Friday, May 15, 2009

watchwhutusay2me


If you've ever read this blog, you'll learn one thing about me...I'm very careful with words. I always have been. It's a trait that I learned from my Dad. You have to be careful about what you say, how you say it, and more importantly...how it can be interpereted.

Case in point. The NBA Playoffs are in full swing right now. Teams are doing whatever they can to win and move toward winning the championship. Sometimes peoples emotions can get the best of them. And sometimes feelings...and words can change things. In the series between the Dallas Mavericks and the Denver Nuggets, the competitive forces spilled off the courts and things got crazy off the court. After getting beat by Denver on a last second shot, the Mavs were distraught. They complained to the refs about the Denver's "rough play" and their tactics. After the game, the Mavericks owner, Mark Cuban, was furious. If you know anything about Cuban, you'll know that he's a man who doesn't hold his tongue. Cuban, a self made billionare, is very competitve. Feeling the frustrations of a tough playoff loss, Cuban said something that he would later regret saying.


As Cuban was walking toward the Mavericks locker room where he was headed to see his players, he came upon some fans. Some of the fans were Maverick fans...and some were Denver Nuggets fans. One of the Nuggets fans that he walked past was the mother of the Nuggets starting power forward Kenyon Martin. Cuban should have just walked past the lady because she didn't say anything to him. But he opened his mouth. According to reports, he said to her..."Your son is a punk! That team is a bunch of thugs!!!"

Then he stormed off.

Hold up!!! Did you just tell that woman that her son is a punk and a thug? Are you kidding me????

I can understand being frustrated but that was out of line. That was ignorant. I have a problem with the whole situation. Here's my take...

In my humble opinion, the word "thug" gives off an extreme negative image. Growing up, a thug was somebody who'd beat you up and take your money...or somebody who'd hide in an alley and steal an old lady's purse. Nowadays, the term "thug" means something totally different. I think "thug" is the new way of saying the N word. Before you start thinking that the last statement was racist, I've heard white, black, and hispanic people use that term in that way. And that is my perception of the word. It's a "cleaner" way of saying the N word (and I'm not gonna talk about the use of the N word b/c that's another subject for another day). Do I think Cuban is racist? I dunno. I doubt it. But I don't know the man.

Secondly, Kenyon's mom had nothing to do with what happened on the court. Why even bring her into it?


Thirdly, that was very cowardly. As a man, you say what you have to say about another man...to his face. Mark Cuban is about 5-9. Kenyon Martin is 6-10. He could probably break that dude in half if he wanted to. He would have never called Keyon Martin a thug or a punk in his face.

Lastly, he crossed the lines. He later apologized and offered to take Martin and his family out to dinner. He even offered his family a suite at the Mavericks Arena. Too little...to late. Let's take it away from the NBA and put it in perspective. What if you were leaving work and your supervisor walked up to your mom, who came to your job to see you, and called you a punk or a thug...or worse? Let's just say that he had better be glad that he didn't say it in front of MY mom. He would have got his ass kicked!

16 comments:

Cynthia said...

Okay! Seriously

BorednTalkative said...

I heard about that on another blog. I understand being frustrated because you're team lost but there was no reason for him to come at that's man's mom like that. He needs to learn that sometimes, it's best to hold your tongue. If that was my mum there would have been hell to pay.

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

*with a puzzled/dazed expression on my face*

Not sure what he tried to accomplish with that. Wonder if the NBA will try to fine him? People have to realize your mouth WILL get you into trouble, no matter how much money you have.

The Dreamy One said...

I totally agree with u! That was downright disrepectful and not cool at all.

People need to think before they act!

Pigskin Loving Lady said...

I couldn't agree with you more!

Smarty Jones said...

*puzzled look*
OK, so this whole time, I thought that he cursed the woman or really disrespected her to the point where he needed his ass kicked.
While it was a punk move on Cuban's part to tell Martin's mom he was a thug, I don't see what the problem is. I think you're reading too much into this whole "thug" thing.
I LOVE words. I work with them on a daily basis and I understand their power. I don't think calling someone a thug is in anyway comparable to the word nigger/nigga or any of it's derivatives.
*side note* I will never refer to nigga/nigger as "the n-word" because it diminishes its power. You never hear Jewish people referring to the word kike as the "k-word" or Latino people saying "the s-word" or "the w-word" in reference to spic and wetback. They're all offensive.
And I wonder if referring to "thug" as "the new way of saying nigger" is going on a bit of a witch hunt.
Yea, Cuban's a sore loser, he always has been. Most men who suck at sports are. He doesn't understand that you win some and you lose some. He's used to buying everything he wants and he couldn't buy that game.
So please, let's not make a mountain out of a mole hill with this "your son is a punk ... they're all a bunch of thugs" thing because if we're being honest, if we saw these dudes on the street in their regular clothes, they would look like thugs.
Chris Rock had a joke one time that you can't tell the good black folks from the bad ones because we all dress alike. It is so true.
Let the criticism begin! LoL.

Keith said...

Mark Cuban is over the top all the time. Do you know another owner of ANY sports team that acts the way he does? He's 51 years old..he needs to start acting like an adult and not a college frat boy.

If I was Kenyon Martin, Mark Cuban couldn't offer me anything..That was way out of line. Cuban thinks he can buy his way out of his bad behavior. He can't all the time.

I used to find him amusing..Now I find him annoying.

dessex said...

Yeah I thought Cuban was way out of line. To approach someone mother and call her son a thug was wrong. I woulda slap the white of that man.

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

So uncalled for....it's a game. Mark needs to put on his big boy boxers and get a grip. Sheesh!

Eb the Celeb said...

I agree that thug is the new N word!

Great post lil one..lol

Oyin said...

Can you really believe that some "youngins" see the word *THUG* as a possitive statement??

dejanae said...

so unecessary

Angel said...

There was no need to bring someones mum into this!

Very silly man

Tha L said...

Aww hell naw. Yeah Kyle, he would've definitely been in for an ass kickin. First by my mom, and then by ME! Some shit is just not OK.

ShellyShell said...

He apologized in his blog! That to me is some real beyatch shyt! He was man enough to look Kenyon's mom in her face and say that then he should have been man enough to apologize to her face and his!

I don't have that much restraint I would have beat a few billion out of his azz!

Rich Fitzgerald said...

Whatup kid! Just passing through to wish you a happy holiday.