tha vent

This goes out to you...

This goes out to you...

And especially you...

From me to you...I'd like to tell you how I feel.

In my personal opinion... YOU AINT SHIT!

Yeah, I said it. If you don't like it, come see me. I ain't hard to find. This post is dedicated to all of those dead beat dads out there. Be a man.

For those of you who know me, I rarely call people out but you know that I'll tell you how I feel without holding my tongue. For those of you who know me, you know that fatherhood is something that I take very seriously. It is the most important job that I'll ever have. Having 3 sons, makes me want to work even harder at fatherhood because I know that they'll learn how to be a man from me. If I fail, I've failed those 3 little boys.

I don't understand how a man (and I use that term loosely for you bums) could help create a life but have nothing to do with it. You dead beat dads/baby daddies/sperm donars kill me. You would never seen an animal in the wild leave their young until they were able to fend for themselves. I don't understand your way of thinking. I won't attempt to. Some will say that they aren't in their child's life because of the strained relationship with the child's mother. That's bullshit. You can do anything that you want to do when it concerns your child.

Deadbeats are all around us. Take a look. You might be sitting next to one. You might be sleeping with one. If a man doesn't take care of his children...that are of his flesh and blood...he will do even LESS for you.

I can only shake my head at you fools. For example, I have a friend who hasn't seen her father in nearly 30 years. Thirty years? Are you serious? I have another friend who would chop his right arm off just to have a conversation with his daddy. He knows where he is but the father has denied for 36 years that my friend is his son. And then there's my niece's daddy. He's seen her twice in her 3 and a half years on this earth. Maybe he's spending time with the other kids that he had after she was born? Did i mention that he's only 23? Deadbeats. That's what y'all are.

Do me a favor...step up to the plate as a man and handle your business. For as great as children are...they didn't ask to come here. Just sending money isn't always the solution either. Spend time with your child. Bond with them. Children are smart. It won't take them long to realize what the rest of the world already knows...


YOU AINT SHIT!

time4acap

There comes a time for CHANGE

And I ain't talking about Prez O...

I think it's time for a change in the laws.

I would like to institute a salary cap...kinda like the NBA...on child support.

There should be a cap on the maximum amount that one can receive for child support despite of their parents earnings. Let me preface my comments by saying that this post ain't about those dead beat dads (baby daddy's) who pay little or nothing towards child support.

This post is for those "high priced babies." You know...the ones who costs more than my kids and your kids. The kids who are born to these celebs who need "special treatment" as a result of a divorce settlement or paternity test. In July, a judge ruled that the hip hop star NaS would have to pay his ex-wife, singer Kelis, nearly 40k/month in "support" (30k in spousal support and 9k in child support). Are you kiddin me? 40k per month? That's 480,000 a year. During their divorce proceedings, Kelis told the judge that she had not received any money from NaS during her pregnancy and she "only made nearly 21k per month." Kelis, who recently gave birth to the couples first child, asked the judge to make sure that she nor the child would not have to have a change in their lifestyle.

The judge ruled in her favor and granted that NaS pay her 9k a month for their child.

I have a HUGE problem with this. Kelis is not the first celebrity to cash in the child support dollars. Kim Porter, former model and the mother of 3 children to mogul Puff Daddy, cashed in for nearly 40k/month per child a few years ago. Porter and Puffy were never married. Fashion mogul Kimora Lee Simmons receives more than 100k/month from her ex husband hip hip mogul, Russell Simmons for their 2 daughters.

I think these amounts are insane. I understand that the "child support" numbers are determined by how much their fathers earn. I don't think any judge would ask NaS, Puffy, or Russell Simmons to pay "child support" that they couldn't afford to pay. I also understand that 40k per month for a multi-millionaire is like us paying 40 bux a month for a credit card. Do you really think that money is being used to "support the child?" Do the kids need Cristal in their Captain Crunch? Do the kids need platinum pampers? Do the kids need to be driven to school in a Bentley? What happens when these dudes don't earn this kinda money any more? Will these women still have the money that they should have set aside for the kids? Hell no

I'll be the first to admit that I don't know Kim Porter personally. However, I have run in the same circle as Ms Porter and we've been in some spots here in Atlanta. I don't know what she does with her money but I find it every time I've seen her...she and her girlfriends are pissy-drunk. I wouldn't call buying out the bar at a club a sound investment. But hey...that's just me.

I hereby propose salary cap on "child support." The new cap number is 7k per month. That is the max no matter how much the parent earns.

I think the cap is necessary because...quite frankly...if you can't raise a child on 84,000 per year...you prolly shouldn't have kids. If you can't raise a child on 84k, send em to me...I'll take care of em and you send ME the 84k.