Friday, September 11, 2009

tha vent

This goes out to you...

This goes out to you...

And especially you...

From me to you...I'd like to tell you how I feel.

In my personal opinion... YOU AINT SHIT!

Yeah, I said it. If you don't like it, come see me. I ain't hard to find. This post is dedicated to all of those dead beat dads out there. Be a man.

For those of you who know me, I rarely call people out but you know that I'll tell you how I feel without holding my tongue. For those of you who know me, you know that fatherhood is something that I take very seriously. It is the most important job that I'll ever have. Having 3 sons, makes me want to work even harder at fatherhood because I know that they'll learn how to be a man from me. If I fail, I've failed those 3 little boys.

I don't understand how a man (and I use that term loosely for you bums) could help create a life but have nothing to do with it. You dead beat dads/baby daddies/sperm donars kill me. You would never seen an animal in the wild leave their young until they were able to fend for themselves. I don't understand your way of thinking. I won't attempt to. Some will say that they aren't in their child's life because of the strained relationship with the child's mother. That's bullshit. You can do anything that you want to do when it concerns your child.

Deadbeats are all around us. Take a look. You might be sitting next to one. You might be sleeping with one. If a man doesn't take care of his children...that are of his flesh and blood...he will do even LESS for you.

I can only shake my head at you fools. For example, I have a friend who hasn't seen her father in nearly 30 years. Thirty years? Are you serious? I have another friend who would chop his right arm off just to have a conversation with his daddy. He knows where he is but the father has denied for 36 years that my friend is his son. And then there's my niece's daddy. He's seen her twice in her 3 and a half years on this earth. Maybe he's spending time with the other kids that he had after she was born? Did i mention that he's only 23? Deadbeats. That's what y'all are.

Do me a favor...step up to the plate as a man and handle your business. For as great as children are...they didn't ask to come here. Just sending money isn't always the solution either. Spend time with your child. Bond with them. Children are smart. It won't take them long to realize what the rest of the world already knows...



Kingsmomma said...


I never vent on this topic b.c when I as a single mom do it, people tend to say that's why he isn't coming around. and just like you I think that reasoning is BULLSHIT.

I can't and won't ever understand how a man can know he has a child out there and not want to break his back trying tp support and provide for his child both mentally and finacially.

Those 3 words just sum up my attitude towards men like that...
great post.
This one inspires em to create a similar one

Susanne said...

YOU GO BOY!!! I love it!!! ;-)

Keith said...

The Father of my daughter's first child fits this category to a tee..
All I have to say to that is..Several years from now, if this boy leads the NBA in scoring or becomes the Mayor of this city,don't come sniffing around or
get on TV beating your chest about-
"That's my boy." or "That's my son"
You didn't claim him then..don't claim him now...Good Post Kyle.

Tha L said...

Oh yeah, Kyle, PREACH! But umm...i had a deadbeat mother...yep, those exist too. I give my boyfriend mad props for being such a good father to his kids. it's a beautiful thing, but it's just sad that so many men don't appreciate the blessings that they have.

Rashan Jamal said...

Nothing else to add to this but Word Up!!!

The Jaded NYer said...

I'll be sure and forward this to my biological father.

(luckily for my daughters their father is amazing. He was just a TERRIBLE husband lol)

12kyle said...

@ Kingsmomma
Please vent on it. You have every right to do it. You are the one who is dealing with that man. Not us. SO, you have a totally different perspective than anybody else.

@ Susanne
Thanks for comimg thru! 'Preciate tha luv!

@ Keith
That is so true. Why come around after the hard work has been put in by the mother and extended family and not you? I cant stand dudes like that.

@ L
Deadbeat mom? Say word! You are right, tho. I know people who will give anything to HAVE a child! These dudes really don't understand the blessing of fatherhood

@ Rashan
Thanks bruh!

@ Jaded Santana
Man, you're poor ex hubby can't catch a break. Lmao!

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Tell it like it is, Kyle!

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

Love this post...touched home and hit hard.

J All Day said...

Standing O!! You da shyt for giving it to em str8 Kyle, love u for that. My brother and his wife have three boys and they are his world! Mine too...I have two girls but when asked we quick to tell folk we got five kids. I love my newphews like my own although they nine hours away now that we've moved to Florida. They made the trip last year for the holidays last year and it was so so hard for me to see them go. Keep being the stand up dad and the stand up dude that you are...we need more like you and Justin.

MzInspiredMind81 said...

Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! You BROUGHT IT big bro. I'm just getting to read this but you are telling the truth and preaching the text. Maybe if it's ok w/ you, I'll email my kids 'father' a copy of this...God knows he needs to read it.

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Mizrepresent said...

Great post 12kyle. Preach! A lot of men don't realize how much their participation into their childs life is required, is needed, is favored. When a father removes himself for whatever reason from raising his children, he creates a void, and it's up to the mother and extended family to fill that void with love and direction. I tell my son on the daily...don't let what your father did to you determine your destiny...your destiny, your path is your own. I thank you and men like you for leading by example.