whaaaaaaat????

EDITOR'S NOTE...

THE FOLLOWING POST IS A RE-POST FROM 2008. THE POST IS FICTIONAL. IT WAS WRITTEN TO DISPLAY MY SKILLZ WITH A PEN. AND IT WAS ALSO WRITTEN TO SHOW HOW WE CAN EASILY BE OVEREXPOSED BECAUSE OF SOCIAL MEDIA NETWORKS...

You better watch what you say and what you do
Cause you never really know who got they eyes on you
They be plotting, scheming, eyeing, scoping
Waiting for the day they get you out in the open
You better watch what you say and what you do
Cause sometimes it's hard to tell what's fake and what's true
They plotting, harassing, scheming when they spot you
One wrong move homeboy and then they got you

Little Brother (What They Do)


It started with an email.

The email read... "Hello Kyle. I've been reading your blog for a few months now but I've never commented. Just wanted to let you know that I enjoy your work and the vibe on your blog. Candi "

I responded...just as a do to almost everybody..."Thanks for reading. Thanks for coming thru. It's ok to comment...we don't bite."

I was glad that she reached out to me. I didn't think much about it until she commented on my blog 3 days later. I greeted her as I do everybody when they first make a comment on my page. "Welcome to the 12th Planet. Make sure that you come back. We have a good time over here. We're here every day..." (you know the rest...LOL). Later that day, she sent me another email to thank me for responding to her comment. In the email, she also let me know that she also lived in Atlanta. I thought that was cool b/c I like to know where all the local bloggers are so that we can co-ordinate the upcoming ATL blogger event. Nevertheless, I would get emails from Candi for next month. I'd usually get a few a week. Nothing big. Just chit chat. I found her to be very cool. She was a hip hop head and a sports fan like me. That's mostly what we'd talk about. I made nothing of it. I viewed her as a friend.

One day I received a friend request on Facebook from Candi. I accepted without hesitation. The next day, I received an email letting me know that she was following me on twitter. No problem for me. It was innocent in my eyes. A few days later, I received an email from Candi that said..."Hey, I know that you're in marketing. I need some help with a business plan that I have developed for my company. Can we meet for lunch. My treat. And yes...I'll pay you for your services. Here's my number (404) xxx-xxxx. Send me yours and we can meet at Nan in midtown for lunch."

I accepted without hesitation. Who wouldn't want some additional cash? I'm all about that paper. LOL. Anyway, we agreed to meet at Nan on a Friday afternoon. As soon as I walked in the restaurant, she was there to greet me with a hug. Candi was cuter than her profile picture. As we waited for our table, she told me how nice my suit looked. After we grabbed a table, I reviewed her plan and made some suggestions. We talked about the Falcons and the Hawks. Then, she asked if we could hang out again. "Yeah. You bring a date and I'll bring Mrs12 and we can kick it." She laughed and said that she wanted to hang with just me. That was the sign to me that something might be wrong but I brushed it off. We left the restaurant and agreed that we'd keep in touch. I told my boy Clark about her b/c I had planned to introduce him to her since they are both single. Well, I got an email from her at 3:12 am that said that she enjoyed lunch and she wanted to see me again.

I read the email on my blackberry the next morning. I ignored it. Then later on that day, I got a phone call from her while I was at Kameron's football practice.

"Hey. Did you get my email?"

"Yeah. I did. Candi, you know that I am married. You've read my blog. I'm all about my wife and my sons. I think you're cool. I dunno what's going on in your head...but I don't get down like that. You feel me?

"Yeah. I understand." Click. She hung up.

Three days later, I get an email from Candi that caught my eye. Well...the subject line said it all...YOU AINT SHIT!!!!!! I read the email where she accused me of leading her on. She called me a dog. She said that I was a womanizer. She said that she was gonna get on my blog and tell the world what kinda person I was. I read it and laughed my head off!!!! Everybody who knows me know that I'm drama free. I deleted the email. The next day I see her BMW in the parking lot next to my office. How did she know where I worked? Then, she kept calling my cell phone and hanging up. I'm thinking..."what the hell is wrong with her?"

I called her the next day. She didn't answer so I left her a voicemail. "Candi, I dunno what kind of games you're playing but I don't play games. You need to fall back. Or else!"

No response from her. In fact, I didn't hear anything for a week. Then, I get an email from her at 8:30 pm. I was leaving practice with Kameron. The email read...

"How would you like it if I told your wife about us? BTW...you have nice house. I like the black shutters on the white house. Maybe I should go and ring the doorbell? I know that your wife is home b/c I saw her with your sons in the yard earlier today."

How the fuck did I get here??????

tales of a 7th grade nothing

Social media works

Well...most of the time it does.

I am a self proclaimed "social media mogul." From blogger to twitter to facebook to blackberry messenger...I enjoy it all. I love connecting with people. It has become a big part of what I do. As a married, father of 3...I understand my limitations. I keep it friendly with everybody. However, I understand that everybody doesn't have the same intentions.

That said...

Peep this Facebook conversation that I recently had with a woman who I went to elementary school with. The woman sent me a friend request. I accepted it. I posted on her wall something brief like... "Hello ____ ! How are you doing? It's been a minute. Hope all is well. Take care."

