Thursday, October 7, 2010

feelin ya self

I found this article online the other day. Very interesting. Tell me what you think...

Most of you can probably relate to this situation. You spot someone extremely attractive and then you spark up a conversation with them. Within a few minutes, you immediately realize that this person thinks highly of themselves. Yes, the arrogance of the person is so overwhelming you are stunned they even notice you standing there.

Everyone knows that having a good self-esteem is absolutely mandatory for dating with no drama. It’s also important to have a health dose of humility! No one wants to sit through a complete self-love fest between someone and their over inflated ego.

I’m certainly guilty of taking confidence too far, but what do you do when you meet someone who is a little too arrogant? If that is the only thing that is really causing you apprehension, can it be a deal breaker?

Have you ever dated someone with too much confidence or do you think there is such a thing?

The other day I read somewhere that women aren’t attracted to men who doubt themselves. Do you think that women contribute to the rampant arrogance of men? Do men also get turned off by a woman who is not confident?

When do you think confidence crosses over to cockiness? Which one to you think you are?


Lady K said...

Man! Where do I begin? There's so much I can say but I'd rather hit three points... A man being arrogant is definitely a deal breaker because for some reason that ego rolls over into the relationship. I can't do it.

Women aren't attracted to men who doubt themselves... I can't agree with this one. Everyone is human and if a person doesn't doubt themselves on occasion I would have need to worry. If he's constantly doubting himself then yeah I'd have to rethink it but doubting themselves on occasion means you're human and not a robot.

I think I'm confident. I'm not one to focus on me. I assess what I need to change and then do it. once that's done then I go to the next thing wrong. It takes so much time and effort to be a better person. I truly don't think I'm over confident but I have enough confidence in myself to know if I partner with someone it will be a partnership and NOT a dictatorship.

Swtstiletto said...

Loaded questions Well, I believe arrogance has very little to do with other people, so woman can't be held responsible for a man's arrogance because I believe it's a mostly self-imposed characteristic.

Arrogance is a huge deal-breaker as far as I'm concerned. I enjoy interactions with people who are naturally inquisitive and love to learn, willing to share and engaged in the world beyond themselves. Willingness to be vulnerable and humility are major for me, and arrogance is the polar opposite.

I think most confident and mature men probably find lack of confidence in a woman unattractive. But there is a thin line between healthy confidence and over confidence, and crossing that line could pose an issue in relationships.

I believe I have a healthy level of confidence. I also think I have a great level of self-awareness that keeps me humble and grounded...far away from arrogance.

CurvyGurl ♥ said...'s arrogance is subjective, but most certainly a lack of confidence is a turnoff. I tend to believe those who are so outrageously arrogant are some of the most insecure people out there.