOW


WHO: 12 RADIO SHOW

WHAT: Off tha Dome (random topics...pop culture, sex, sports, dating / relationships, music, childhood memories)

WHERE : www.blogtalkradio.com/12kyle (live call in # (347)215-7162

WHEN : Tonight at 9pm EST - 11pm EST

WHY : You KNOW why!!!

co-hosted by ShellyShell


Friday, August 9, 2013

Happy Birthday, Deion


14 years ago today, I became a father for the first time. 

It's hard to believe that it's been that long because I can remember it like it was yesterday.

Every man wants to have a son. I was no different. For my first born to be a son made life that much sweeter. It was the best day of my life. I knew at that moment that my life had changed forever. The way that I looked at the world changed as well. Life became more important. 

He's the oldest child...just like me. He's extremely smart and talented. I think he has many gifts that he will give the world. I admit...I am hard on him because he's the oldest and he sets the pace for his brothers and sister. But I think it makes him better. He enters high school on Monday. Where did the time go? 

I remember trying to decide what I would name him. I thought I'd name him after me. But when I looked at him...I said "let's name him Deion." And it fit. That was my middle name but it fit better on him. I was proud that day. Fourteen years later, he still makes me proud.

Happy Birthday, Deion. I love you. 

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Happy Birthday, Kameron


11 years ago today, I became a father for the 2nd time. 

I remember my first thought when I saw him...

"Who's kid is THAT? He can't be mine. He's HUGE!" LOL

He was 8 pounds, 8 ounces. Born on 8-8 (see how I did that??) 

So much time has passed since that day. He is the one child who's personality is most similar to mine. Very intelligent and a thinker. Quiet, calm, and never rattled. He's extremely talented as well

Happy Birthday Kameron! I love you

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Best Hip Hop Groups from the 90s...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in tonight to the 12 RADIO SHOW at 9pm EST.

TOPIC - Best Hip Hop Groups from the 90s

Co-hosted by Rashan Jamal

**Note** - we will be discussing groups that debuted in the 90s with at least 2 or more MCs. For example, Gangstarr debuted in the 90s but only had 1 MC so they didn't make the discussion.

Tune in as we wax poetic about more than 20 of the BEST groups from a great era in hip hop!!! Here are a few that will be discussed

Outkast


A Tribe Called Quest


Wu Tang Clan



Don't just listen...be a part of the show!!

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(347)215-7162

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Kickin it with Dead End Hip Hop 201...12 RADIO SHOW


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TOPIC - Kickin it with Dead End Hip Hop 201! Join me and my special guests from Dead End Hip Hop...Modest Media, Feefo, Kinge, Beezy, and Myke C Town. Also meet the new host of the Ask Dead End Hip Hop segment...Sophie B.



Tune in and see why they are called "the New Voice of Hip Hop". Be sure to also check out their website (www.deadendhiphop.com). You don't want to miss this show!!!

9pm EST - 11pm EST

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Tuesday, July 30, 2013

weather or not...



I was standing outside one day last week and a feeling came across me.

I hadn't had this feeling in awhile. 

I felt a chill.

Literally. 

To say the weather that we've experienced in Atlanta has been weird is an understatement. A huge understatement. Much like the rest of the south, Atlanta is known for its brutally hot summers. Hot-lanta is what they call it. 

I don't know what has happened to the weather here. Through the entire month of June, we only saw TWO days where the temperatures exceeded 90 degrees. That was weird. June is almost always hot. But July is even hotter. Not this year. We will finish the month of July having only ONE day exceed 90 degrees. That is crazy! We're talking about a place where 100 degree days are as synonymous with summer as mosquitoes and lemonade

So what happened? I'm not sure. I've always been a fan of meteorology and I've studied weather patterns. But this summer has me befuddled. Just a week and a half ago, there were cities like New York and Chicago that battled an extreme heat wave...we had spring-like 80 degree days in Atlanta. It was strange to see cities like Minneapolis and Boston with daily temperatures.


