it takes time

At the age of 18, I had the world figured out!

I knew it all

Or at least I thought I did.

I listened to my parents and did not stray far from their teachings. But in my mind...I was GROWN. It was time for me to live the life that I wanted to live. I was in college and I was ready to take the world by storm.

A funny thing happened between 18 and 22...I experienced life. I grew up even more than before. I still thought that I knew it all.

By 30, I had truly experienced so many things that I was in position to REALLY know it all.

As I slide toward my 40th birthday in December, I realize what I should have learned as a teen...what I should have learned at 18...I don't know it all. Life's experiences help mold us into who we are. Through those experiences we gain wisdom. I'm sure you thought you knew it all at one point in time. Just be glad that you got a chance to live long enough to learn more.

too old or too young???

Age ain't nuttin but a number...

Well...that's what they've always told us. But is it just a number or does it really matter?

I was having a discussion with a blog crew member who asked about how we handle the age difference between us and our mates. Society tells you that you should be involved with someone who is close to you in age. But sometimes that just doesn't happen that way.

For example, one of my childhood friends is 35, single, no kids, and college educated. He is not interested in being married right now. He's too focused on his career. I always tell him that he's gonna be that dude who gets married at 45 but his wife will probably be 25! LOL. I know that he's gonna marry a woman younger than him. There's nothing wrong with that. Personally, I couldn't do it but what do I know.

If the roles were reversed and a 45yr old woman married a 25 yr old man, society would call her a "cradle robbin cougar." Is that fair? No...but that's a double standard that we live with.

Personally, I've never dated a woman more than 6 yrs younger than me. Never dated a woman more than 3 yrs older than me. I guess it just kinda worked out that way. What about you? What is the biggest age difference that you've had?

Would you date/marry somebody more than 10 yrs older or 10 yrs younger than you?

Hollatchaboi!