Instead of posting on my wall, she sent me a message in my inbox. Here is the convo...


Her: How are you?

Me : I'm gooooood! I can't complain. How have you been?

Her : I been Bless by God Just Waiting on That new Husband and you

Me : Waiting on a new husband? Nothing wrong with that! I hope it happens for you sooner than later :)

All is well. I'm grown now. LOL. I married (9yrs) my college sweetheart and we have 3 sons (10, 7, 3) and we live in Atlanta. I've been here about 14 yrs. Life is good. I can't complain. I still get home from time to time. My parents are there and I love going home

*** I felt the need to put this out there at this point b/c I could see where this was going. LOL ***


Her : Thats Of blessing to know that you is still holding on no matter what.My husband got 25 years up the road for drugs .so he told me to go on with my like.I did wanted to wait on him but he said no don't do that.

Me : Wow! Sorry to hear that. At least he told you not to wait for him. It says alot about you the fact that you wanted to wait for him.

Her : Yes it does but the problem is i dont want to move on its been about 2years now

Me : Wow. I can dig that. That's true love and dedication. But at some point in time...you have to live your life

Her : Yes i will one day.When god seen him looking for me i will

Me : That's true

Her : So i see that you is tired up a little.You is a good person to talk to .If it not a problem can we talk on the phone sometime because you can't talk to everybody about things no more.

Me : Sorry bout that. I was writing and got side tracked. Thank you. Some people say that I'm easy to talk to so I appreciate the compliment

*** peep how I avoided the question...I'm such a nice guy. I really could have told her to kick rocks at this point. ***


Her : Ok so is it ok for us to chat over the phone

Me : Nah. You can email me. That's easier for me

*** Obviously this is a lie. I'll give anybody my number. Hell, most of you who are reading this have my number! LOL ***


Her : Ok if you say so and i am not good with texting

Me : Cool!

Her : I wish that i could here your voice just ones

*** I don't respond. By this time I'm too busy laughing ***

Then, she emails me again 10 mins later...

Her : You make me smile.Why I can't get the number

Me : It's nothing personal. I don't give my number out. I just don't. I'm a happily married man and I choose not to do that. It cuts down on confusion. Sometimes words...phrases...can be easily misconstrued. I don't need that in my life. Everybody doesn't have your best interest at heart. Why give my number out...would I want my wife doing the same? Nope. You're a woman, so I know that you can appreciate that. Like I said, it's nothing personal. Emails is how I communicate with most people. I know you understand that

Her : Yes i do Its all good sweetie

*** By this time, I'm dying laughing and telling my friends on twitter about it. I can't figure out why this woman is going in like this. I had not seen her since we were 12. And she was 8 months PREGNANT at the time from a 23 yr old man! I shouldn't be laughing at this time...but I'm rollin ***

Then she emails me 5 mins later

Her : your or going to come to Florence SC and let me see you and make you laugh and go out for lunch or something like that

*** I'm in tears on the floor laughing. I don't even respond ***

I guess she got the picture. I think SHE deleted ME as her Facebook friend. LOL

The next time I have a stalker, please let her be able to spell.

Oh yeah...and can I get a fine stalker and not one that looks like somebody's grandmother??? Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

IT overload

Sup fam?

First...I wanna thank errrybody for their comments, concerns, thoughts, prayers, and threats to do bodily harm (lol) from yesterday's post. I have to say that I was flattered at your concerns for ya boy and my family.

Yesterday's post was totally FICTION. Not true...at all. It was a scenario that I created. Now...before you get mad lemme explain my thought process.

I actually got the idea from a statement that was made by my girl Jaded NYer. A few days ago, she made mention of an ex that found her online. She mentioned that she might be "overexposed". That got me to thinking. Although I don't have a myspace page (too old for that...lol), I have a blog...I'm on twitter, facebook, AIM, BBerry Messenger, etc. Much like you, I have divulged a great deal of personal information to those of you who read what I write. Scary when you think about it. It'd be cool if it were only read by the 25-30 people who comment each day. But I dunno how many people actually read this blog. In these days of information technology, we are all overexposed to some degree.

That said...I don't live in fear of somebody stalking me. I just don't. I ain't that important. LOL. However, I am concerned when I think about some of my sisters who could run into an overzealous "STAN" or "CANDI". I did this post just to show that sometimes we have to be careful about the information that we put out there. I don't think anybody should sensor their blogs but you should be careful about how you "put stuff out there". Information may not always be received the way that you intend it to be received.

Once again, thanks for your concern. I hope that I didn't raise your blood pressure yesterday. LOL. I think even Keisha the Kitten was on the verge of cussin'. LOL. And I believe that all of you who stated that you would "get busy" to defend me!!! LOL. Y'all are ride or die for real!!! Good to know that y'all got my back. Trust me...i'd do the same for y'all.

Lastly, if "Candi" had rang the doorbell to my house...that would have been the last doorbell that she would have touched in her life. Mrs12 would have whupped her azz on the spot. LMAO!!!

Have you ever been stalked, blog stalked, or other wise bothered by someone of the opposite or same sex?

Hollatchaboi!!!!