As the calendar turns to August, what should we expect here in the A? A few 70 degree days? I doubt it. I know this much...if you have a summer like this...the winter won't be pretty

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Women vs Men...12 RADIO SHOW

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TOPIC - Women vs Men co-hosted by Cryss Renee & Chantay.

Join us as we discuss for a no holds barred discussion about the differences between the women and men. If you have any questions about members of the opposite sex, then you want to tune in to this show and vibe with us. Don't miss it

(347)215-7162

9pm EST - 11pm EST

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Cryss Renee

Chantay


Tuesday, July 23, 2013

youcanfindmeinthaA



July 24, 1997

I remember that day like it was yesterday.

It was the day that I loaded up all of my stuff on a moving truck and moved to Atlanta. 

I had just graduated from South Carolina State in December of 1996. I was still living in Orangeburg, SC. I had a few job offers in South Carolina but nothing that I really wanted. I was working as an assistant manager at a video store. It was cool but I knew that I couldn't put my marketing degree to use at that spot. I was contemplating my next move. I knew that I wasn't going to move back to my hometown, Florence, SC. I loved my hometown but I knew that the day that I left for college that I would never live there any more. It was time for the young bird to leave the nest and fly. And I did. I had my sights set on Atlanta. 

In the spring of 1997, I wasn't sure how I was going to get to Atlanta. I had put off going to grad school. One day I called up one of my partners in crime, JFresh. Me and JFresh have been friends since we were 6. We went to high school together but different colleges. He too had just graduated and moved back to Florence. I mentioned to him that I wanted to move to Atlanta. He said he wanted to live there too. He suggested that we move there together and get an apartment together. I thought about it for a second. Fresh is my boy but he is by far the weirdest cat that I know...but that's my boy. So, I told him that we should do it. As July moved closer and closer, I thought that JFresh would back out at the last minute. He didn't. 





I had no long term plans about being in Atlanta. I had fallen in love with the city when I was in college. It was a place that represented upward mobility for young black people like me. The hip hop scene was bubbling at the time. While acts like Outkast and Goodie MoB were on the scene...others like Ludacris (a radio personality on Hot 97) and T.I (I saw him perform at an underground club but didn't catch his name but he ripped it)...had yet to blow. I came to FreakNik in 1994 and I told my friends that I would move here after college. Growing up, the only place that I had envisioned myself living was New York City (Manhattan). I love New York. I couldn't imagine wanting to live anywhere. But Atlanta just felt comfortable. It didn't take long for me to feel at home. In a city with 5 million people in the metropolitan area, the only person that I knew was JFresh. We didn't know our way around but we both had a great sense of direction so we knew we wouldn't get lost. We rented a townhouse in a north Atlanta suburb. It was the typical bachelor pad...TVs and electronics...but very little furniture. LOL. We figured that the best way to get familiar with the city...was to party! And we partied! Sometimes we would hit parties on Thursday, Friday, Saturday, AND Sunday nights! And we soaked up all Atlanta had to offer.  We lived together for a year before I moved to the east side of the city but we still hung out almost every weekend.

Years passed. I would eventually would settle down. I got married and started a family. Fresh moved to LA. But this place had become home. I felt as comfortable in Atlanta as I did Florence. I adopted the Atlanta Falcons and the Atlanta Hawks as my teams that I would support (not the Braves, though). I had my oldest son in 1999, got married in 2000, and then bought my house in 2001. Little did I know, I had planted roots here. The foundation was set. The thought of raising kids in city like this is challenging. Growing up in Florence, I could go around the corner and nothing would happen. That's not the same when you live in a place like Atlanta. Anything can happen. That's a scary thought as a parent. But this is where I wanted to be. Over the years, I have thought about leaving. But there's always something that convinces me to stay. Sometimes, I think about how life would be in Manhattan. But the cost of living in NYC is unreal! Unless, somebody wants to pay me a LOT more money...I'm not going anywhere. You can find me in tha A!  

