Tuesday, July 31, 2012

off tha dome

random thoughts...

i'm thinking about bringing the beard back. not like James Harden but i might let it grow

not sure why Mitt-i-ful Romney decided to speak before the NAACP. what was he looking to accomplish? did he think everybody would hit the floor and do the 'lectric slide and the cha cha slide with him?

Family Guy is maaaad funny

i was jumping around like i won the nba championship when i heard that DirecTV had removed EBT from my tv.

i know it's not cool to talk bad about the dead...but if I was near Joe Paterno...i'd slap those glasses off his face

it's almost time for my girlfriend to come back. i've missed her

have you ever thought a piece of your hair was very light...based on the way the light was shining on it. then you realize it's a gray hair

why do you have to tell people on airplanes SEVERAL times to turn their phones off before take off

speaking of planes...I took this pic in the Jacksonville airport last week

why are most items on infomercials advertised at a price that ends in .99 cents?

favorite ice cream...strawberry...then butter pecan. yours?

sometimes i wonder how we made it without cell phones

speaking of phones...look at what i saw yesterday. didn't know these things were still around

life is good...life is good...life is good

school starts for the kids in 2 weeks. damn, where did the summer go?

i told my oldest son that i would give him a hooptie when he's in high school. he said..."Dad, what's a hooptie?"

i'm going to try to write more. i promise. thank you for reading. i appreciate it

i wish i had time to read a book.

remember the first day of school when you rocked the new gear? i always had to rock something fresh

i year ago today i was sitting on a beach in Jamaica. today, i'm sitting in this Georgia heat.

you ever have a friend who will say the shit that you WON'T say but THINK. well, i have 2 friends like that. i love em for that. i'm  not that outspoken.

some days i like facebook...some days i don't

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Wednesday, July 25, 2012


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Tonight's topic - SPORTS WRAP UP. We will discuss the Penn State scandal, NBA Free Agency, NFL, MLB, and the Olympics. Don't miss it!!! 

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Friday, July 20, 2012


The following post can be found on http://positive-thoughts.typepad.com/positive-thoughts/page/2/

We always seem to want those things we don't have. Moreover, we are often convinced that if we had those things we want so badly, we would finally be happy.
Singles who want to be in a relationship often believe once they are in one they will finally be happy. Those in shaky relationships hope their relationship will work out, because having worked it out will finally make them happy.
"I will be happy when I am in love." "I will be happy when he/she does really loves me."  "I will be happy when I know he or she is committed to me."  "I will be happy when my husband/wife is more considerate."  Sound familiar?
The truth is that happiness is an attitude. It's not something created by outside circumstances, but instead is completely within your control.  This means that you can be happy regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.  You can be happy regardless of whether your relationship is working out or not.  If fact, if you cultivate happiness, your relationship will improve.
You will not get that deep sense of satisfaction and happiness you crave just by getting or improving a relationship.  Nothing will give you that sense of happiness, unless you cultivate it consciously.
Is the glass half empty or half full?  Life and relationships work better when the glass is half full.  Below are some simple yet specific steps you can take to cultivate happiness and see the glass half full, regardless of your relationship status.

1. Be grateful
Create a sense of gratitude for what you have, for what is working, for what is wonderful and sweet in your life.  A morning or evening gratitude list, written each day, can do wonders for helping you feel grateful.
2. Take care of yourself 
Identify the small things in life that make you feel good, and do one daily.  A short walk, a few minutes of writing in your journal, a short meditation, watching the sunset.  Whatever reminds you that you are a human being and not a human doing will improve your outlook on life.
3. Be creative
Creativity and self-expression generate happiness.  Schedule some creative time each day, even if it's just a few minutes of writing, painting, sculpting, etc.
4. Move
Moving our bodies generates feel-good hormones called endorphins.  Move a little every day to stay happy.
5. Get someone to take care of you
It feels good to be taken care of, even in small ways.  Get a massage, a manicure, someone to carry your groceries, launder your clothes, or fix something for you.
6. Read inspirational material
It helps to be reminded of positive thoughts and positive attitudes.  Get a small book of positive, inspirational thoughts and keep it by your desk.  Read one or two thoughts each day.
7. Contribute
Stand up for something that matters to you.  Contributing, making a difference feels good.  It boosts your self-esteem, your gratitude and feeling of well being.
8. Get some time
I know this one is hard, especially if you are a single parent.  But if you are determined, you can find some time every day to just be.  Make sure you do this - it will make a big difference in your ability to be happy.
9. Be in nature
Nature rejuvenates and restores the human spirit.  Whether your brand of nature is mountains or the ocean, give yourself the gift of visiting it frequently.
10. Be happy
No matter how many wonderful things you do to create a positive, happy, satisfied life, you could still end up unhappy.  Ultimately, happiness, gratitude, a feeling of satisfaction is a choice.  People often do not choose happiness.  Many feel refusing to be happy will somehow get them what whey want, like a child holding his breath.  Holding your breath will not get your what you want.  It is happiness that attracts.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012


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TOPIC - OFF THA DOME (Random Topics) co-hosted by ShellyShell.