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Trayvon Martin vs George Zimmerman...12 RADIO SHOW


The verdict came on this past Saturday night.

I wanted to talk about it and what I was feeling. But I could not find the words. I had planned to do a blog about it. Then, I thought of something better.

Tonight on the 12 RADIO SHOW

Trayvon Martin vs George Zimmerman (a look at the trial and the fallout from the verdict)

9pm EST - 11pm EST

(347)215-7162  (Call in and join the conversation! If you have something that you want to say, call the show and get it off your chest)

co-hosted by Krishna & Tiff Jones

www.blogtalkradio.com/12kyle


Monday, July 15, 2013

Knock Knock

Gotta thank my home girl who shared this with me so that I could share it with you. It's all love!

I hope that you can appreciate it as much as I do.

Knock Knock

Daniel Beaty

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Dating & Relationships 650...12 RADIO SHOW


Tune in tonight to the 12 RADIO SHOW at 9pm EST

Topic - Dating and Relationships 650



co-hosted by Keli from www.boissuq.com

Don't just listen to show...call in (347)215-7162

You don't want to miss this show

www.blogtalkradio.com/12kyle


Monday, July 8, 2013

football is back



And so it begins..

Today at 6:30 pm EST...we're back at it!

We officially start our football season! I'm looking forward to it. I'll be back on the sidelines coaching my son, Kameron. This year we'll be playing in the 10 and under division.

Last year, we finished with 9 wins and 2 losses. We made it to the championship game only to lose to a team that we had beaten earlier in the season. I look forward to the challenges that come with coaching. I'll be the first to admit that I wasn't interested in coaching when I first started. I was a player. I put everything into playing every game like it was my last. I had a passion for the game. My first love.

How do you coach someone to do THAT?

You can't. You accept the kids for who they are. While it has been a pleasure coaching Kameron...and now watching his younger brother, Brandon (he plays for the 6 and under team)...I know that no kid can be the player that you were. You can only hope that they develop skills and a love for the game. The rest will take care of itself.

As a team we have some unfinished business to take care of. It hurt to get to the championship game and lose. The tough thing about sports is that you can't just pick up where the previous season ended. It doesn't work that way. The hard work, blood, sweat, and tears start all over again.

So how do you bounce back and get back to the championship game and win it all??

Check back with me in November and I'll tell you how we did it!

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

North Carolina Eliminates Unemployment Benefits


from www.http://talkingpointsmemo.com

RALEIGH, N.C. (AP) — With changes to its unemployment law taking effect this weekend, North Carolina not only is cutting benefits for those who file new claims, it will become the first state disqualified from a federal compensation program for the long-term jobless.

State officials adopted the package of benefit cuts and increased taxes for businesses in February, a plan designed to accelerate repayment of a $2.5 billion federal debt. Like many states, North Carolina had racked up the debt by borrowing from Washington after its unemployment fund was drained by jobless benefits during the Great Recession.

The changes go into effect Sunday for North Carolina, which has the country’s fifth-worst jobless rate. The cuts on those who make unemployment claims on or after that day will disqualify the state from receiving federally funded Emergency Unemployment Compensation. That money kicks in after the state’s period of unemployment compensation — now shortened from up to six months to no more than five — runs out. The EUC program is available to long-term jobless in all states. But keeping the money flowing includes a requirement that states can’t cut average weekly benefits.

Because North Carolina leaders cut average weekly benefits for new claims, about 170,000 workers whose state benefits expire this year will lose more than $700 million in EUC payments, the U.S. Labor Department said.

Lee Creighton, 45, of Cary, said he’s been unemployed since October, and this is the last week for which he’ll get nearly $500 in unemployment aid. He said he was laid off from a position managing statisticians and writers amid the recession’s worst days in 2009 and has landed and lost a series of government and teaching jobs since then — work that paid less half as much. His parents help him buy groceries to get by.

“I’m just not sure what I’m going to do,” said Creighton, who has a doctorate. “What are we to do? Is the state prepared to have this many people with no source of income?”

With the changes to North Carolina law, state benefits will last three to five months — at the longer end when unemployment rates are higher. Qualifying for benefits becomes more difficult. Weekly payments for those collecting the current maximum benefit of $535 drop to $350, falling from the highest in the Southeast to comparable with neighboring states.

Republican leaders who control the General Assembly sought an exception to the federal law two months before voting to change unemployment benefits. Congress last year allowed Pennsylvania, Indiana, Arkansas and Rhode Island to proceed with cuts to weekly benefits that their legislatures had approved for after the expected expiration of federal benefits, which later were extended.

North Carolina’s request was never acted on.

Other states this year cut unemployment benefits and restricted eligibility, but none included drops in weekly benefits, said George Wentworth of the National Employment Law Project, a worker-advocacy group.

All states are aware of the no-reduction provision, said Doug Holmes, who heads the National Foundation for Unemployment Compensation & Workers’ Compensation, which represents businesses on unemployment insurance issues.

“Many of them considered doing something that would reduce the weekly benefit amount, but for whatever reason chose not to take the step of enacting legislation,” he said. “But North Carolina also had one of the biggest problems.”

Twenty states carry such federal debt. The Labor Department declined to comment on North Carolina’s looming situation but said no other state is considering changing benefits in a way that would imperil U.S. help.

Supporters of the new North Carolina law say the reduced benefits and increased business taxes are necessary to repay the federal debt — the third-largest in the country.

Labor groups, Democratic congressmen and the state NAACP want to delay the cuts until the federal program expires in January, but lawmakers and GOP Gov. Pat McCrory have refused.


Delaying would burden businesses and potentially increase the debt, said Rep. Julia Howard, R-Davie. The cuts also will push people to find work faster, then move to a better job as the economy improves, she said.

“It may not be the job that you want or your career for the rest of your life. But to take a job, get back into the job market,” Howard said.

Opponents who have staged protests nearly every week against Republican policies say lawmakers are slashing a safety net for the poor while corporations and the wealthy benefit.

Overall, the changes will mean $3.6 billion in total benefit cuts and higher costs to employers through 2017, according to the General Assembly’s fiscal research office. Benefit cuts on the jobless make up 74 percent of that figure. The accelerated target for repaying the federal debt, which fell to $2.1 billion in June, is sometime in 2015 rather than 2018.

North Carolina companies now pay an additional $42 per employee yearly to pay the debt. Without the changes, businesses’ unemployment insurance taxes would rise by $21 per employee every year until the federal debt is paid.

The state’s top business lobby, the North Carolina Chamber, primarily assembled the package of proposals that lawmakers adopted.

“You’ve got to pick a point in time where you solve the problem. They picked a point in time that allowed us the most time to pay the debt as quickly as we can and get a new program in place so that we can help people find work,” said Gary Salamido, the group’s top lobbyist. “It’s a very unfortunate circumstance for everybody involved.”

Wayne Bostick, 58, of Raleigh, said he lost his job in April 2011 and will lose extended federal benefits immediately. He said he earned about $700 a week in take-home pay, often working double shifts at a ConAgra Foods plant until it shut down after a fatal explosion. Since then, he said, the only jobs he’s found matching his skills pay less than $10 an hour and are outside Raleigh. Now he’ll have to revisit those or start a handyman business.

“I’d rather do that than bring home $200” after commuting and taxes, he said. “They are really putting the gun to your head now.”

I'm not sure what the lawmakers in that state where thinking about when they did this. Most people don't WANT to use unemployment. It is used to help them as they are between jobs. I have used it before and it helped sustain me financially while I was in between jobs for 3 months. It's definitely not enough money for me to live and pay bills. That said...North Carolina is going to feel the backlash from this. They were the first but other states will follow.