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Monday, July 16, 2012

5 Things No One Tells You About Marriage

I found this article on my homegirl, Joslin's Facebook page. It was published by Lydia Netzer on www.huffingtonpost.com

Marriage is tough, sister. Some of this you know, like nixing the idea that towels will be folded a certain way, tolerating game night with the boys, or if you're a guy, maybe you've heard there will be love stories on your plasma TV. But it's tough in other ways that no one really talks about at weddings. Here are five tough things about marriage that every married person knows, along with how to be tough right back and kick ass anyway.
Marriage isn't fair. It's not equal. At any given time someone is getting more than their share of the good stuff, and someone is picking up more than their share of the crap end of the stick. This is just life -- it's not a perfectly balanced teeter totter, and it never will be. Surprise!
Think of a game of teeter totter where the goal is to stay balanced the whole time, with both people's toes touching. No one dips, and no one floats. Whenever someone starts to go up, the falling person whines and crabs about how unfair it is and the rising person feels guilty and nervous. Super fun, right? NO. The point of teeter totter is the joy of rising, the anticipation of falling, and the fact that you work together to keep the cycle moving.
So deal with it. Don't spend any time tallying up how much slack you're picking up so you can demand to be repaid. Just ride the flippin' teeter totter, do your part pushing, and trust your partner not to bump you off when you're on top.
My mother-in-law always says you can tolerate anything if you know when it will end. Marriage has no end unless one of you dies. But let's try not to look at the coffin as a finish line with a ribbon across it that you can joyfully burst.
Marriage is a permanent shift in paradigm. The vows say that two become one. Not two become two standing very very close together, with an eventual plan to disentangle if somebody starts to stink. This is a magic spell where you throw away the antidote, a surgical procedure where you toss out the instructions for reversing the operation, and decide to live and die that way. There's no being done. There's no exit.
Whatever you're doing to stay married, you're doing it every day, all the time. There are no vacations, no periods of time off for good behavior, no rest days. You're not looking at other dudes/girls ever, you're considering your spouse's needs before your own always, and the beauty of it is that taking a break from it wouldn't even be fun. You don't yearn to take a break from having a functional heart valve, or some time off from your left arm. You don't get tired of being able to see, or breathe. Marriage isn't like your favorite song, that you can only put on repeat for so long before even it starts to annoy you. Marriage is like oxygen, where taking a break from it starts to kill parts of your brain. Remember: dating was not fun. Fortunately, you don't have to do it any more.
There's no winning marriage. There are no medals. You can't even see how you rate compared to other married people, because there is no standardized test and no score. Being married is like running an endless race, and you can't see any of the other runners or any mile markers, and the only reason you know you're still in the race is that you haven't yet died.
You *can* compare your marriage to other people's marriages if you want to. But you can't ever tell if you're beating them, really. Maybe under all their fighting is a secret weirdly passionate love, or under all their peacefulness is a cold fish and a dissatisfied fisherman.
If you're lucky, you may someday hear a friend say, "You guys have such a strong marriage!" But then you have to wonder, strong compared to what? There are no inches, feet, yards. You can measure yourself against how good it might be, or will be. But you will never fully know you made it, and you'll never get a trophy or a prize.
Unfortunately for those of us who like to be perfect, marriage is one big "your mileage may vary." Sure there are some absolutes, but leading with "Don't kill each other" won't make for a very good wedding sermon.
For every engraving of the 10 commandments, there's a couple out there swinging into retirement. For every exhortation to be kind, there's some jackass calling his wife a cow and some bonehead that keeps tolerating it. I'm pretty sure no one has ever saved a marriage by slapping her husband in the head with a board and running off with the local insurance adjuster, but if you take a wide enough sample, lots of weird stuff falls within the range of normal.
Marriage is tough. It's endless, relentless, unfair, and there are no rules or rewards. But here's how to be tough enough for marriage: Answer to no one, and compare yourself to no one. Live for each other, and never stop. Embrace your spouse with such force that they become an extension of your own self, an extension you can never do without. Marriage is an opportunity to separate yourself from the rest of the world. To redefine happiness between you two, and live life your own way. When you've found the right girl or guy, everything that makes it tough to be married will make your marriage even tougher to break. Harden up. This is worth it. Get tough and be strong.

I've found this article to be very true. As this summer proceeds, we see more and more people getting married each weekend. But I think we all must be ready for EVERYTHING that comes with marriage. I ask people..."Are you ready for marriage?" Well...that's a loaded question because you may not know if you are ready for something that you have NO WORKING KNOWLEDGE about. 

Much like everything else in life...marriage is what you make it. I've never seen a flower grow that doesn't get water and sunlight. Translation...you have to put something IN a marriage to get something out of it. 

Wednesday, July 11, 2012


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Tuesday, July 3, 2012

what she wants in a man

Here is some interesting information from the good folks at Men's Health.com

Top 5 Personality Traits WOMEN want in a MAN

1. Sense of Humor (77%)
Being able to laugh at the stresses of this world is a must, according to the women on our panel. You get bonus points if you can make them laugh. Humor tells a woman that you can laugh at—read, handle easily—the many difficulties that life throws at you.

2. Intelligence (55%)
A worldy, interesting man is a man she likes to show off. Men who are take-charge problem solvers make women feel secure, and men who are always improving are never boring.

3. Passion (46%)
Why have women always melted for musicians? Because rock stars are passionate in public. Women like displays of passion because they're not accustomed to seeing them from men. Get passionate about something: kayaking, impressionistic art, barbecuing, or Habitat for Humanity. It's proof that you care for and about something beyond yourself.

4. Confidence (41%)
A man who feels secure in his own skin makes the woman he's with feel secure. By showing you can handle unfamiliar people or situations, you tell the woman in your life that she need not fear, either.

5. Generosity (38%)
This is more important to women over 35 than it is to those under that age. Generosity, however, doesn't just mean springing for dinner at a four-star. Your willingness to give your time and lend your ear is what women crave.

I think I think some validity to this list. I think ultimately most women...want a man who is a man. Does every man have these qualities? No...but most do. I think some women tend to settle for less and that's where the problem starts. But it's important for a man to show her these qualities. Too many men are busy being somebody who they aren't. Be who you are and show her who you are. And watch what happens...